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Pelicanbill
Posted: Saturday, March 31, 2012 1:57:11 AM

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Doh!! This ia an erotica site. However with my friends we talk about everything except sex. I find it so refreshing finding out how something
is done or is being handled in other countries from my own. I alsohave ben rather selective in my choice of friends and picked ones I think I will be able \to have intelligent conversations with,
so far. Thank you friends!!
honeyx
Posted: Saturday, March 31, 2012 5:42:27 AM

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When you meet someone for the first time whether in real life or on line.. time should be taken to get to know each other before jumping straight into bed ......... You wouldn't walk upto someone in a pub and talk like that so why do it on line....

It's all about respect

analbitch01
Posted: Saturday, March 31, 2012 7:17:18 AM

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Thats a very good question..... i prefer to be asked a million question than to jump into a sexual chat with a new add.
I believe ppl should take the time to get to know something about each other not like your dating but at least to find
a common interest.
SITTING
Posted: Saturday, March 31, 2012 7:34:00 AM

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You probably haven't your kind of people yet. While people do sometimes try to talk about sex, if you get past the horny exterior (!) they can handle normal conversations. Really, most people are NOT sex-addicts, it's just that the ones who do like sex-talk are generally the first to IM you.
playsit
Posted: Saturday, March 31, 2012 8:31:46 AM

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MarySweets wrote:


Mark clearly doesn't know that some of us do enjoy erotica, but it is rather boring to get some random chat request, click on it and the first thing is "I'm hot as hell, wanna cyber?" or "Describe to me your measurments, do you shave? What color is your pubes? etal" As I have stated I have a fiance that does know I'm on this site. However I rather be fucking in real life as opposed to doing it via the internet.

I'm happy to read erotic stories, yes talk about erotic clips, pictures, art, songs etc. However I have noticed I'm not the only member of Lush that doesn't enjoy being a cyber whore to entertain those requesting cyber chats.

Sure I might do it for two minutes or maybe five but while the person on the other end is wanking, I'm playing online scrabble.

PS Mr Mark clearly any adult can go on this site and not all of us are frigid we have standards. Some like to whore on here, while others enjoy intelligent chatter about other things. In the mean time I prefer to fucking with my fiance then boring cyber any day.


Well stated MS!

I have a wonderful relationship with my wife and I'm not here looking to cyber. Sometimes chats with my friends get a bit flirty and sometimes even teasingly hot, but I can't remember the last time I cybered with anyone. I enjoy reading and writing erotic stories, love pics, but the best thing abot this site for me is having like-minded friends I can chat with about almost anything.

Sometimes it might take a while, but you will eventually weed out guys like Mark and meet up with friends who are right for you Gianna. They are out there.
Guest
Posted: Saturday, March 31, 2012 8:36:18 AM

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playsit wrote:


Well stated MS!

I have a wonderful relationship with my wife and I'm not here looking to cyber. Sometimes chats with my friends get a bit flirty and sometimes even teasingly hot, but I can't remember the last time I cybered with anyone. I love the erotic stories and pics, but the best thing abot this site for me is having like-minded friends I can chat with about anything.

Sometimes it might take a while, but you will eventually weed out guys like Mark and meet up with friends who are right for you Gianna. They are out there.


Well said Sir. Go Bucks!
Guest
Posted: Saturday, March 31, 2012 2:53:49 PM

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If you walk up to a stranger in a bar and say, "I'm horny, wanna fuck?" it probably won't end well.
If you try a little light conversation first, anything could happen.

To avoid the lush equivalent of a kick in the slats, try a little chat and make a friend first. Or at least
read profiles and see if the person you are about to ask for a cyber, is into that.

I have a number of Lush friends that I can talk about sex too, and who enjoy my stories while I enjoy
their's, but we do talk about other things, including personal problems too. That's why they are Friends.

Lush is like real life, it's just more open about sex and things sexual, thats all. wave

DarkSide
Posted: Saturday, March 31, 2012 3:46:59 PM

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I have to admit, cyber actually makes me shiver. I used to do it years ago, when the internet was new...yes I meant the internet. We had to chat on IRC servers back then.

Anyway, I rarely chat to people on here through the chat system, I am here to read the stories, write them and appreciate other people's work. Some are just wonderful works of erotic literature. I do come across people that intrigue me and make me want to know more about them. I do email friends and there are one or two that I have formed an on-line understanding and relationship with. I would like to think we are friends, though we would probably never meet in real life.

I like being able to be honest with people I talk with...on all matters including sex.



I used to be a pervert. In here, I'm normal.
Sirene_Jaune
Posted: Saturday, March 31, 2012 10:10:24 PM

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After a few visits on lush I got a steady stream of "cyber" requests. So I added I wouldn't cyber with anyone. Just friendly chats for me.

It seems to have stopped them. I agree though you need to have a connection or at least have talked to a person for a while to feel comfortable to cyber.

