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apronedsamurai
Posted: Monday, October 29, 2012 3:35:00 AM

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I feel exceptionally silly writing this; and fear that I may perhaps find myself the recipient of a rebuke, but its causing enough angst in me to risk the censure.

There is a girl in my class who I do not speak to, have no friends in common with; and generally move in different circles. And yet; I am immensely excited and aroused by her; drawing comfort from the sight of her and her perfume. In short, there is no shortage of lust directed towards this girl.

And yet; whenever I try to visualise her in a sexual way, or even a faintly erotic way....I can't. I cannot do it all, the images won't appear in my head and I actually find myself feeling guilty (!) and ashamed of thinking about her like that.

I know that fantasy is harmless and that as long as it is either unacted upon or acted upon with a consenting partner, then there is no problems. But it seems, for this girl; I just can't even manage that.

Then there are other females, who my imagination goes rampant about and although I would die on the spot with fear should they discover what beastly thoughts I have about then, I am able to visualise them erotically (and indeed have, and climaxed to that).

This girl with whom I have the blind spot for does not remind me of any my family members, she isnt religious or otherwise overly virginal...so why is she causing such an abhorrent reaction?

Dudealicious
Posted: Monday, October 29, 2012 11:58:47 AM

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apronedsamurai wrote:

There is a girl in my class who I do not speak to, have no friends in common with; and generally move in different circles. And yet; I am immensely excited and aroused by her; drawing comfort from the sight of her and her perfume. In short, there is no shortage of lust directed towards this girl.

And yet; whenever I try to visualise her in a sexual way, or even a faintly erotic way....I can't. I cannot do it all, the images won't appear in my head and I actually find myself feeling guilty (!) and ashamed of thinking about her like that.

This girl with whom I have the blind spot for does not remind me of any my family members, she isnt religious or otherwise overly virginal...so why is she causing such an abhorrent reaction?



Quite frankly I think this is not a girl you are lusting after, this very well may be a woman of whom you would like to be in-love with. Your reaction of not being able to visualize her in various states of undress and (uh hem) means that you very well may care for her on a different level than all of the other girls you have wanked off to.

You may have found a great match, and your subconcious is letting you know to take your time and not screw this one up. Don't treat her like one of your fuck fantasies and end up possibly losing her forever.

Congratulations, now go and introduce yourself man.......Good luck!

The night that changed my life, a four part series of a married man lusting after his co-worker

elitfromnorth
Posted: Thursday, November 01, 2012 9:36:00 AM

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Strangely, I know exactly what you mean. Had the same thing for a girl some time back and it took me a while before building up the courage to make a move. Sadly(well, not so sad now, but it was at the time) as I did, it was one of those "watch me crash and burn as I ask a hot girl that has no interest in me out" kind of things and it was a blatant no.

Like dude said; this is the girl you want to love, not fuck. It's time to stop circling and time o make your move. Try not to use any crappy pick up lines and fuck this up, because then you'll be kicking yourself afterwards. You'll also be kicking yourself if you don't ask her out at all, because if you're anything like me you're gonna have a mind filled with "What if?" scenarios.

"It's at that point you realise Lady Luck is actually a hooker, and you're fresh out of cash."
Shylass
Posted: Thursday, November 01, 2012 10:06:36 AM

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I don't know if this will help or not, but if I seriously like a lad, I can't fantasise about him. I do have a very vivid imagination, and to think of him "that way" builds up a false character, with reactions and signals that aren't there in reality. I cannot think of him sexually beyond what it would feel like to cuddle him, because to do so would make my reactions to him in real life be not only embarassing, but they would lead to a heavy put-down when it turns out he doesn't feel the same.

If I truly fancy somebody, I can only go on how they react to me in real life, or I would read far too much into things, or get confused when they act differently to how I am expecting them to.




Ut incepit fidelis, sic permanet.

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Guest
Posted: Thursday, November 01, 2012 12:52:10 PM

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I think "The Dude"ealicious is right on the money. Might as well go for broke
blazestcyr
Posted: Friday, November 16, 2012 11:04:04 AM

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not a thing wrong with you

take all the advice given

if nothing happens at least u wont be "what if'ing"

if something does....well

that will be YOUR fantasy.....

:)
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