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Rank: Rookie Scribe
Joined: 8/30/2012
Posts: 8
Location: United Kingdom
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I joined lush 2-3 days ago, and I'm loving the stories, but struggling to get to grips with the chat rooms. I've been in them a few times. But as a "noob" I seem to get ignored !!!!! I've had possibly 3 chats in the last 3 days. Am I doing something wrong. I'm getting properly peeved off about it. I've not been rude or harassing. Please help me to better understand where I'm going wrong. So I can Chat with like-minded folk.
Sparky new boy in town.
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Rank: Gingerbread Lover
Joined: 1/6/2012
Posts: 3,289
Location: Trumpton, United Kingdom
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Welcome to Lush! 
You may find this thread helpful: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst15037_Chat-Room--Tips-and-Tricks.aspx
The chatrooms frighten me, so I either go into the Gold room when people are there, as it's quieter, or make my own and just invite a few friends in with a password.
I would suggest posting in the forums to get to know people, or contact some of the writers of stories you enjoyed to build up friendships. Going into the chat rooms is really intimidating for some of us. Try these areas:
The Pub: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_topics10_The-Pub.aspx
The Lounge: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_topics18_The-Lounge.aspx
Entertainment: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_topics25_Word--Forum-Games--Jokes.aspx
If you're brave, you could make your own room that's open to all, and call it something daft like "Newbie Looking For A Chat". Or... y'know... something cool. 
I hope that helps?
Ut incepit fidelis, sic permanet.
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Rank: Rookie Scribe
Joined: 8/30/2012
Posts: 8
Location: United Kingdom
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Cheers for the tips. I'll read up, then see how it goes.
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Rank: Internet Sensation
Joined: 3/30/2009
Posts: 3,976
Location: Cloudy dreams., Sweden
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Welcome to Lush. I'm sure you'll soon get some good chatting going. It can take some time to find people to talk to but usually it eases up after a while. If you ever see me in a chatroom I'm up for chatting. I've not been on much lately though, but I'm rather easy going when I am on. I hope you're having a great time already, Cheers Cat
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Rank: Cock Connoisseur
Joined: 4/25/2010
Posts: 1,644
Location: Bend, United States
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Welcome to Lush sparky the rooms will get easier. Just check out the rooms see how crowded they are. The more populated rooms some tend to get over looked in there unless you know some people. If you ever see me in a room just give me a holler or if I see you first I will most certainly welcome you :) Good luck and don't give up on the rooms you can meet some wonderful people in them. Ravyn
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Rank: Rookie Scribe
Joined: 8/30/2012
Posts: 8
Location: United Kingdom
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Thank you both for your support. Hope to see you about :)
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Rank: Lurker
Joined: 11/30/2006
Posts: 327,178
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It's like any other established place my friend. There are cliques, all kinds of group dynamics and even politics, feuds, and all the other dross of human behavior. Don't be in a rush. Be respectful and you'll find people with whom you can chat. Besides, if you really read what's being said in chatrooms, most of it is pretty banal anyway, so you're not missing too much.
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Rank: Her Royal Spriteness
Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 8,226
Location: Oz, United States
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i do chat rooms on occasion, sort of in spells, lately i've been hanging out again. i say hi to everyone - a lot of the 'old timers' do. and answer all posts directed at me - that said, if someone piques my interest, with what they say, i'll keep the conversation going, newcomer or not. if they don't, i get bored and will spend time with people who do, or with people i know and consider friends. simple as that - it's like a party, you walk in and sometimes it's a good fit and sometimes it's not - sometimes you are the new guy and it's hard to fit it - if you keep going back, tho, people start recognizing you and you become one of the regulars - it DOES take time - sometimes i'll go into a room with people i don't know and i'll have trouble catching people's attention, even tho i've been a member for a long time - it happens. just keep at it, and one day, you'll just click... that said, here's how i got started in chat - i found a member made room, there were 4 or 5 others in it - i started talking a little - with so few people it was easy to start a conversation and not get lost in the crowd - that's my advice - find a room with just a few members and join in.
