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Even though I think that the subject name speaks for its self, I'm in love with a girl but she lives several miles away form me and the only way I could see her is spending ages on a train. So this means I'm not sure if I should, because I dont know if long distance relationships can be good or not or healthy in the way you see each other etc. Any advice at all would be useful, as well as tips on how to ask a girl out.
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You say several miles, when I think several I think like 7-10 which would be a short car trip I'm assuming you mean hundreds right? or even thousands? The reason I ask because shear distance does make a difference. If you live an hour or so by train you may be able to make it to each other once a month or so even just going half way to meet in a sleazy motel or something ;) However, if you live hours by plane that is another harder to accomplish story. My mom and stepmom worked a long distance relationship for 3 months before my mom and I moved to live with my step mom and they were across the country and still together today so it can work out healthily. I think if you know her personally (my mom and stepmom knew each other years earlier spent whole summers together) It can work, however, if you have never met her before A) are you sure she is not a guy and B) dude, there are plentyoffish.com out there. so to sum up, if you know her go for it, it can work even if there are many many miles between you. If you don't know her screw it, i am sorry you can find eharmony.com with other women i am sure of it.
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I think that you just have to have real expectations of what you want from a relationship and what the other person wants.....
If you are a real touchy feely person or the other person is..and you crave to have someone hold you and kiss you then no I don't think a long distant relationship can work out if it will be very very rare that you will see the person unless you are making steps to move closer to them or vice versa
On the other side though if you all are secure that this is going to work and you are honest in your expectation I see no reason why love can't find a place for you two...its not natural to think that your soul mate is always on your back porch
Good Luck
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If you both feel like it can work out and you both are strong enough to handle it, then go for it :)
It is hard, but i guess you need something to look forward too, if you are willing to move for her or she is willing to move for you, then I see no reason in not going down that path...
There will always be the issue of not being about to touch your partner or anything but it'll all be worth it in the end...
hope I've helped :)
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Thanks h=guys, been thinking about this for a while now and what you have all said has been great :D
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hello for sex i have jumped a aero....wtf...go!
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Go for it. You will regret it if you dont and if you do and it fails atleast you can said you tried and thats what matters at the end of the day
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GO FOR IT!! darlin, in this day and age with all of the advances in technology, there is no reason why you shouldn't try. use this time apart to really get to know each other. then, when you are both ready, plan your first meeting and take it from there :) life is too short to wonder what if. good luck!!
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persistence and determination,,,,,irrevocable love by both..it can accomplish anything...and stand the test of a long distance relationship
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well you don't know if you don't try..
my husband and I had a long distance relationship.. he lived in ky, usa and I lived in sydney, australia. we actually met on the internet and married 3 days after we first physically met.
if it doesn't work out then I guess it's not meant to be but at the same time it's hard work.
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Dating a woman who is geographically undesirable is tough, but if it doesn't work out, it's a very good reason to end it when the time comes. If it's great, one of you will find a way to close the distance and your relationship will be stronger from having endured the strain.
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Isn't there an old Meatloaf song that says "I would do anything for love..."?
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If you give it a go, if it doesnt work out a least you know you gave it a shot. If you feel that strongly about each other the distance will not matter.
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Sure, why not??? It's worth to try..Who knows might work out..
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Thought it was relevant. 
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To me it seems the answer to your question is found in your first sentence: "I'm in love with a girl....."
If you are, really, in love with this girl, then the distance is not an obstacle as much as an oppurtunity to prove to her that you do love her.
She will appreciate your efforts, sacrifices, and determination.
She will not appreciate an 'I don't know if I should attutude.'
If you ignore beauty, you will soon find yourself without it.................Frank Lloyd Wright
I always practice obedience, when it's in my best interest.
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