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BelleduJour
Posted: Sunday, September 09, 2012 2:48:14 PM

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When you first have sex with someone, is it more important to you that your partner is a 'good' lover or that your partner thinks you are a 'good' lover?

sweeter
Posted: Sunday, September 09, 2012 9:16:28 PM

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being a good lover because if you put effort in to it hopefully your lover will come to meet you

Anything you think is sweet, I'm a little more than that.
Guest
Posted: Monday, September 10, 2012 1:02:15 AM

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Only by being, can you have.
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Posted: Monday, September 10, 2012 1:19:28 AM

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Being a good lover is better.
blackpoolguy
Posted: Monday, September 10, 2012 2:03:03 AM

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you cannot have one without the other
Guest
Posted: Monday, September 10, 2012 7:44:12 AM

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Happy12 wrote:
Only by being, can you have.


Yes!
Guest
Posted: Monday, September 10, 2012 1:29:14 PM

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Happy12 wrote:
Only by being, can you have.


Absolutely! Perfectly stated.
adeleeve
Posted: Monday, September 10, 2012 3:20:39 PM

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It takes 2 if you are a good lover they will become a good lover
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Posted: Monday, September 10, 2012 4:30:22 PM

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being submissive i would say being a good lover, my partners needs and desires come first and are most important to me that i fulfill his needs first. in general i think to have a good lover you also need to be a good lover, it comes from that intensity to please each other, those fireworks that explode by having a good lover and by being a good lover
Guest
Posted: Monday, September 10, 2012 4:32:06 PM

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Happy12 wrote:
Only by being, can you have.



EXACTLY
adele
Posted: Sunday, September 23, 2012 3:57:14 PM

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I think being a good lover, because you can also inspire or teach your partner to become one as well.

There is no mark of self,
And no mark of others,
No mark of living beings,
And no mark of a life.


-- The Diamond Sutra
Strongat47
Posted: Sunday, September 23, 2012 3:59:30 PM

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Being a good lover LEADS TO HAVING A GOOD LOVER!
Guest
Posted: Sunday, September 23, 2012 6:54:18 PM

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Strongat47 wrote:
Being a good lover LEADS TO HAVING A GOOD LOVER!


Couldn't have said it better myself!
Americanheart
Posted: Sunday, September 23, 2012 6:55:07 PM

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being a good lover

angeldust
Posted: Sunday, September 23, 2012 7:10:59 PM

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Being a good lover...
2Browsers
Posted: Tuesday, September 25, 2012 6:59:20 AM

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If you are a good lover, whoever you are with will come up to your standards, making them good as well......
SirBunny
Posted: Tuesday, September 25, 2012 3:05:47 PM

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I'm all for being a good lover, BUT, it stands to reason that if you had a good lover, you yourself would rise to thier "level", in time no matter which one is chosen, the end result should be that, you would both be, good lovers.




Guest
Posted: Wednesday, October 10, 2012 8:34:14 PM

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Being a good lover cus I love to please and I get off on pleasing my partner. Once her back arches and the toes curl it's time to really go the exxxtra mile ;) I think when you can totally please your partner everything cums into place ;)
Guest
Posted: Thursday, October 11, 2012 10:19:27 AM

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Having a good lover. why would I want to do all the work?
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Posted: Thursday, October 11, 2012 11:41:57 AM

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both
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Posted: Thursday, October 11, 2012 11:44:21 AM

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Being a good lover of course! It' easy with the right lover.
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Posted: Thursday, October 11, 2012 3:58:19 PM

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588-rolleyes Honestly, I think it is good to have both in a relationship. My husband isn't just a good lover, he is a great lover. I feel as if I am being a good lover me. But that's for him to answer. Lol!
Guest
Posted: Thursday, October 11, 2012 4:07:13 PM

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To answer Pinkluva, you are the PERFECT lover for me.

As to the question at hand: I believe that it's more important to be a good lover. Having a good lover is a great blessing, but it seems selfish if that's all you are looking for and you may not grow sexually.

I always try to be the best lover I possibly can be. I do have weak areas but my wife tenderly helps me work through them. (Well, she can be quite rough sometimes, but that works for me too!)



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Nikki703
Posted: Saturday, October 13, 2012 10:40:19 AM

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Strongat47 wrote:
Being a good lover LEADS TO HAVING A GOOD LOVER!


So True!!!
Budlee
Posted: Wednesday, October 24, 2012 10:51:41 AM

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Being a good lover comes first. If you don't have a good lover, then I suppose you can always find a new one (if one is so inclined).
Green_Man
Posted: Saturday, October 27, 2012 11:26:57 PM

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Being a good lover is the main point of all sex. If I am not good for her, then she will not be good for me. Otherwise, it might as well be hand lotion and tissues.

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Guest
Posted: Thursday, January 17, 2013 1:01:53 PM

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Being a good lover is most important to me, i love to please and be pleasing, knowing i am being a good lover is such an amazing turn on

love8
Dudealicious
Posted: Thursday, January 17, 2013 2:27:35 PM

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tinkerkitty wrote:
Being a good lover is most important to me, i love to please and be pleasing, knowing i am being a good lover is such an amazing turn on

love8


Never mind the fact that they want to come back for more more more! drunken

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bidad4all
Posted: Thursday, January 17, 2013 6:52:36 PM

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being a good lover...i gfet off on pleasing for one thing; for another thing, one can often teach pleasure by being a good example.
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Posted: Thursday, January 17, 2013 7:06:51 PM

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I believe it would be more beneficial that the partner be a good lover... To teach what a good lover is all about.
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