If you truelly love someone why do it? What is so amazing about that other person that your significant other cant give you? Why not leave the person you are with first?

Some of us cant cheat even if we wanted to. I have had a few chances to but dont think i could live with the guilt.

Sadly, this is so true and says it best. Personally, I'd could never cheat on someone I love dearly. If I had thoughts of doing so, I would tell her first that the love I had for her is no longer there. That way, I would know the guilt would not be so hard.

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"So don't cry to me.
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
Don't lie to me,
Just get your things.
I've made up your mind."

--Evanescence

I believe...to have something you are not getting at home...whether it be a certain sexual act that your partner will not do with you, or even attention or affection. There are many reasons. For reasons, insert the word "excuses".

I don't think I can cheat my significant other. Loyalty, and trust are too important for me, in a genuine relationship. So, I guess... it depends on person to person. For me, it's a big NO!

I think some men cheat because they like having various sex partners, they know they can get away with it, and they no longer feel satisfied in their current relationship and are too cowardly to end the relationship. Also, some men like to feel Free!

Heather (Jolly Holly) is quite right. The sexual or biological drive to be with other partners is very strong, but of course we all know how painful cheating can be. But it does not mean that the cheater does not love their partner.

"Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace."  - Oscar Wilde


I would attribute this to three main drivers that have over the last 2-3 decades depressed the morality-standards line relative to sex in many people: 

1. Societal: The evolvement and liberalization of our society to where talking about and using sex as a key marketing tool has gradually become more and more accepted.

2. Gendered: Women becoming comfortable with revealing more of their body, thereby emboldening fashion designers and driving temptation levels to unprecedented heights.

3. Religious: More and more people have been becoming less of followers / practitioners of religion.  Sex has become more of a recreational activity and much less about partnering with your loved one and procreating with him/her.  That is not to say that there is not a recreational part to sex with one’s partner.  Rather, that sex has become less about practicing love with someone and more of a mere physical encounter.


Personally, I don’t buy into the "because they can" argument because we "can" do many other things such as steal, run over someone with our car, etc. but people are less likely to do those than they are to cheat on their spouse/partner. I was in a long-term relationship once that had been "unofficially" over for sometime when I went on a trip to Latin America, and I am a SUCKER for Latin women     .  Given that I would not have liked it if my significant other at the time was cheating on me, I stayed away from late nightlife.  But of course all of that changed on my following trip one year later after we had formally separated.   

Another Oscar Wilde quote that seems to fit: "I can resist everything except temptation."

Most of us want to have our cake and eat it, too, if we can, in many situations. In relationships, the consequence of cheating - the broken trust - is very difficult, if not impossible, to repair. Not worth the extra helping of cake you had, so to speak. All of us should be straight with our partners if we are incapable of fidelity. We should not make promises that will not be kept and cause so much pain when they are broken.

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Now honestly I have to say women are the most deceitful when it comes to cheating. I've been cheated on many times and yes I've gotten my....revenge but still it doesn't just go one way. It goes both ways. I have never cheated on a woman and always treated them as if they were a queen but in the end, ahve gotten cheated on. In my book men are the victims and females are the ones who cause hurt and pain.

Why cheat? From a biological standpoint, it's natural (natural does NOT necessarily mean good). For starters, culture notwithstanding, humans are not fully monogamous animals, we are at most semi monogamous.

Human reproductive strategy has been tuned by evolution to optimize the number of ones genes that make it into the next generation. Strategies are necessarily different between males and females. Males that successfully consumated opportunistic matings injected more copies of their genes into the next generation than those who did not (viewed from the other side, a disproportionate number of your male ancestors were 'cheaters', you have those genes). That is why, for men far more often than for women, sex with an anonymous stranger is exciting. Females by contrast have less to gain genetically, a woman is not likely to produce significantly more offspring simply by having more partners unless here current partner is unsatisfactory. The one benefit, however, that females get from extra matings is resources and social status within the group. A male that has a lot more to offer her (and her children) can indirectly contribute to here reproductive success.

I haven't and wouldn't! Not worth it!

LOL. Your right about going with a dog, could never understand why someone would risk losing a babe for a quick fumble with a munter.