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SanJoseWriter
Posted: Monday, April 16, 2012 12:46:43 AM

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This is something you two should have worked out long ago....
Guest
Posted: Monday, April 16, 2012 3:25:55 AM

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If you want to rebuild and make the relationship work, don't do it.
Cheating on your wife won't make you feel any better, it will cloud your mind more. If you and your wife decided that she made a mistake and you both wish to move on from this situation together as a couple then definately do not do it.
You forgave her, you shouldn't still be holding against her, that's not fair.
You made your choice to stick with her, concerntrate your efforts on trying to make your marriage work.

If you are not sure that you want to be with your wife as you can't trust her, I would seperate.
I had to do this after I found out my wife cheated. We tried hard for a few months to get over it and make it work but I just couldn't forgive her. I thought about 'repaying the favour' but the hurt had been so full and intense that I couldn't go through with it, I felt too emotionally and mentally tired to create the situation again.
We seperated for a while so I could get my head straight and after a while I felt strong enough to turn away for good. Walking away was the hardest thing I ever did and I missed spending everyday with my son but in turn, I feel so much better outside of the marriage now.
Holty0101
Posted: Saturday, April 21, 2012 6:03:17 PM

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I think that it would be a stupid thing to do because then your just as bad as she is, revenge is not a gppd thing and its not pretty or big to cheat on your partner. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind
Guest
Posted: Saturday, April 21, 2012 7:37:00 PM

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Absolutely not. It's immature and you should be a "bigger" man than to resort to childish "revenge". Grow up, get over it, let the sleeping dog lie. This reminds me too much of the old school mother's question: "If everybody else jumped off a cliff, would you, too?"
Guest
Posted: Saturday, April 21, 2012 7:52:15 PM

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No! don't sink down to her level, I don't know why you didn't leave her in the first place. If you feel this strongly about it maybe it's time to end things.
baaadboy
Posted: Monday, April 23, 2012 4:20:27 PM

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if you cheated back then you are no better than she is, forgive her and look back for the reasons, you might have done something that pushed her to cheat on you , neglected her need maybe or disrespected her sexual need or you have never listened to what she wants, women are no cheaters in nature, cheating is originally in men and its by a strong reason in women.
MuchoCurious
Posted: Monday, April 23, 2012 6:31:23 PM

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Depends on whether you want to save something or just coexist in anger.
Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 10:17:48 AM

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Noo!

Talk to her about it if you havnt already, try some new things¬!
blazestcyr
Posted: Monday, May 14, 2012 8:43:46 AM

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why cheat..if you feel soo mad..leave...or forgive...period
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