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Rank: Constant Gardener
Joined: 9/30/2009
Posts: 9,517
Location: Cakeland, United States
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Sparky33kv wrote:I joined lush 2-3 days ago, and I'm loving the stories, but struggling to get to grips with the chat rooms. I've been in them a few times. But as a "noob" I seem to get ignored !!!!! I've had possibly 3 chats in the last 3 days. Am I doing something wrong. I'm getting properly peeved off about it. I've not been rude or harassing. Please help me to better understand where I'm going wrong. So I can Chat with like-minded folk.
Sparky new boy in town. Obviously, you need to hang out in the BDSM chatroom. Ask for Ravyn or JerseyLynn...they'll make you feel right at home. You may even find an obliging dominatrix as I did, oh those many moons ago.
 The best thing you can do for your fellow,
next to rousing his conscience, is - not to give him things
to think about, but to wake things up that are in him...
to make him think things for himself - George MacDonald
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Rank: Her Royal Spriteness
Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 8,226
Location: Oz, United States
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WellMadeMale wrote:
Obviously, you need to hang out in the BDSM chatroom. Ask for Ravyn or JerseyLynn...they'll make you feel right at home. You may even find an obliging dominatrix as I did, oh those many moons ago.
actually, the bdsm people are actually really friendly, actually. totally, actually so.
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Rank: Constant Gardener
Joined: 9/30/2009
Posts: 9,517
Location: Cakeland, United States
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sprite wrote:
actually, the bdsm people are actually really friendly, actually. totally, actually so.
I know they is. Mine trained me to lick her boots clean and gave me jolly rancher snacks afterwards! Beat that!
The best thing you can do for your fellow,
next to rousing his conscience, is - not to give him things
to think about, but to wake things up that are in him...
to make him think things for himself - George MacDonald
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Rank: Her Royal Spriteness
Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 8,226
Location: Oz, United States
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WellMadeMale wrote:
I know they is. Mine trained me to lick her boots clean and gave me jolly rancher snacks afterwards! Beat that!
i got skittles! 
Bitches in the Basement on Amazon by our own Dancing Doll
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Rank: Gingerbread Lover
Joined: 1/6/2012
Posts: 3,289
Location: Trumpton, United Kingdom
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Rank: Her Royal Spriteness
Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 8,226
Location: Oz, United States
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Shylass wrote:
(I still have no idea what's going on). [/color]
i never do, not matter what, all part of being me *giggles*
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Rank: Brawling Berserker
Joined: 2/12/2012
Posts: 1,330
Location: Not on your radar, Norway
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Like others have said, it is like a party. You won't get many conversations going by just sitting in the room and not talking to anyone. Just start talking to people and they'll more than likely answer you. Don't be shy, because unless you already know someone no one will adress you(unless you're a woman. Then all the guys will jump on you like a fresh piece of meat...)
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Rank: Corporal Turnip
Joined: 6/7/2012
Posts: 3,108
Location: Canada
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Hello and welcome to lush!! I totally know what you mean about the chats, I felt the same way at first, like everyone was ignoring me, until I started talking a bit more and that was easier when you are in a room with fewer people. The above suggestions are all great! Hang out in the forums a bit :) And yes the bdsm room is great.... Everyone is very friendly but I never got skittles :(
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Joined: 12/25/2010
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And also, just because a room has a certain theme doesn't mean that's always the subject being discussed. I'm not into BDSM at all, but I find myself hanging out in those rooms because the people/conversations are great. So don't be intimidated by room themes, either. Just dive in and talk. That's really all you can do.
"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You." - Dr. Seuss
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Rank: Her Royal Spriteness
Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 8,226
Location: Oz, United States
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 Saga wrote:Hello and welcome to lush!! I totally know what you mean about the chats, I felt the same way at first, like everyone was ignoring me, until I started talking a bit more and that was easier when you are in a room with fewer people. The above suggestions are all great! Hang out in the forums a bit :)
And yes the bdsm room is great.... Everyone is very friendly but I never got skittles :( now you has skittles! 
Bitches in the Basement on Amazon by our own Dancing Doll
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Rank: Brawling Berserker
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Location: Not on your radar, Norway
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slipperywhenwet2012 wrote:And also, just because a room has a certain theme doesn't mean that's always the subject being discussed. I'm not into BDSM at all, but I find myself hanging out in those rooms because the people/conversations are great. So don't be intimidated by room themes, either. Just dive in and talk. That's really all you can do. I saw what you did with those LEGO men. You are so into the dark side of BDSM 
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