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My husband Roland and I have wondered is cyber sex cheating. I do not think that it is and have told my husband that, however there are some people that I have asked who have said that it is. What are your thoughts?
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depends... are you upfront about telling your spouse that you're having cyber sex and if so, are they ok with it? if so, then no, it's not cheating. that's my thought - if you're keeping it a secret, hiding it from him, then you're being dishonest and yes, it is cheating.
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I say no, my wife says yes. My cybersex partners say no.
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IMO:
If you are committed to another whether married, engaged, or just "going together" and you have any kind of relationship outside of that, it's cheating. Plain and simple. I'm a "dance with the one what brung ya" kinda guy. I have My pet whom I am totally committed to. I have no need nor desire to go outside of our relationship for sex - real or imagined.
Do I fantasize, sure. But most of My fantasies are realized in the one sleeping next to Me.
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sprite wrote:depends... are you upfront about telling your spouse that you're having cyber sex and if so, are they ok with it? if so, then no, it's not cheating. that's my thought - if you're keeping it a secret, hiding it from him, then you're being dishonest and yes, it is cheating. My boyfriend knows that I cyber sometime. He usually doesn't care. Sometimes he watches over my shoulder. If he thinks I'm going to far he asks me to stop, and I do. I'm not supposed to cyber with guys without asking him first, but I have a couple of times when he wasn't home, but I always told him after. It's an easy way for me to get a spanking. There are secrets in every relationship though. I've cybered with guys who don't want their girlfriends to know about it. And girls, I might add. What really keeps me from cybering more though is that some guys get too demanding. They want a relationship that I'm not willing to have. I have a relationship already. I'm just on here for fun and games. Quick, dirty fun.
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The question should be reformulated. "Is cyber sex without your SO's knowledge and approval cheating?" If the question is formed like that then I will most defientely say yes. If your partner is aware of you doing it and is ok with you doing it then I'd say no. After all you have swingers and open relationships/marriages. In their eyes they're not cheating, just doing something different. So it all depends on whether your partner is ok with it or not. If they're not ok with it then you're definetely cheating whenever you're having cyber, especially if you don't tell him afterwards(unlike Ruthie who only uses us guys to get a good spanking  ).
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sprite wrote:depends... are you upfront about telling your spouse that you're having cyber sex and if so, are they ok with it? if so, then no, it's not cheating. that's my thought - if you're keeping it a secret, hiding it from him, then you're being dishonest and yes, it is cheating. This. Its all about perception. Some people feel masturbation is cheating. My opinion is, if you know that telling your significant other you cyber will piss them off, you are cheating. If they sit and watch you get off while you type, you're not
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if you need to hide it from your lover, its cheating
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If partner doesn't know, yes it's cheating.
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has to be the same as cheating or you would tell your other half, sure you can justify it by saying it's a naughty sexually arousing secret that drives you wild and your partner reaps the benefits but so is fucking strangers in hotels behind your partners back, you see if 1 of the 2 things here get your partner pissed , bet your ass so will the other
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I would question why someone would feel the need to engage in cyber sex behind the back of their significant other. If they are not getting what they need then it's time to open a dialog. If they can't talk with their partner, something is seriously wrong. If it's for some other reason, perhaps they aren't ready for a committed relationship.
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Thank you all for your comments. I have been up front with my husband about cyber sex and he loves it when I do have cyber sex.
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as long you enjoy it it is not cheating , you may also tell your partner if you like ,although i dont tell her
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Na, put it down to having some fun, however, if the respective partner was to find out, it would maybe not be so much fun...
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Personally I think it is cheating.
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Cyber sex is the very worst form of cheating.
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if 2 people are not getting along but stay together for reasons
then no it isnt cheating
if you are happy why would you need to ? would you want your partner to do it on you ?
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IMO if you are doing something you wouldn't do in front of your partner, then it's cheating.
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