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Posted: Thursday, November 01, 2012 8:09:25 AM

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TheDevilsWeakness wrote:


Everything is better after bacon... and coffee... drunken

And I refuse to acknowledge the narrow minded twit and his further ramblings because well, I'm bored already and I need to go out and hang around my guy friends. They aren't as judgmental or bitter as he is at the ripe old age of 19. But then they're also a bit wiser than this guy since they know enough to shut up and listen when someone gives them advice.





is ten past two, too early?
Guest
Posted: Thursday, November 01, 2012 8:27:26 AM

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For the attention of LAD

Under your posting there are four words, respect, loyalty, trust and love. It seems to be a little lacking in one of them I'm afraid. (whispers, RESPECT)
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Posted: Thursday, November 01, 2012 8:33:33 AM

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lafayettemister wrote:


Ah yes, the "I'm gonna be me no matter what" defense. Also known as the "it's ok that I'm an asshole because I'm an honest asshole" defense.


I will say it again. LM, your honest assholedness is one of the qualities I just LURV about you! evil4


Now, I'm going to go on about my day and try not to be kidnapped. dontknow I swear I'm gonna log off for a whole hour or two.



It won a potato. Aren't you intrigued?



Shylass
Posted: Thursday, November 01, 2012 9:56:13 AM

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lifeafterdeath
Posted: Thursday, November 01, 2012 6:35:24 PM

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Alright, you people seem to know what you're talking about and I'm in the mood to make some life changing decisions (I'm 19, what could I possibly lose besides my sanity?) . Please, tell me how to be less of an asshole and avoid marrying exactly the type of person I despise right now, help me to not be 'pussy-whipped' and 'hen-pecked'.

I'm halfway gone.
Shylass
Posted: Thursday, November 01, 2012 6:46:22 PM

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lifeafterdeath wrote:
Alright, you people seem to know what you're talking about and I'm in the mood to make some life changing decisions (I'm 19, what could I possibly lose besides my sanity?) . Please, tell me how to be less of an asshole and avoid marrying exactly the type of person I despise right now, help me to not be 'pussy-whipped' and 'hen-pecked'.


If you aren't being sarcastic, then I would suggest that being respectful to and about other people (even the ones you don't like) would be a great start.

If you show respect, you often get respect. When you are given respect, your confidence grows. When you have a healthy, respectful confidence, you won't be taken for a ride, but will be more capable of sharing in a healthy relationship with a respectful partner. That's because you will have learned to recognise one.

That's what I think, in my idealistic little fantasy world, anyway.



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lafayettemister
Posted: Friday, November 02, 2012 6:53:11 AM

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lifeafterdeath wrote:
Alright, you people seem to know what you're talking about and I'm in the mood to make some life changing decisions (I'm 19, what could I possibly lose besides my sanity?) . Please, tell me how to be less of an asshole and avoid marrying exactly the type of person I despise right now, help me to not be 'pussy-whipped' and 'hen-pecked'.


Honestly, quit seeing everyone and pre-judging them on what you think you already know. Just like conspiracy theorists, if you're looking for conspiracy, you're going to find it. If you think all women are bitches, then they'll all always be that to you. Wipe the slate clean and venture out into the world with a new attitude. You're not going to get everyone woman you see to fall in love or want to go out for drinks with you. Find the ones that are right for you and you're right for them. Chill out and let it happen naturally.





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lifeafterdeath
Posted: Friday, November 02, 2012 6:42:52 PM

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Okay, how do I say this so you people actually understand what I'm saying........?
I do NOT think that all women are bitches. Get that through your thick skulls.

I'm halfway gone.
Shylass
Posted: Friday, November 02, 2012 8:24:26 PM

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lifeafterdeath wrote:
Okay, how do I say this so you people actually understand what I'm saying........?
I do NOT think that all women are bitches. Get that through your thick skulls.


So we iz not bitchez, we iz just fick, innit.

I knew you being serious was too good to be true. This would be where that respectful behaviour would have been useful. Respect breeds respect. If I was meaner than I am, I'd call you an arrogant, narrow-minded, fuck-witted little toss-pot. But I'm a bit nicer than that, so I won't. angel7


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Posted: Friday, November 02, 2012 8:33:02 PM

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lifeafterdeath wrote:
Okay, how do I say this so you people actually understand what I'm saying........?
I do NOT think that all women are bitches. Get that through your thick skulls.


dang...

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Posted: Friday, November 02, 2012 10:26:08 PM

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This poor 19 yo has two possible futures, One he dies alone, a bitter old man or exactly the way Lafayettemister envisioned and wishes he could die. He might want to consider not dating women until he learns more about women. Hint - right now he doesn't have a clue!
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Posted: Friday, November 02, 2012 10:47:24 PM

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Successful troll is successful.



Baby put your arms around me, tell me I'm a problem...

lifeafterdeath
Posted: Saturday, November 03, 2012 7:30:27 PM

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slipperywhenwet2012 wrote:
Successful troll is successful.


You're damn right I am.

I'm halfway gone.
Shylass
Posted: Saturday, November 03, 2012 7:44:00 PM

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lifeafterdeath wrote:


You're damn right I am.


Let me get this straight... You actually wanted us to think you're a wanker?

Okay. sunny


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lifeafterdeath
Posted: Sunday, November 04, 2012 12:35:12 PM

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Sure, why not?

