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Any tricks or advice?? I just cant get there and its rather frustrating and puts me off having sex
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My partner always cums while I use my tongue on her while rimming her with my finger. Try it :-)
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You must explore your own body. Discover the sensitive areas or specific spots. For most they are obvious, like the clitoris, or the G-spot (about one to two inches up and on on the inner part of the vagina.) But some women are quite sensitive in other spots. I can make my wife cum just squeezing her thigh, or calf. Every woman is different. Do it. Touch yourself while thinking of someone who has always turned you on. You will be surprised. And then, pass on this knowledge to your partner.
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First you need to relax find what feels good and explore it. Don't be afraid to encourage your lover in what feels best to you. Clear your head and enjoy. Men can't always use the same moves on you that worked on the one before.
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It all sounds clinical.
What are you trying to achieve? Some kind of records?
Do you know who you are with?
You talk, you joke, drink, you kiss, you touch each other, it is all about feelings, understanding and atmosphere.
Then it becomes so easy. You take your time and you enjoy yourself
Don't rush, take it nice and easy and then well it all depends.....with Tina Turner on the background
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Well you have definitely come to the right place to get some free advice. Personally I think the orgasm for a woman is much more then physical stimulation. It starts with your mind - intellectual foreplay and getting in the proper mood. Maybe have your current lover read (out loud) some of the stories on here to you.
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I suggest you first get in tune with your body. Select at time and place where you won't be disturbed and have no where to go. Get yourself relaxed, whether that be a long bath, sauna, etc., then draw the blinds, turn down the lights, strip, and get comfortable. Then s-l-o-w-l-y explore your body and do what feels good finding all your particular erogenous zones. After several sessions, you'll come to understand how your body responds, and what to do to increase your sexual excitation to continue to raise your response levels, eventually to orgasm.
Good luck; let us know how it turns out.
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So many different ways, but I agree with the others, self exploration is the first step, I can however suggest that you try with your lover on top, sliding his cock slowly over your clit, works for me every time!
...sorry just realised this was ask the guys but if it helps!
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You have to be tricky and patient not to mention she must first want that herself.
Trying to sound cool. Too much work left.
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Don't worry about it ... you are not alone in this orgasmic seeking world of the 21st century. There are many reasons why you fail to orgasm during sex - or even masturbation ... I'll try to highlight a few possibles. Firstly, if you start on the road to sex expecting to climax you are down the road to failure from the word go. It has to evolve from foreplay to penetration to full sex and to whatever ... you and your partner are inter-dependent on each other for sexual results. Men can orgasm virtually at will - we girls need a hell of a lot more.
A famous football club manager here in UK always told his football players before every game: " go out there and just play a good game of football - the goals will come on their own" .. they did and the same is true of sex.
Try and relax before and during intercourse. You're not on Sex Olympics ... hell it's supposed to be fun and the most thrilling thing in your life but while you subscribe to the ideals of porn movies or whatever Lush says is the norm and feel you have to live up to all that crap you are changing all the fun for a challenge.
Finally ... for a girl ... it does help if you are at one with your sexual partner. You need to love the guy and be a part of his soul and being. Men can and will shoot their sperm inside almost any available female ... but we are different.
I've been in the past a very avant-garde type of girl and found no difficulty meeting, having sex with and orgasming to and with a whole host of different guys - but I still understand the feelings of my own sex. Chat to me if you wish and if I can offer further help or advice I'll gladly do so.
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Patience patience patience!! Loosen up, take your time, work the whole body, and build her up. Use all your tools and touch all the right buttons
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Foreplay and being great at using toys and eating pussy works for me. But still sometimes the lady is over stimulated and cann't, which is fine. There are times believe it or not when a guy doesn't cum.
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Emily
Start off by not making the big O the goal. Just relax & try to enjoy your experience solo or with a partner.
Try a few different things that don't creep you out & learn what you respond to.
Use this to refine your skills & you should get closer & closer...
Clear communication with a partner will stop them from guessing.
Try a responsible amount of alcohol...
Keep practicing...
-Its vague but I know you not.
Good Luck
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emzy3492 wrote:Any tricks or advice?? I just cant get there and its rather frustrating and puts me off having sex just relax and ask him to take his time and not to hurry... try very gentle touchs for a long period of time..
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” ― Helen Keller
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emzy3492 wrote:Any tricks or advice?? I just cant get there and its rather frustrating and puts me off having sex just relax and ask him to take his time and not to hurry... try very gentle touchs for a long period of time..
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” ― Helen Keller
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I would suggests playing together. Watch each other climax; transition into helping each other play, and maybe trying out a few new toys. There are a few message techniques that can help as well. Find that G-spot together and have lots of fun with it!! :)
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Emzy It's not you that needs the advice but your partner all you need to do is relax and enjoy never hold back your true emotions and you will soon hit that wonderful high.
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emzy3492 wrote:Any tricks or advice?? I just cant get there and its rather frustrating and puts me off having sex Some women cannot orgasm. Every person is different. If she doesn't orgasm it could be because she cannot. Just try to work with what you have.
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