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Posted: Friday, June 29, 2012 4:14:50 AM

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I have a fantasy of having two guys at the same time (my hubby and a younger man), but it is a subject I am not sure whether to raise with my hubby. I would be more than happy to return the favor and enter into a threesome with him and another woman if that's what he wanted. It is a tricky subject to approach him with because I know, like most heterosexual men, the thought of sharing his wife with another man is not one he would like.

Has anyone else ever approached their partners with a similar issue/fantasy? what was the outcome and how did u talk about it?
hornyinnorwich
Posted: Saturday, June 30, 2012 5:36:40 PM

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I've always wanted a threesome but I already my girlfriend wold hate the idea - she's already said as much.

Most guys won't do a mmf but if you suggested ffm then he may be quite turned on by it, I know I would be if m girlfriend suggested a threesome with her hot friend for example.

Perhaps just ask him "you ever thought of a having a threesome?"

Goodluck
Aussie07
Posted: Saturday, June 30, 2012 6:55:47 PM

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I just ask my wife and she said maybe one day and it has happened with both sexes and they are great fun we want to move on to a couple so more bodies more fun that could be a way to bed another man for you
jordanm
Posted: Saturday, July 07, 2012 9:36:11 PM

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Most guys do have hangups on the mmf thing. There are unfair double standards big time with mmf vs mff, at least in the US. When most people think of a couple having a 3way with another girl, most think that woman has to be so confident and sexual to invite a woman into bed with her man. If the couple adds a guy, most will assume that the guy is a wimp, or cant get it done in the bedroom, etc. the whole cuckold culture. I think that in a secure relationship, if you want to "broaden your sexual horizons" , if either one of you is bi or curious, then that seems to be natural 1st threesome, so if a couple has a bi F, only, then adding another woman seems logical, whereas if the M is bi or more open to being bi, then adding a man makes sense. If neither of you are bi or curious, it is a bit trickier, as the guy will get nothing out of a guy joining and a woman will get nothing out of a woman joining. Dont know what to tell you there. :)

For me, I have had bi experiences over 12 years ago, with a friend, and think of them often, but my wife hasn't experimented with women (so she says hehe)... Therefore she would be more comfortable adding a guy first. If she enjoys it and it makes her feel sexy to be desired by 2 men, she would likely be confidant enough to try a couple or single female after that.

the key is open communication, trust, and making each other as wildly happy and fullfilled!

hope that helps

1nympholes
Posted: Saturday, July 07, 2012 10:22:34 PM

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Kids we are in the 21st Century now can we not at least talk about our sexual interest and fantasies with the closest person in our lives.

I look back now and think if my exhusband and I had been more open the discussing the sexual pleasure that most turn us on we very well could still be married.

If you have issues aznd fail to address them you surely are asking for trouble.








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Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 12:31:15 AM

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1nympholes wrote:
Kids we are in the 21st Century now can we not at least talk about our sexual interest and fantasies with the closest person in our lives.

I look back now and think if my exhusband and I had been more open the discussing the sexual pleasure that most turn us on we very well could still be married.

If you have issues aznd fail to address them you surely are asking for trouble.



You are most correct, we do need to discuss our desires openly with our partners.

As for the question... just start a conversation. I find it best to turn off the tv, radio, what-not and say 'we need to have a talk.' He might be a little surprised that the conversation is sexual in nature, but it might get him more in a talking mood to catch him off guard. Best of luck and be open and honest.


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Milly
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 3:02:47 AM

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It can be pretty dauting bringing up the subject with your partner - the idea of bringing someone else into your sex lives can make someone feel like they're not making you feel good enough/they're not good enough/you're unhappy. It's irrational but I know I've felt that way before.

That said, I think only good can come from being open and forthcoming with someone. It could even encourage him to tell you one of his fantasies. Maybe you'd both end up satisfying desires.
HighDesert
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 6:20:58 AM

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I personally have no hangups on the issue, already done the MMF thing once and would really like to do it again, accept much more sober this time.

I think a good place to start would be in the bedroom with a dildo... ask him to use it on you as your giving him head. If a dp is your desire, then go that route. Get his mind open to the idea. Start reading stories about it or watching porn that features two guys. Bring it up after he already has a clue that it's coming.
jordanm
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 7:46:09 PM

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I agree, using a toy is what me and my wife have been doing, with enough imagination and enthusiasm it handles the job, and the best part is, nobody to feel awkward after the blood returns to the brain from the groin!

sweetaz
Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 4:28:34 AM

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Ill have to get back to you about this one, and yeah this could be a late night discussion with the other half :)
Guest
Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 5:42:15 AM

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Think being crafty about the way you approach the question even just trying to gauge his view on that sort of thing without suggesting you want to try it first
Nikki703
Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 8:58:20 AM

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You should feel him out about having a FFM threesome and see what he thinks about that. And if he is into it (I assume he will be), then maybe you can mention the FMM. Or maybe you could ask him how he would feel about having a guy watch you and him having sex and then take it from there. Maybe watch some porn with a girl getting DP'd or just being with 2 guys and tell him how excited it makes you.

I have had a few threesomes with 2 guys but it was never with anyone I was in a serious relationship with. Each time the guys were totally straight but had no issues with the other guy being involved. There was no contact between the guys!!
Guest
Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 1:09:11 PM

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I know its a gals question, however i would think just ask him about it and then go from there. personally i would go for it if my wife asked me and i wouldnt ask for a return favor.
tazznjazz
Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 2:54:16 PM

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Tell him right after a round of hot sex when you are both catching your breath, but bring up MFF first and then the MMF. Men do have easily shattered egos, but if you go about it the right way and push the lust buttons instead of the jealousy buttons, you fantasy should be a dream come true before you know it!
Best of luck!!
YoungBuck21
Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 3:08:01 PM

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i have been apart of several threesomes both MFF and MMF, the way i came about these first was the girl i was with at the time asked if i would also use a vibe while we had sex i wasnt insulted in any means cause i knew we had had great sex its just she wanted to switch things up.. although when we moved onto adding other people we did start with MFF before she asked me for an MMF which by that point i was okay with the idea of adding another man. Just dont pick someone that is quite a bit larger than your man or he may feel self-conscious and become negative to the idea
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