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Daria - I don't think that's how you spell "uvula."

Axl - That's not "uvula."

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saracenrider
Posted: Sunday, April 01, 2012 6:58:11 AM

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Got to agree with you there. There's more to people than sex and erotica and it should be possible even in a site like this to be able to chat about the everyday and nothing.

I don't know about anyone else but it's the mundane details about a person that makes a relationship more intimate and when a relationship is more intimate the sex is more meaningful and fulfilling.
Guest
Posted: Monday, April 02, 2012 5:39:15 AM

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NatureBoy wrote:
I have to disagree, because I also have conversed with a few Lush friends where sex was not even touched. The only time we talk about sex is when we are sharing ideas for our erotic stories.

now this is what i'm talking about...
Screwdriver
Posted: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 5:26:12 AM

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I know many people have pointed it out but heres how I feel about all of this.

I have noticed before that people tend to talk about things in their current setting. I notice people talk about work alot at work, talk about music alot at band (I was a band kid in high school), and so on and so forth. I think its human nature to want to talk about things that you know people are interested in or involved in, it makes for easy conversation. Id love to talk to people at work about music but most of them wont understand what I am talking about (as in music performance) so I generaly default to work or small talk. This is why I believe we see alot of people talking about sex here.

Now that being said, you dont have to talk about sex here. Its just something alot of people like to talk about and most people here share similar interests.
Southern_Sass
Posted: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 5:38:11 AM

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Yes this is a sex site, so expect the sex chat requests BUT update your profile and clearly state what you are interested in, not interested in, what you are looking for...

You can also set your account so you have to open the chat requests, instead of them just popping up.

Don't be afraid to tell em no. Just my My 2 cents

Guest
Posted: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 6:48:58 AM

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Because psychologically speaking; sex is and always has been a permanent fixture on the brain.
Katy_go_go
Posted: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 7:12:16 AM

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It is erotic site and normaly people come here to talk about sex.I mostly like normal,casual aproach turning to a sexy conversation.
Guest
Posted: Friday, June 08, 2012 10:20:17 AM

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Wait! You can have sex here? I must be missing something. I'm typing, and typing isn't a sex act that I know of unless you can type with a nipple or a dick!

Seriously babe, this is an adult site for writers and readers of erotica. There are ways to change your settings so that people don't disturb you, and there's even a way to blcok someone. Familiarize yourself with the website and I bet you'l get the full experience you're looking for.

I have many friends here that have no interest in sex chat or cybering. A little flirting maybe, but nothing crazy. Of course, I'm very lucky to have some really good friends who are unbelieveable writers, and still haven't hinted they wanted anything more. Get yourself some classier friends.

There are plenty of them here.
Guest
Posted: Friday, June 08, 2012 1:18:40 PM

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What is this "sex" thing people talk about so much? clown
Sirene_Jaune
Posted: Saturday, June 09, 2012 9:59:24 PM

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I had one guy recently request to cyber sex, when I said no, he turned to ask if I would be willing to cyber via skype again I declined.

Finally he asked if I was willing to meet up with him to fuck. I don't even know the guy from a Adam and he had the hide to ask to meet up to fuck.

Even though I might bag out my other half, especially when my other half has had a bad day. Doesn't mean I'm going to cheat on him with some random guy.

I asked the guy if he read my profile where I state that I don't cyber sex but rather chat with other people who are looking for a friendly chat or to chat about their erotic stories. He confirmed he had but he didn't get it through his skull that no I don't cyber.

Well his reply was:

That I shouldn't be on here on LUSH if I didn't want people to request cyber fucking with me. I shouldn't even bother logging in on here and just go back to Facebook. Because and I quote

"This is a cyber sex site after all."


Uh mate the last I looked Lush is for Erotic STORIES Or Erotic discussing, not for cyber fucking. I'm not snooty when it comes to sex, in fact I enjoy writing about it and discussing it. However I don't go mentally mind fucking others on here. I find cyber sex to be boring, even web caming nor do I go and meet total strangers for romp sessions.

I go to Hellfire Club a few times a year and participate in activities there. So in no way am I against sex or erotica.

Sorry guys for posting this but I can't believe this guy couldn't take the hint no.

Just because I stood up to him and said I'm not interested he tells me to get off Lush because Lush is for cyber sex or hook ups.

I have talked to some rather interesting people on Lush who don't let sex be everything about them.

Still laughing that when you knock the people back for cybering that they Justify it by saying Lush is a sex site, well duh but it is for stories and discussion, not whoring around lol.

Axl - Take a look at our piercing menu.

Daria - I don't think that's how you spell "uvula."

Axl - That's not "uvula."