I'm halfway gone.
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Posted: Sunday, November 04, 2012 12:56:58 PM

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lifeafterdeath wrote:
Sure, why not?


jerk

Shylass
Posted: Sunday, November 04, 2012 1:11:32 PM

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crazydiamond wrote:


jerk


kekekegay

What was this thread about? I'll have to go and read the original post because I can't remember. no

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Posted: Sunday, November 04, 2012 1:52:17 PM

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Sometimes being single is better and other times being in a relationship can make someone happy too. Most everybody varies on their opinion from time to time, but a healthy relationship is a good relationship.
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Posted: Sunday, November 04, 2012 1:59:37 PM

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i have watched the little wanker take over this thread... and i read what everyone says.... but to go back to the original thought... it is easier to give up and whine about it than to be open to a real relationship... be his friend... call him on it.....

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Posted: Sunday, November 04, 2012 5:14:16 PM

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lifeafterdeath wrote:

Now that we have identified a bitch, we must now learn to avoid the bitch, and for that you'd have to BURROW TO THE CENTER OF THE EARTH, OR MOVE TO THE MOON and even then you'll run into the motherfuckers.

Bitches are everywhere, you cannot escape them.


No, we did not identify anything. Honestly, I have no response to this. Its a joke, right?? Actually, I'll just say this, I feel sorry for your mother..Your father must be a piece of work..

Shylass
Posted: Sunday, November 04, 2012 5:33:32 PM

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SydneySider wrote:


No, we did not identify anything. Honestly, I have no response to this. Its a joke, right?? Actually, I'll just say this, I feel sorry for your mother..Your father must be a piece of work..


Maybe his mum is a bitch? dontknow

(Sorry, I couldn't resist it).

I don't know why people have to be one thing or the other. I have friends who hate being alone, and have to have a partner no matter what, even at the expense of their family and social life. Likewise, I know a few who prefer not to have any sort of commitment at all, just having random sex when they can get it.

I have fears about what guys are like based on the few experiences I have (not very pleasant, for the most part), but it wouldn't swear me off all of them for life. The hope that they aren't all liars and abusers some how manages to cling on, no matter how much it might make me bitter or afraid. And if it did swear me off them all, that would be my fault, not theirs.




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Posted: Sunday, November 04, 2012 6:23:11 PM

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LauraLee_sugah wrote:
i have watched the little wanker take over this thread... and i read what everyone says.... but to go back to the original thought... it is easier to give up and whine about it than to be open to a real relationship... be his friend... call him on it.....


Yeah. No (iIp) whining, dammit!

"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
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Posted: Sunday, November 04, 2012 8:17:30 PM

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crazydiamond wrote:
"I do not hate women. I actually admire them a whole lot. They run the risk of being raped and kidnapped everyday, but they still take the chance of going out into the world, making it a better place. Without women, the human race would be non existent. Women make the world go around. Women are not as nasty or sick or ill minded as some men. Seriously, some dudes are sick in their head, goin' round raping and shit.."


WTF is that all about? Who thinks like that? angry7


Is it just me or is this a terribly disturbing statement? He sounds like a future rapist or a present one.Nutbag

As to the OP there is not enough of a portrait of your friend to give clear advice, maybe he needs time off from relationships to decide what sort of relationship he wants.
Relationships are never easy, they take time and a give and take attitude to work.
But giving up is asking for a lonely existence.
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Posted: Monday, November 05, 2012 3:23:07 AM

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lifeafterdeath wrote:

A bitch will lose interest in your views and everything you stand for 10 seconds after you open your mouth.
Shit....



Sweet heart
If this is the quality of your conversation then I quite understand why women tune out as soon as you start talking

lafayettemister
Posted: Monday, November 05, 2012 6:41:03 AM

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lifeafterdeath wrote:
Okay, how do I say this so you people actually understand what I'm saying........?
I do NOT think that all women are bitches. Get that through your thick skulls.


Just so we're all clear and we all understand, what percentage of women do you think are bitches?





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Posted: Monday, November 05, 2012 12:53:52 PM

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lizzygurrl wrote:
Hi, I have a 36 year old male colleague who has been single for over 8 years now. He's had a few relationships that ended on a sour note and now he has given up, saying that relationships are too complicated because to a large extent they are based on emotion which can be fickle and irrational. Apparently he's always treated his girlfriends really well but they always played "mindgames" on him and didn't tell him what was wrong when clearly there was something bothering them. He now reckons that many women are "too stupid and ungrateful" when it comes to relationships.
He's a really good-natured, hardworking and polite guy but has a very no-nonsense attitude to everything and finds it hard to forgive when wronged.

What's your opinion, have you ever come across this type of person before?

lol sounds just like someone on here I know, in his 30s,gave up dating for nearly 10years, not gonna mention any names of course cough cough Wooody, lol
lifeafterdeath
Posted: Thursday, November 08, 2012 7:44:13 PM

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So, respect women...... That's all?

I'm halfway gone.
Guest
Posted: Saturday, November 10, 2012 3:05:07 PM

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Relationships are fucking stupid!
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Posted: Saturday, November 10, 2012 3:16:02 PM

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She wrote:
I think that guy in lizzygurrl 's OP is just lazy. He doesn't want to be taken out of his comfort zone and he is blaming somebody else for it. In this case women.

Does he complain much would be my first question? If he does, than there you have it. People who complain/whine about pretty much everything, are lazy, not responsible for their actions, just waiting for a hint of a good luck to save them. Well, that's not going to happen if he doesn't sit down and have a talk with himself, what does he actually want, and figure out how to get there.
I do believe we have a winner imoclapping gratz. Well done lass.


Lizzy, i dont think you provided enough information about this fellow, care to share more?

I see a lot of posters just speculating here.


Lifeafterdeath, you are correct in some small ways but, good luck to you. Maybe just stfu mate.


I hate being late to these parties.


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