Welcome Guest Search | Active Topics | Members | Log In | Register

I'm Struggling.......... Options · View
Sparky33kv
Posted: Sunday, September 02, 2012 2:19:42 AM

Rank: Rookie Scribe

Joined: 8/30/2012
Posts: 8
Location: United Kingdom
I joined lush 2-3 days ago, and I'm loving the stories, but struggling to get to grips with the chat rooms. I've been in them a few times. But as a "noob" I seem to get ignored !!!!! I've had possibly 3 chats in the last 3 days. Am I doing something wrong. I'm getting properly peeved off about it. I've not been rude or harassing. Please help me to better understand where I'm going wrong. So I can Chat with like-minded folk.

Sparky new boy in town.
Shylass
Posted: Sunday, September 02, 2012 6:39:20 AM

Rank: Gingerbread Lover

Joined: 1/6/2012
Posts: 3,595
Location: Trumpton, United Kingdom
Welcome to Lush! Big Hugs

You may find this thread helpful: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst15037_Chat-Room--Tips-and-Tricks.aspx

The chatrooms frighten me, so I either go into the Gold room when people are there, as it's quieter, or make my own and just invite a few friends in with a password.

I would suggest posting in the forums to get to know people, or contact some of the writers of stories you enjoyed to build up friendships. Going into the chat rooms is really intimidating for some of us. Try these areas:

The Pub: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_topics10_The-Pub.aspx

The Lounge: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_topics18_The-Lounge.aspx

Entertainment: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_topics25_Word--Forum-Games--Jokes.aspx

If you're brave, you could make your own room that's open to all, and call it something daft like "Newbie Looking For A Chat". Or... y'know... something cool. dontknow

I hope that helps?



Ut incepit fidelis, sic permanet.

***
********************************CLICK THE BANNERS TO BUY THESE WILLY-STIFFENING BOOKS!********************************
Sparky33kv
Posted: Sunday, September 02, 2012 7:45:12 AM

Rank: Rookie Scribe

Joined: 8/30/2012
Posts: 8
Location: United Kingdom
Cheers for the tips. I'll read up, then see how it goes.
Catnip
Posted: Sunday, September 02, 2012 5:06:30 PM

Rank: Internet Sensation

Joined: 3/30/2009
Posts: 3,969
Location: Cloudy dreams., Sweden
Welcome to Lush.
I'm sure you'll soon get some good chatting going. It can take some time to find people to talk to but usually it eases up after a while.

If you ever see me in a chatroom I'm up for chatting. I've not been on much lately though, but I'm rather easy going when I am on.

I hope you're having a great time already,

Cheers
Cat

Ravyn
Posted: Sunday, September 02, 2012 5:40:22 PM

Rank: Cock Connoisseur

Joined: 4/26/2010
Posts: 2,084
Location: Bend, United States
Welcome to Lush sparky the rooms will get easier. Just check out the rooms see how crowded they are. The more populated rooms some tend to get over looked in there unless you know some people. If you ever see me in a room just give me a holler or if I see you first I will most certainly welcome you :)

Good luck and don't give up on the rooms you can meet some wonderful people in them.

Ravyn

Sparky33kv
Posted: Monday, September 03, 2012 8:29:21 AM

Rank: Rookie Scribe

Joined: 8/30/2012
Posts: 8
Location: United Kingdom
Thank you both for your support. Hope to see you about :)
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, September 11, 2012 9:36:05 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 531,758
It's like any other established place my friend. There are cliques, all kinds of group dynamics and even politics, feuds, and all the other dross of human behavior. Don't be in a rush. Be respectful and you'll find people with whom you can chat. Besides, if you really read what's being said in chatrooms, most of it is pretty banal anyway, so you're not missing too much.
sprite
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 11:47:29 AM

Rank: Her Royal Spriteness

Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 14,415
Location: My Tower, United States
i do chat rooms on occasion, sort of in spells, lately i've been hanging out again. i say hi to everyone - a lot of the 'old timers' do. and answer all posts directed at me - that said, if someone piques my interest, with what they say, i'll keep the conversation going, newcomer or not. if they don't, i get bored and will spend time with people who do, or with people i know and consider friends. simple as that - it's like a party, you walk in and sometimes it's a good fit and sometimes it's not - sometimes you are the new guy and it's hard to fit it - if you keep going back, tho, people start recognizing you and you become one of the regulars - it DOES take time - sometimes i'll go into a room with people i don't know and i'll have trouble catching people's attention, even tho i've been a member for a long time - it happens. just keep at it, and one day, you'll just click...

that said, here's how i got started in chat - i found a member made room, there were 4 or 5 others in it - i started talking a little - with so few people it was easy to start a conversation and not get lost in the crowd - that's my advice - find a room with just a few members and join in.

http://www.lushstories.com/stories/hardcore/west-coast-games-part-one-the-beach.aspx
WellMadeMale
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 11:55:30 AM

Rank: Constant Gardener

Joined: 9/30/2009
Posts: 10,281
Location: Cakeland, United States
Sparky33kv wrote:
I joined lush 2-3 days ago, and I'm loving the stories, but struggling to get to grips with the chat rooms. I've been in them a few times. But as a "noob" I seem to get ignored !!!!! I've had possibly 3 chats in the last 3 days. Am I doing something wrong. I'm getting properly peeved off about it. I've not been rude or harassing. Please help me to better understand where I'm going wrong. So I can Chat with like-minded folk.

Sparky new boy in town.


Obviously, you need to hang out in the BDSM chatroom. Ask for Ravyn or JerseyLynn...they'll make you feel right at home. You may even find an obliging dominatrix as I did, oh those many moons ago.


