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When you first have sex with someone, is it more important to you that your partner is a 'good' lover or that your partner thinks you are a 'good' lover?
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being a good lover because if you put effort in to it hopefully your lover will come to meet you
Anything you think is sweet, I'm a little more than that.
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Only by being, can you have.
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Being a good lover is better.
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you cannot have one without the other
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Happy12 wrote:Only by being, can you have. Yes!
For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul. Judy Garland
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Happy12 wrote:Only by being, can you have. Absolutely! Perfectly stated.
For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul. Judy Garland
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It takes 2 if you are a good lover they will become a good lover
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being submissive i would say being a good lover, my partners needs and desires come first and are most important to me that i fulfill his needs first. in general i think to have a good lover you also need to be a good lover, it comes from that intensity to please each other, those fireworks that explode by having a good lover and by being a good lover
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Happy12 wrote:Only by being, can you have. EXACTLY
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I think being a good lover, because you can also inspire or teach your partner to become one as well.
There is no mark of self,
And no mark of others,
No mark of living beings,
And no mark of a life.
-- The Diamond Sutra
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Being a good lover LEADS TO HAVING A GOOD LOVER!
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Strongat47 wrote:Being a good lover LEADS TO HAVING A GOOD LOVER!
Couldn't have said it better myself!
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being a good lover
Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity.
George S. Patton
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Being a good lover...
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If you are a good lover, whoever you are with will come up to your standards, making them good as well......
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I'm all for being a good lover, BUT, it stands to reason that if you had a good lover, you yourself would rise to thier "level", in time no matter which one is chosen, the end result should be that, you would both be, good lovers.
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Being a good lover cus I love to please and I get off on pleasing my partner. Once her back arches and the toes curl it's time to really go the exxxtra mile ;) I think when you can totally please your partner everything cums into place ;)
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Having a good lover. why would I want to do all the work?
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both
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Being a good lover of course! It' easy with the right lover.
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 Honestly, I think it is good to have both in a relationship. My husband isn't just a good lover, he is a great lover. I feel as if I am being a good lover me. But that's for him to answer. Lol!
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To answer Pinkluva, you are the PERFECT lover for me. As to the question at hand: I believe that it's more important to be a good lover. Having a good lover is a great blessing, but it seems selfish if that's all you are looking for and you may not grow sexually. I always try to be the best lover I possibly can be. I do have weak areas but my wife tenderly helps me work through them. (Well, she can be quite rough sometimes, but that works for me too!)  
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Strongat47 wrote:Being a good lover LEADS TO HAVING A GOOD LOVER!
So True!!!
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Being a good lover comes first. If you don't have a good lover, then I suppose you can always find a new one (if one is so inclined).
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Being a good lover is the main point of all sex. If I am not good for her, then she will not be good for me. Otherwise, it might as well be hand lotion and tissues.
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Being a good lover is most important to me, i love to please and be pleasing, knowing i am being a good lover is such an amazing turn on 
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tinkerkitty wrote:Being a good lover is most important to me, i love to please and be pleasing, knowing i am being a good lover is such an amazing turn on Never mind the fact that they want to come back for more more more! 
The night that changed my life, a four part series of a married man lusting after his co-worker 
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being a good lover...i gfet off on pleasing for one thing; for another thing, one can often teach pleasure by being a good example.
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I believe it would be more beneficial that the partner be a good lover... To teach what a good lover is all about.
Sex" is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other.
Marquis de Sade
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