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Testpilot911
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 2:40:07 AM

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There seems to be a very thin and blurry line between this and sometimes a sexual question leads to another which then crosses the line and becomes cyber, what's your thoughts and views on this and when does Sexual questions turn to cybering ?
JamieW
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 4:29:48 AM

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I love doing both, it's a great way to have fun and meet new people, not all people like it but the ones that do we have a great time ;) Any girls want to do both pm me ;)
JamieW
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 4:30:59 AM

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Testpilot911
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 4:55:14 AM

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Mixing both is fine, but some people are really uptight and dont even understand what cybering is even though they profess not to want to cyber and they start it off. lol
littlemissbitch
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 5:11:20 AM

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i dont mind questions but i skip cyber sex. i think the line between the two is rather clear...

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Shylass
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 7:41:01 AM

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I don't know what the line is. Depending on who is asking, and how they are asking, I'm okay answering some questions (mechanical, usually) if they are very nosy (I still don't know why they want to know stuff), but very quickly there is a point where I feel extremely uncomfortable and then get upset if they push it. I'm just not happy to share what some people want. Some people think that because my profile says I don't cyber, and because of my name, that they can somehow "teach" me to be more comfortable and "ease" me into talking about certain things. All it does is make me unhappy and want to run away. It's not something I enjoy.

I'm happy having a giggle with my mates that I know better on here, or asking them questions for my stories, but that's it. The most I can do is offer a hug (with clothes on) in the virtual world, and most of my friends seem okay with that. I am always hidden on here because I have found I am 95% less likely to get blackboxed by people I'm not comfortable talking to.


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Testpilot911
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 8:02:52 AM

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I must agree shylass, i think the profile names play a role in people wanting to teach you, and being a site with so many erotic stories they tend to get carried away.
littlemissbitch
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 8:17:49 AM

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Shylass wrote:
[color=green] there is a point where I feel extremely uncomfortable


theres your line shy...or right before even. and if they push just come tell me and ill poke em in the eye ;)

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Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 8:33:49 AM

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I've said it before on my profile but I'll say it again for folk that haven't seen it: get to know me first and let cybering happen naturally, if at all. There are some people with whom I do like to cyber but some I'd like to get to know and all they do is cyber. It makes me feel uncomfortable when people cyber right off the bat. I don't mind sexual questions - I'm open to them, in fact, but there is a line that shouldn't be crossed unless both parties feel comfortable with it.

By all means, ask me about my sexual life, it may or may not bore you but unless a conversation evolves into cyber, don't push it and don't try to make it happen by pushing me into it. It could be considered cyber rape, you know.
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 8:56:38 AM

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There's a big difference between questions and cyber.

One is talking about things the person has done or would like to do or what they're into. Cyber is talking about how hot it would be to do those things with each other. It's always seemed like a clear difference to me.

If one person is talking about something sexual they've done in the past or their interest in a particular kink and the other person is secretly masturbating because the descriptions turn them on - that is not cyber sex. That's not much different than reading a dirty story.

Cyber requires interplay and the mutual shared fantasy of doing sexual things together, and both people have to be in on it.


Shylass
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 9:05:29 AM

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littlemissbitch wrote:


theres your line shy...or right before even. and if they push just come tell me and ill poke em in the eye ;)


Ta. Hugs Thing is, I don't really know where my line is, and it can be different on different days, or depending on who it is. I prefer the outright idiots who go all out to get me to say and share things, because I can tell them where to go easily, but I really don't like the people who cultivate a friendship and then try to manipulate me into sharing things or giving what I'm not happy to. That makes me blame myself for both being an idiot, and not being sure how to deal with it. I know it's only virtual, but it does affect me like it would in the real world. And that makes me cross with myself for being a plonker.

Thank you for the post, Dancing_Doll, it is easy to blur the lines between the two sometimes (at least for me, anyway - I'm never really sure of things often).


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Dancing_Doll
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 9:18:34 AM

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Shylass wrote:


Ta. Hugs Thing is, I don't really know where my line is, and it can be different on different days, or depending on who it is. I prefer the outright idiots who go all out to get me to say and share things, because I can tell them where to go easily, but I really don't like the people who cultivate a friendship and then try to manipulate me into sharing things or giving what I'm not happy to. That makes me blame myself for both being an idiot, and not being sure how to deal with it. I know it's only virtual, but it does affect me like it would in the real world. And that makes me cross with myself for being a plonker.