If ya can't beat 'em... pay someone to do it for you.
sprite
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 11:58:48 AM

Rank: Her Royal Spriteness

Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 14,415
Location: My Tower, United States
WellMadeMale wrote:


Obviously, you need to hang out in the BDSM chatroom. Ask for Ravyn or JerseyLynn...they'll make you feel right at home. You may even find an obliging dominatrix as I did, oh those many moons ago.


actually, the bdsm people are actually really friendly, actually. totally, actually so.

http://www.lushstories.com/stories/hardcore/west-coast-games-part-one-the-beach.aspx
WellMadeMale
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 12:03:07 PM

Rank: Constant Gardener

Joined: 9/30/2009
Posts: 10,281
Location: Cakeland, United States
sprite wrote:


actually, the bdsm people are actually really friendly, actually. totally, actually so.


I know they is. Mine trained me to lick her boots clean and gave me jolly rancher snacks afterwards! Beat that!

If ya can't beat 'em... pay someone to do it for you.
sprite
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 12:06:56 PM

Rank: Her Royal Spriteness

Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 14,415
Location: My Tower, United States
WellMadeMale wrote:


I know they is. Mine trained me to lick her boots clean and gave me jolly rancher snacks afterwards! Beat that!


i got skittles!





http://www.lushstories.com/stories/hardcore/west-coast-games-part-one-the-beach.aspx
Shylass
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 12:37:40 PM

Rank: Gingerbread Lover

Joined: 1/6/2012
Posts: 3,595
Location: Trumpton, United Kingdom
sprite wrote:


actually, the bdsm people are actually really friendly, actually. totally, actually so.


That's proper true, that is. They've been really nice to me. sunny Much more than others who aren't into that scene have been in the past.

I've been braving the rooms a little recently. I'm sort of getting the idea, but like Sprite says, it does take time, and perseverance (I still have no idea what's going on).



Ut incepit fidelis, sic permanet.

***
********************************CLICK THE BANNERS TO BUY THESE WILLY-STIFFENING BOOKS!********************************
sprite
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 12:41:17 PM

Rank: Her Royal Spriteness

Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 14,415
Location: My Tower, United States
Shylass wrote:

(I still have no idea what's going on). [/color]


i never do, not matter what, all part of being me *giggles*

http://www.lushstories.com/stories/hardcore/west-coast-games-part-one-the-beach.aspx
elitfromnorth
Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 8:00:18 AM

Rank: Brawling Berserker

Joined: 2/12/2012
Posts: 1,614
Location: Burrowed, Norway
Like others have said, it is like a party. You won't get many conversations going by just sitting in the room and not talking to anyone. Just start talking to people and they'll more than likely answer you. Don't be shy, because unless you already know someone no one will adress you(unless you're a woman. Then all the guys will jump on you like a fresh piece of meat...)

"It's at that point you realise Lady Luck is actually a hooker, and you're fresh out of cash."
Saga
Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 11:16:42 AM

Rank: Sergeant Turnip

Joined: 6/7/2012
Posts: 4,970
Location: Canada
Hello and welcome to lush!! I totally know what you mean about the chats, I felt the same way at first, like everyone was ignoring me, until I started talking a bit more and that was easier when you are in a room with fewer people. The above suggestions are all great! Hang out in the forums a bit :)

And yes the bdsm room is great.... Everyone is very friendly but I never got skittles :(
Dani
Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 11:30:03 AM

Rank: Big-Haired Bitch

Joined: 12/25/2010
Posts: 4,614
Location: Under Your Bed, United States
And also, just because a room has a certain theme doesn't mean that's always the subject being discussed. I'm not into BDSM at all, but I find myself hanging out in those rooms because the people/conversations are great. So don't be intimidated by room themes, either. Just dive in and talk. That's really all you can do.



Baby put your arms around me, tell me I'm a problem...

sprite
Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 12:19:40 PM

Rank: Her Royal Spriteness

Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 14,415
Location: My Tower, United States
Saga wrote:
Hello and welcome to lush!! I totally know what you mean about the chats, I felt the same way at first, like everyone was ignoring me, until I started talking a bit more and that was easier when you are in a room with fewer people. The above suggestions are all great! Hang out in the forums a bit :)

And yes the bdsm room is great.... Everyone is very friendly but I never got skittles :(


now you has skittles!



http://www.lushstories.com/stories/hardcore/west-coast-games-part-one-the-beach.aspx
elitfromnorth
Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 3:04:50 PM

Rank: Brawling Berserker

Joined: 2/12/2012
Posts: 1,614
Location: Burrowed, Norway
slipperywhenwet2012 wrote:
And also, just because a room has a certain theme doesn't mean that's always the subject being discussed. I'm not into BDSM at all, but I find myself hanging out in those rooms because the people/conversations are great. So don't be intimidated by room themes, either. Just dive in and talk. That's really all you can do.


I saw what you did with those LEGO men. You are so into the dark side of BDSM evil5

"It's at that point you realise Lady Luck is actually a hooker, and you're fresh out of cash."
Users browsing this topic
Guest 


Forum Jump
You cannot post new topics in this forum.
You cannot reply to topics in this forum.
You cannot delete your posts in this forum.
You cannot edit your posts in this forum.
You cannot create polls in this forum.
You cannot vote in polls in this forum.

Main Forum RSS : RSS

Powered by Yet Another Forum.net version 1.9.1.6 (NET v4.0) - 11/14/2007
Copyright © 2003-2006 Yet Another Forum.net. All rights reserved.