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ty23woo23
Posted: Saturday, August 11, 2012 9:04:01 PM

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how would you want a young man, possibly a co-worker, to approach you about how he feels about you, and wants to pursue either a physical or romantic relationship?

I am 19, interested in a 42 year old co-worker, and I need help.
SweetPenny
Posted: Saturday, August 11, 2012 9:07:49 PM

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For one, I wouldn't want him to refer to me as an older woman.
EwaBeachSlut
Posted: Saturday, August 11, 2012 9:10:05 PM

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I am over thirty and I would be flattered, down deep, but I would most likely tell you to go find a girl that is right for you.

I do know a couple, and he is 13 years younger than she is and they are approaching their 50the anniversary so it can work.

What are your plans?
ty23woo23
Posted: Saturday, August 11, 2012 9:15:24 PM

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SORRY ABOUT THE "OLDER" TERM, just meant older than me!! ****** i love all women!


and right now it seems mostly physical. but like we always laugh when talking at work, i make her smile a lot! i just got a feeling when im around her...not necessarily just in my pants either.
SweetPenny
Posted: Saturday, August 11, 2012 9:18:28 PM

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Ask her if she'd like to join you for a drink after work.
ty23woo23
Posted: Saturday, August 11, 2012 9:28:58 PM

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well we work in a bar/restaurant...and she usually works nights 7pm-2am. i work day/afternoon when the kitchen is open...i can usually only catch her on my days off, and before she has work. not really nights unless committed to a LATE night.
beinggood
Posted: Saturday, August 11, 2012 11:39:49 PM

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I do not think it is ant different as there are many woman who are attracted to older man for many reasons..Talk with her and say.."Hey I really like you..Would you like to do something together"

doing my best to be good..
Nikki703
Posted: Saturday, August 11, 2012 11:52:30 PM

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Just be direct. If you like her and want to go out then just ask her. I find it very refreshing when a guy or girl just gets to it and doesnt play any games. If she is interested you will soon know and if she isnt, playing games isnt going to change that.

Good Luck and do tell us how it goes!
1Zratedgal
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 2:45:54 AM

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I agree with Nikki and Sweet Penny.

Be nice, respectful and just talk to her.
Don't try to be a big shot or overly impress her.
Just be yourself and express your interest in her.

Best of luck to you and please let us know how it goes!

Kisses!

Steph
suezq
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 3:47:48 AM

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It sounds like the two of you have already become friends. Do you know her situation? Is she available? How does she feel about dating a co-worker? I would say that you should approach the subject of going out together no differently than if you were the same age. If you treat her like an "older woman" she is likely to regard you as a "nice kid".
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Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 4:10:23 AM

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SweetPenny wrote:
For one, I wouldn't want him to refer to me as an older woman.
[:)]
ty23woo23
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 8:56:45 AM

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suezq wrote:
It sounds like the two of you have already become friends. Do you know her situation? Is she available? How does she feel about dating a co-worker? I would say that you should approach the subject of going out together no differently than if you were the same age. If you treat her like an "older woman" she is likely to regard you as a "nice kid".


I'm pretty sure she is available, and I'm not sure how she feels, we haven't had that type of discussion yet. What if its more of a physical relationship than romance?
BigShyPussyKins
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 9:29:47 AM

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I would be flattered but wouldn't want to persue things as for me personally the age gap would be too much. But whatever you do - good luck :)
Nikki703
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 9:48:55 AM

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ty23woo23 wrote:


I'm pretty sure she is available, and I'm not sure how she feels, we haven't had that type of discussion yet. What if its more of a physical relationship than romance?


Well if this is what you both want then it would be fine. Maybe you can just invite her out to lunch and see how it goes. And as SuzyQ said, treat as a woman, not an OLDER WOMAN. Dont mention the age gap unless she does and then try to difuse it.

Just some more advice. Be very careful since she is a co-worker. If things dont go well it can create a very awkward situation for you both.
ty23woo23
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 1:22:57 PM

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Should I be direct about asking to get involved physically or work my way into it such as getting together sometime and go from there?


I see this working out much better as physical and not romance, and I just want to do it right.
1ball
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 1:30:40 PM

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ty23woo23 wrote:
Should I be direct about asking to get involved physically or work my way into it such as getting together sometime and go from there?


I see this working out much better as physical and not romance, and I just want to do it right.


Letting her know that you're not looking for a commitment might be just the thing that will bring her around. Just tell her that you're available to fill any blank pages in her little black book.

My latest story is too hot to publish. My most recent story before that is Even Stranger In Lust
ty23woo23
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 2:20:03 PM

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Should I try to pull her aside at work?
Idrak
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 2:47:35 PM

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Dont let ur feeling go in vain. Just take d first step by opening up.
ty23woo23
Posted: Sunday, August 12, 2012 3:03:46 PM

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or should i talk to her over internet first?
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