Thank you for the post, Dancing_Doll, it is easy to blur the lines between the two sometimes (at least for me, anyway - I'm never really sure of things often).


If you ever feel uncomfortable with a chat, then you should end it there... tell them your computer connection is on the fritz, you just got an important phone call, you have to do something, make something up if you don't want to just come out and say "sorry, I'm just not into this." You're here to have a good time - you're not obligated to make sure some other stranger has a good time. And if the person gets rude or starts pressing you, just tell them that DD will come and beat them up if they don't lay off it. clown

Thing with this site is - just because someone is here doesn't mean they're into cyber or have to be into it. Some people are just here for the writing component of the site. Others are into sex and have a high sex drive and like talking about it but don't do the 'chat-and-wank' with random online strangers. If people have other stuff on the go, it holds little appeal. Everyone is different.




35nlookin4u
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 9:28:27 AM

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Cyber is not fun to me but I do enjoy asking women questions about their experiences and what they like or want to try ;-)
Shylass
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 9:33:50 AM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:


If you ever feel uncomfortable with a chat, then you should end it there... tell them your computer connection is on the fritz, you just got an important phone call, you have to do something, make something up if you don't want to just come out and say "sorry, I'm just not into this." You're here to have a good time - you're not obligated to make sure some other stranger has a good time. And if the person gets rude or starts pressing you, just tell them that DD will come and beat them up if they don't lay off it. clown

Thing with this site is - just because someone is here doesn't mean they're into cyber or have to be into it. Some people are just here for the writing component of the site. Others are into sex and have a high sex drive and like talking about it but don't do the 'chat-and-wank' with random online strangers. If people have other stuff on the go, it holds little appeal. Everyone is different.



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BadGirl76
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 10:50:42 AM

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Either can be both interesting and creepy. I have meet people that want to ask about my experience and my fantasies, I don't mind answering their questions. I do usually let them know that I reserve the right to say no I am not answering that. I do cyber, but only with people I know.

I don't like when people start all hot and heavy, I do like to get to know someone first. The only exceptions are when I meet someone in a chat room and the conversation travels into a private box, then I see it as a quickie and usually goes nowhere.

The 'questioners' that get creepy are the ones that don't take for an answer or ask what I have said no to over and over. I start to ignore them after awhile. I have meet a few that ask questions and get answers, I like answering questions about my past and fantasies it is interesting for me too.

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Ravyn
Posted: Sunday, July 08, 2012 11:04:27 AM

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I agree with DD the line is very clear as to which is which, as well as not everyone is here for the same reason. One can be an informative tool in gauging whether or not you have the same interests or kinks and the other is just a way for one or both parties to achieve an orgasm. The latter can be done with with good book or porn video. It all depends on why one is here as well as their main objective.

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BadGirl76 said it all.
sweetaz
Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 2:44:31 AM

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Its all about communication isn't it, I know what I like and don't and if the conversation goes to a place that I don't want to enter then later gator. I don't put up with other peoples rubbish you have the power within reach of your finger tip to exit ... so use it. Rock on with the good times only :)
honeydipped96
Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 3:38:56 AM

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asking me sexual questions isn't going to lead to cyber. honestly, asking too many can really creep me out. i tend to only cyber with people i know, and it begins with sexy conversation, not a q & a session. My 2 cents

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Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 4:46:14 PM

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TraceyAmes
Posted: Monday, July 09, 2012 6:13:20 PM

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I am against cybering myself as I feel it is a waste of time. I have had thousands of requests but politely decline the offer. There has only been one case where I have done so and that was for a special guy I have known here for a long time. Understanding his situation and plight, I was only too happy to accommodate him.
Many guys ask me sexual question but I do draw the line as to how far I go. What guys do behind the conversation is a different matter however. Countless times while talking to someone they will say that they have been masturbating looking at my profile pictures while chatting with me. What they do is their business I guess. In a way it is a compliment and nice to know you have been appreciated.
Jillian22
Posted: Thursday, July 12, 2012 6:51:20 AM

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Cybering is definitely preferred. I can get so wet imagining a scene as I cyber. it usually always leads me to have a great orgasm. considering the person im cybering with is good at it.
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