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Posted: Thursday, October 04, 2012 9:04:11 PM

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I am feeling very insecure in my current relationship. But I really want it to work... He doesnt understand whats wrong...do I tell him? How do I tell him? If I don't tell him how do I settle my nerves to make the relationship work??
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Posted: Thursday, October 04, 2012 9:26:50 PM

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A good relationship is very much about honesty and trust. If your worried it's something that might upset him then it's best to find out now than further down the road. By all means if your a drinker then have a few drinks to steady your nerves but don't drink too much or he will just think your not serious. Much better to have a relaxing bath with some oils to make you feel good to put you in the mood to talk. Oh and make sure you have plenty of time to discuss whatever it is, there's nothing worse than saying something and then having to dive off somewhere without discussion.
















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Posted: Thursday, October 04, 2012 10:01:20 PM

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kyliekained wrote:
A good relationship is very much about honesty and trust. If your worried it's something that might upset him then it's best to find out now than further down the road. By all means if your a drinker then have a few drinks to steady your nerves but don't drink too much or he will just think your not serious. Much better to have a relaxing bath with some oils to make you feel good to put you in the mood to talk. Oh and make sure you have plenty of time to discuss whatever it is, there's nothing worse than saying something and then having to dive off somewhere without discussion.


Well said!!

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Posted: Thursday, October 04, 2012 10:38:22 PM

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It is almost impossible to answer because we don't know what the problem is, but one thing is certain. If you cannot communicate openly, your relationship is in very deep trouble already.

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Posted: Sunday, October 07, 2012 9:33:47 PM

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He doesn't understand because communication is key, you have to specify to him what kind of insecurity you're feeling. Bodily, emotionally, whatever the case might be.. you have to sit down with him and help him understand and come to some sort of solution, or find a way to shed away your insecurities. It takes time, patience, love and understanding.. all of these things I hope he is able to give you. Good luck Xx

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Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 5:12:41 PM

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if u think things will be better if he realises the drawbacks on his own.. wait a bit, give small hints. men generally dont like to be told but they do find it amazing when they explore small hints and tend to think that they realised it themselves. goodluck! thumbup
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Posted: Saturday, October 27, 2012 10:46:55 PM

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If you are simply feeling insecure for no reason, why the hell isn't he picking up on that and asking some probing questions? If he is that insensitive you need to look for greener pastures.

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