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Kayte7
Posted: Monday, August 09, 2010 7:42:00 AM

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Quoting a friend, who was probably quoting another friend, "Sex and pizza. When they're good, they're very good. And when it's bad,...they're still pretty good." I don't totally agree. Just thought it was funny. And, knowing him, he probably believes this, too.

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Posted: Monday, August 09, 2010 11:13:55 AM

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A bad sex encounter is like a speeding ticket: done in five minutes, with one party satisfied and the other not. I've had my share and they weren't pretty.

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Posted: Wednesday, August 11, 2010 3:39:20 PM

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LadySharon wrote:
A bad sex encounter is like a speeding ticket: done in five minutes, with one party satisfied and the other not. I've had my share and they weren't pretty.


My thoughts exactly. Except I was going to say 2 minutes.
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Posted: Wednesday, August 11, 2010 6:10:53 PM

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I think most of the responses for there is no bad sex will be from guys, unfortunately some of us are assholes and think the world revolves around themselves, when their lives should revolve around the one they are with.
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Posted: Tuesday, August 31, 2010 5:29:20 PM

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Bad sex yes, yes and yes.

This may be more for us girls/woman. Since men in there younger years can almost alway find a way to ejaculate, they most likely would think all sex is good sex. Just some is better than others. It seems to me that most of us had to be taught or had to find a way to learn to have satisfiing sex. It was not necessarily his fault either. We all had to learn.

I think back to my first attempts, I was less than inadequate at the thing called sex. Now I kind of feel sorry for my playmates at that time, but of course all they really wanted was a place to dump their load.

But I learned, or did I ever learn.
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Posted: Wednesday, September 01, 2010 1:07:27 AM

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Pffffft!!!!

When ever I hear someone say there is no such thing as bad sex I do get my knickers in a twist. For everything in life has two sides. A good and a bad side. Sex is no different.

Now on the other hand.... if you've not had sex in a long while... and you actually get to have sex.... it is better than nothing. So!!! Gentlemen and those Ladies who do say it... I have unbunched my knickers and I salute you. You are filled with optimism!!!!!! Way to go!

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Posted: Wednesday, September 01, 2010 1:26:36 AM

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I think bad sex is when you are infected with that dreaded thing or things....some cost money to get rid of and the other is forever......
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Posted: Wednesday, September 01, 2010 8:27:35 PM

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WellMadeMale wrote:
On another forum I frequent (it is strictly a male only board, and has been since 1999) - it's often been stated:

There is no such thing as bad sex.

I disagree and I find myself in the vocal minority at a ratio of about 35 to 1.

I figure some of that is due to bravado (which I find difficult to believe considering that only three or four men there have ever met, and most of us never will meet). I had always hoped that the anonymity of that forum would encourage more open discourse. Sometimes about some subjects it has, but about this subject - nope.

So apparently there are 50 guys on that site who think that all sex is either good, great or phenomenal...but never bad.

I will be the first to admit (there) and anywhere else...I was a lousy lay (often selfish and sometimes just clumsy) for about the first ten years of my sexual experience and I would also say that more than a few women in the last 25 years might classify me as...a terrible piece of ass.

I don't think you can click with everyone, in that way. And if you have, then you're either a top-shelf casanova or, arrogant beyond repair.

I've endured many an engagement which I knew in my mind as it was occurring - "This will never happen again."

What say you?


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WellMadeMale
Posted: Wednesday, September 01, 2010 8:37:10 PM

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WHR43 wrote:
WellMadeMale wrote:
On another forum I frequent (it is strictly a male only board, and has been since 1999) - it's often been stated:

There is no such thing as bad sex.

I disagree and I find myself in the vocal minority at a ratio of about 35 to 1.

I figure some of that is due to bravado (which I find difficult to believe considering that only three or four men there have ever met, and most of us never will meet). I had always hoped that the anonymity of that forum would encourage more open discourse. Sometimes about some subjects it has, but about this subject - nope.

So apparently there are 50 guys on that site who think that all sex is either good, great or phenomenal...but never bad.

I will be the first to admit (there) and anywhere else...I was a lousy lay (often selfish and sometimes just clumsy) for about the first ten years of my sexual experience and I would also say that more than a few women in the last 25 years might classify me as...a terrible piece of ass.

