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Prissy1 wrote:You always try on shoes before you buy them, right? You have to make sure they fit and are right for you. Sigh...but shoes do wear out don't they? lol I don't. I know my size.
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oh this is an easy one ...lol...definitely sex before marriage.!!! how else are you going to know how compatible u are in the boudoir unless you hit the sheets first and have a couple of good romps along the way first....
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I would prefer MARRIAGE BEFORE SEX NOT FOR THE REASON THAT I'M CONSERVATIVE AND ORTHODOX-ORIENTED BUT WHAT REALLY MATTERS FOR ME IS THE GOOD RAPPORT FOR BOTH OF US RATHER THAN JUST THE RELATIONSHIP ON BED. THE PLEASURE IN SEX IS FINITE ONCE YOU GET OUT OF BED AND YOU'RE BOTH OLD. BUT THE ATTRACTION AND THE ATTACHMENT BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU, IS I THINK, INFINITE EVEN THOUGH YOU'RE FLESH IS NO LONGER CAPABLE OF HAVING A GREAT, GREAT SEX. SEX SHOULD NOT BE TREATED AS THE BEDROCK AND BASIS OF MARRIAGE. IF WE'LL DO THAT, WE'LL ALWAYS END UP OF LEAVING OUR PARTNER TO FULFILL OUR CARNAL HUNGER AND INEVITABLY COMPARING THEM TO OTHERS UNTIL WE BECAME PICKY, EXHAUSTED AND UNSETTLED. AND ONE MORE THING, SEX IS JUST A VERY TINY PARCEL OF MARRIAGE. IT ALSO ENCOMPASSES THE COMPATIBILITY AND UNISON IN MAKING DECISIONS AS ONE. IF SEX WOULD ONLY BE THE ONE THAT WOULD PROPEL THE MARRIAGE, THAT'S VERY SUICIDAL ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP. WE SHOULD CONSIDER THAT OUR PARTNER HAVE GREAT SKILLS AND PERFORMANCE ON DIFFERENT ASPECTS AND CAN DO GREAT THINGS OTHER THAN SEX. IN THE END, WE WILL ALL RESORT OF JUST LYING ON OUR BED HELPLESSLY WHILE TOUCHING THE GRAY HAIR OF OUR PARTNER. I WILL APPRECIATE MY PARTNER NOT JUST BECAUSE OF GIVING ME A BIG PLEASURE AND MULTIPLE ORGASMS BUT FOR BEING LOYAL TO ME 'TIL DEATH. CERTAINLY I'LL GET TO KNOW HIM MORE OTHER THAN HIS CONNOISSEUR WHEN IT COMES TO SEX.
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Joined: 5/22/2012
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Up to the individuals. I find nothing wrong either way.
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Rank: Forum Guru
Joined: 3/4/2011
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Location: Sitting in Heaven watching you, United States
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Sex before marriage if you dont practice before you find the right one how do you expect to keep them when you dont know how to keep them happy
VERITAS VOS LIBERABIT
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Joined: 4/13/2012
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Location: Australia
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Sex before you have to try before you buy
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Joined: 6/5/2012
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I have sex for 9 years now and not married. So I am not for nor against sex before marriage. If you feel you need to 'try it out', go for it just use protection. If you want to wait, I personally would toast to you.
“Vincit omnia Veritas, Truth Conquers all Obstacles.”
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who in the hell would get married before knowing whether or not you are sexually compatible? But if both of you are willing to wait, you probably are, cause I'm sure you'd both be boring as fuck.
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Rank: Advanced Wordsmith
Joined: 8/4/2010
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Location: United States
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Sex before marriage? Done that. Living together before marriage? Did that for 4 years. Religious? Recovering. Wouldn't have it any other way. Wouldn't get in anyone else's way if their opinion differs from mine. 
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Rank: Active Ink Slinger
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No way! I can see how being pure and untouched until your married, to some, would be the ultimate gift you could ever give your partner. I do t think even love could hold up and stay strong if your not sexually compatible with them. As a woman, I'd be pissed if I was married and my partner was getting off and I wasn't. Being sexually active before marriage allows you to know what you want, how you want it, and how to achieve it. Your more experienced and intune to providing pleasure to your partner and it works the other way around too. Personally, I'd be a worse person if I had to wait till marriage to have sex; uptight, 10x hornier, probably mad 24/7, and would likely marry the first guy who asked... Sex is awesome, I love sex
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Outside of some very wierd strict sects or Eastern arranged marriage traditions I can't imagine anyone would go so far as to actually marry someone without first having learned to enjoy each other's bodies.
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Carpe Diem !.....Sieze the day !
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KinkyLisa4rp wrote:who in the hell would get married before knowing whether or not you are sexually compatible? But if both of you are willing to wait, you probably are, cause I'm sure you'd both be boring as fuck. Some people believe in marriage before sex. it says in the Bible that u should marry 1st. i like to fuck 1st though
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Joined: 12/25/2010
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Whenever the time is right. I personally think sex should come naturally. No one should try to MAKE it happen. It should happen when you're ready. Not just emotionally, but physically and even financially. Sex comes with a lot of responsibilities that you should be prepared for. In this case, marriage is your safest bet. Anytime before that, you should wait until you're in a position to handle any type of consequences. If it happens before then, you can become emotionally scarred and jaded when it comes to sex. 
Life's a beach and then you dive.
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Rank: Lurker
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I personally depends on when you feel personally feel ready, u shouldn't have sex if you feel you have been pressured in any way it should be the natural next step in you relationship.
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Joined: 10/22/2010
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Location: Philadelphia, United States
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Sex before marriage!
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Rank: Forum Guru
Joined: 9/1/2010
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Location: United States
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Has to be before.
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Rank: Active Ink Slinger
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 Sex before marriage does not guarantee a long lasting marriage neither does waiting till you get married. So it sounds like a no win situation. But sex before marriage is way more pleasurable.  So I’m indifferent.
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Rank: Constant Gardener
Joined: 9/30/2009
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Location: Cakeland, United States
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Buz wrote:Back in the days when only the missionary position was allowed and women were supposed to not enjoy it..maybe being a virgin was okay.
All of those questions need to be answered with a YES before you get married. I'm thinking we need a referendum on inviting your wife to register onto Lush, and chime in on this thread and a few other select topics. 
 The best thing you can do for your fellow,
next to rousing his conscience, is - not to give him things
to think about, but to wake things up that are in him...
to make him think things for himself - George MacDonald
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I agree with both. If you want to get married befor sex good for you. If you want to have sex befor you're married, good for me.
Anything you think is sweet, I'm a little more than that.
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I think it makes total sense to have sex with ones intended partner in life before marriage as does living togther etc. The more the couple get to understand and experience each other, in what will be married life situations, before making the huge commitment of marriage the better in my view. Like no surprises.
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Rank: Lurker
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Sex before marriage, we date people to see if we are a match emotionally and mentally so why not sexually as well
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I feel this is a personal choice between the people involved. I had sex before I married. It was not that good, but I really had nothing to compare it to either. He turned out to be a rather lousy lover and general douche bag as a husband, so the try-out really did not matter anyway.
There is no mark of self,
And no mark of others,
No mark of living beings,
And no mark of a life.
-- The Diamond Sutra
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I've been married, before sex. Awful marriage. Now firmly believe in sex instead of marriage.
love, amy
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