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Giesabrekk
Posted: Thursday, June 14, 2012 11:33:58 AM

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Always talk about sex? ... Fuck no!Lwinking
adele
Posted: Saturday, June 16, 2012 12:00:31 AM

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While I have nothing against talking about sex, or even cybering, I would appreciate if people would actually read a bio before asking a lot of stupid questions about my preferences, etc. I do expect a certain amount of advances when I go into the bedroom or the basement or the shack, as those are what those rooms promote. And yes, I do realize the avatar invites those advances. However, just like in the real world, no should mean no and if someone turns you down, MOVE ON!

There is no mark of self,
And no mark of others,
No mark of living beings,
And no mark of a life.


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Sirene_Jaune
Posted: Tuesday, June 19, 2012 12:44:02 AM

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adele wrote:
While I have nothing against talking about sex, or even cybering, I would appreciate if people would actually read a bio before asking a lot of stupid questions about my preferences, etc. I do expect a certain amount of advances when I go into the bedroom or the basement or the shack, as those are what those rooms promote. And yes, I do realize the avatar invites those advances. However, just like in the real world, no should mean no and if someone turns you down, MOVE ON!


Lapplause

Well Saidcheerleader

Axl - Take a look at our piercing menu.

Daria - I don't think that's how you spell "uvula."

Axl - That's not "uvula."

From: "Daria" episode "Pierce Me"
sexyeyes37
Posted: Tuesday, June 19, 2012 2:49:14 AM

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I have quite a few friends on here who I can have normal conversations with which I prefer.We talk about lot of different things.We all know what boundaries not to cross.

sexyeyes37
Sexyvonne
Posted: Wednesday, June 20, 2012 12:01:37 PM

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I am totally mystified why anyone would visit this site other than to talk/think about sex as a prelude or aid to masturbation or some other sexual activity! It is what Lush is FOR!!
beowulf69
Posted: Wednesday, June 20, 2012 12:19:03 PM

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Anyone with at least half a brain can see that it is a site about sex stories and has a Forum full of sex questions. Duh!

My first story for Lush is posted, The Goodbye Fuck.
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/straight-sex/the-goodbye-fuck.aspx
Dani
Posted: Wednesday, June 20, 2012 12:52:49 PM

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Well Lush is a sex-driven site. Pretty much everything here is based on sex, so naturally conversations are expected to revolve around sex.

However, some people assume that everyone wants to talk to them about sex... and even believe they're obligated to do so. They get all caught up in the sex aspect of Lush and lost in their own little fantasy world where everyone they encounter here wants them. But Lush is no different than real life. If someone approaches you, you reserve the right to reject their advances. Some people have a hard time accepting that and they get all butthurt about it. Some of us have managed to make some connections here that have nothing to do with sex, and people should just respect our right to do so.

Yes, this is an erotica site which gives us a chance to explore our sexual natures. However, sex isn't the only thing to talk about on here. And if sex talk is the only reason you come to Lush, or if that's all you're getting out of Lush, then you're really cheating yourself. My 2 cents



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Sexyvonne
Posted: Wednesday, June 20, 2012 1:06:44 PM

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I agree with some of that, in that you don't have to talk to people you don't want to. But if I want a general chat I will talk to my friends or visit a chat site. This is clearly a sex site and I only visit it for sexual, er, reasons...
Shylass
Posted: Wednesday, June 20, 2012 1:22:09 PM

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Sexyvonne wrote:
I agree with some of that, in that you don't have to talk to people you don't want to. But if I want a general chat I will talk to my friends or visit a chat site. This is clearly a sex site and I only visit it for sexual, er, reasons...


For some of us, Lush is multi-faceted. What do I get from it? I get answers to my questions, learn stuff I didn't know I wanted to ask (and stuff I never wanted to ask or know about), talk to some now pretty close mates, share my stories, get feedback on how to be a better writer, and there have been some days where I got all that and never even mentioned sex.

Lush is different things to different people, and with a site so rich in possibilities and resources, it would be foolish of us to expect all the users to be the same as each other, each requiring the same thing in the same way.

That's just what I think, anyway.


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crazydiamond
Posted: Wednesday, June 20, 2012 1:31:41 PM

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Shylass wrote:


For some of us, Lush is multi-faceted. What do I get from it? I get answers to my questions, learn stuff I didn't know I wanted to ask (and stuff I never wanted to ask or know about), talk to some now pretty close mates, share my stories, get feedback on how to be a better writer, and there have been some days where I got all that and never even mentioned sex.

Lush is different things to different people, and with a site so rich in possibilities and resources, it would be foolish of us to expect all the users to be the same as each other, each requiring the same thing in the same way.

That's just what I think, anyway.


Well put Shy!! Now stop typing and get back to our cam session gawwwwd! f-hihi
xx


Shylass
Posted: Wednesday, June 20, 2012 1:33:26 PM

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crazydiamond wrote:


Well put Shy!! Now stop typing and get back to our cam session gawwwwd! f-hihi
xx


I'm just inserting my double-ended dildo again - which hole do you want your end in?

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