So my girl and me havnt had sex in 6+ months now and we have only dated for a year. It was great at first and one day it all stoped. We were having sex 3 or 4 times a day. The problem I'm having is that there is a good reason why but I still feel like it eating at me and friends think its not right. My girl has a nerve problem that she was on med patchs for and they were stong drugs and her pain was coming back so instead of uping the dose she stoped using them and is dealing with the pain. Its not all the time but it comes in waves like it will be fine for 3 or 4 days and then her legs will hurt to the point of crying. I don't want her to give me oral or have sex with me if it hurts.

any ones 2 cents on this matter would be nice.

But lucky for me I have lush to take care of my dirty mind

Thanks its been hard and she was so good at it too but I'm hoping we can get her to a doctor and get this taken care of and maybe her sex drive back too. But for know I am the cuddle master .

I'm not sure that I can reply to this correctly, but here goes. To me this is more about love then about sex. Some people during their life are put in a position where they have to be caregivers, putting aside their own desires and needs to take care of their loved one. They don't want to be in that position but life has put them there and it is a terrible hard place to be in and quite frankly some people just can't do it. My heart is heavy for you and her. Is your love for her strong enough that you can do it? That is a very hard question and I in no way mean it to be rude or unsympathetic in any way, but it is the question you must answer for yourself. I met a man just recently who is a caregiver for his very sick wife. He told me they hadn't had sex for over 10 years. I patted his hand and said that must be very difficult. He smiled at me and said "Dear, you have no idea how good it was before she got sick." And you have that also. You said yourself it was great before. Perhaps it will be great again. Perhaps not. My eyes are full of tears for you both. Please know that my heart and many others here will be pulling for you. Let us help if we can.

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If you ignore beauty, you will soon find yourself without it.................Frank Lloyd Wright

I always practice obedience, when it's in my best interest.

I have been where your girl friend is. Hit by a drunk driver. It's a tough situation for you both. I know i wanted to climb the walls. My husband and I would do body massages and touching instead of oral and reg sex. You have to have honest and open communication and understand each others needs. Paint a minds picture for each other. The mind is a very powerful tool. To be honest, those are the days I remember and miss the most. Had some great orgasms and so did my husband. I wish you both the best.

Pinestate you are a good guy! Obviously sex is very important, so its good to have your worries and frustrations out in the open! The fact that sudden life change and chronic pain seems to be far from uncommon means you are not alone. I do hope the lovely lady in your life gets the medical help she needs to lessen the pain big time. I also have a chronic pain problem, and although its not always easy, a happy sex life can be achieved. In the meanwhile, keep up that cuddling! Wishing you both all the best!

She has something called neuropathy. Its in the nerv cluster and acupuncture wouldn't woke. Thanks every one.

Every thing is great between us. Its just the pain is keeping us from having sex. We are trying to find some meds that she can use (she was on patchs) that arnt stong or harsh so if children ever do happen it won't be it there systems. We have only been togther for a year so marriage isn't a problem right now. But I know what your saying and thanks. I was in a sexless marriage that ended about 2 years ago.

I try but it just way I do things

The only thing I could think about to get a bit of a release is a flesh light, google it if you dont know what it is

oops so sory missed the hurt ..post..forgive me