Hello. I have spent some time reading the posts on this thread and would like say a few things and for once, probably the only time, without jest/humour.

Firstly cliquey .. yes I agree to some extent. I would not however expect to go into any social situation and immediately be welcomed into a group of people who I have never met before and treated as if I have known them for some time and am a ‘Friend’. Whilst this is a virtual environment I don’t see that its makes it any different to going for example to the pub and there’s a group of people sitting at a large table chatting that I have never met .. do I expect them to immediately pull me up a chair and welcome me with open arms .. no.

I believe people come to Lush for various reasons, not too many I think, and cyber sex is one. There are however in my view and experience to date a great many who use Lush for social chat again as they may do say in the pub and they really are not interested in having cyber sex. I don’t have a problem with that, I don’t believe the owner of the site does, so why should any member?

When I first joined I admit to logging into the bedroom for three consecutive days and I didn’t say a thing until someone said ‘this is a chat room ya know .. lol’ and that was great because it was the prompt I needed. There are however times that I go into the chat room and don’t feel too much like conversation but want to be in a social situation and I can have some fun and laughs just watching the chat .. again can't I go to the pub and sit on my own quietly with a beer and watch the world go round?

Idiots .. yes .. again has nobody encountered such people in real life scenarios?

Anyway I hope some of the above makes some sense.

Everyone to their own .. everyone is different .. horses for courses .. live and let live .. dont judge people

If you don’t like Lush for whatever reason then move on and good luck finding another site like Lush and one that’s free !!

John.

ps. Until recently I had a sensible bio on my profile but for the hell of it changed it to something rather silly so please dont think thats me !!

A may not have been personal but do you have to be a total prick (or prique, whatever) about it? Or do you need to have your personality tested? It's called not being a condescending prick, dear.

Being that condescending then adding that it's not personal is also spineless.

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I second that

I started out in the chat rooms when I first joined Lush, but quickly moved to the forums. It was for several reasons, many of which have been stated here. I got hit on incessantly (and yes, I know it is mostly because of the av) and also because I found it difficult to talk to people and follow the conversations. I found playing in the forums a lot of fun, despite some of the dramas. I still visited the rooms occasionally, even opened my own a number of times.

After awhile, I tired of the forums a bit and returned to the chat rooms more often. This time, I knew a few more people than before and I was also better able to handle the advances and multiple convos. I found that you do need to just jump in. Don't walk into a room and sit there waiting fro someone to talk to you. Much like real life, you may need to take the initiative. Say hello to the room. Someone will invariably respond. Watch the conversations and when someone says something you can relate to, jump in and comment. Everyone was new here at some point and did not know anybody or maybe just one person. Don't be afraid to introduce yourself. Most people ar pretty nice.

As far as the topics of discussion go, I have seen everything from open cyber to serious discussions going on despite the room label.If you don't want to watch the sex, go to another room o just ignore it. I also found that unsolicited requests are usually easily deferred and accepted well if you are polite about it. sometimes it takes a bit more, but I try just ignoring it if politeness does not work. It's no fun if you don't play back, and they soon move on to someone else. If that fails, you can block them, tell a mod or take other steps as needed. Lush has general rules for behavior in the set rooms that need to be followed. Rooms set up by individuals as public rooms need to follow the same rules, plus the individual can establish additional rules which also need to be observed if you want to visit that room.

Overall, I find Lush chat rooms better than some on other sites. They are easy to use and navigate in. I like the number of predetermined actions, as well as the ability to make your own. Recent improvements have made it even better. But like anywhere you go, things are what you make of them.

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There is no mark of self,
And no mark of others,
No mark of living beings,
And no mark of a life.

-- The Diamond Sutra