I don't think you can click with everyone, in that way. And if you have, then you're either a top-shelf casanova or, arrogant beyond repair.

I've endured many an engagement which I knew in my mind as it was occurring - "This will never happen again."

What say you?


An honesty man. What are you doing on this site?


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Posted: Sunday, September 05, 2010 10:24:50 PM

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I must agree here that there is bad sex...and its not always they mans fault. Im sure alot of us women are a little more shy than others. Therefore we are not as inclined to tell our partners what we like. Im shy the first time or two and then I get more comfortable with the person and will let them know more of what I want. But its not always us either some men only care about themselves and if they are getting off they think that we must have also or they just dont care.
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Posted: Thursday, September 09, 2010 3:45:41 AM

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i think that spiritually, bad sex is based on one's personal expectations, but then again... it has to last long enough to be called sex also lol
WellMadeMale
Posted: Wednesday, September 15, 2010 9:53:27 AM

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Reading through Javier's 'hair pulling' thread, reminded of one particular bad sex encounter from a dozen years ago.

I was 38 she was about my age. We each worked in the same hi-rise downtown. She worked for the largest attorney firm in the state and I worked for the third largest communications corporation in America.

We'd see one another about every day, outside the building, both of us smoking cigs.

She was a hottie for a 37-38 year old MILF. Petite at 5'2" and a shade over 100 pounds. She'd caught too many sun beams or ultraviolet rays in a salon during her adult years, but she did own an alluring bod. Nice curves and firm, toned ass. In skirts and heels she caught many men's eyes.

While fucking her at her home (with her invitation), she had asked me to come visit her that afternoon...I was met with this response -

"What are you doing, quit it...quit it...you're fucking me like I'm a piece of meat, get off, quit!"

We were less than three moments into the festivities via missionary. I was fucking her like she was a piece of meat.

Tis how I fuck someone 'new' to me, especially.

I stopped in mid-stroke, then I pulled out, stood up and gathered my clothing while she continued to lay there, masturbating herself..."Where are you going?" she murmured.

"Darling, I don't know you very well, though we have seen one another for nearly 2 years on smoke breaks...I cannot make love with you, so I am vacating your premises and going back to my home, to shower, redress and then go find myself another hot piece of ass who likes to fuck. And doesn't bitch about it."

"Wha ?"

"See ya tomorrow, take care now!"

Hot bod, bad fuck. I did not even get to the hair pulling - ass slapping stages, before she pulled the air brakes on me.

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Posted: Friday, September 17, 2010 9:54:09 PM

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The sure way to know it's bad sex is having experienced fantastic sex before. Bad sex might actually seem pretty good if that's all you ever had. Certainly, with all the stories and forum posts here, one should be able to discern for themselves the goodness or badness of the sex they've had.
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Posted: Saturday, September 18, 2010 12:56:58 PM

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In short yes of course there is such a thing as bad sex.. and I have experienced it… hopefully sometime soon I might experience some good or even kinda fun sex evil4

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Posted: Saturday, September 18, 2010 3:01:01 PM

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icecreamcandy wrote:
In short yes of course there is such a thing as bad sex.. and I have experienced it… hopefully sometime soon I might experience some good or even kinda fun sex evil4

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Sure hope so! laughing6
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Posted: Friday, September 24, 2010 11:50:21 PM

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I have had sex when I didn't enjoy myself very much, or when I hated myself afterwards for doing it. A lot of sexual enjoyment is emotional. I have felt badly after really good sex, and good after sex that wasn't that awesome physically. There is bad sex though, at least for me. I'm not sure if there is for men. None of the men I've had sex with has ever complained about not enjoying themselves.
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Posted: Tuesday, July 19, 2011 8:40:20 PM

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There is without a doubt, bad sex. In fact its obviously so. The fact that sex can be forced on unwilling people is enough proof. Without getting too graphic I'll just say that I know all to well about unwanted, cruel, selfish sex (if it must be called that). From personal experience and experience of close family members. Used properly sex is a blessing. Man and woman together a one, but used wrong...its an outright curse.
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Posted: Thursday, July 21, 2011 10:54:24 AM

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I agree with the other posters in that 'bad sex' can be defined as sex that makes you feel bad, emotionally or physically. In my ignorance, I thought this was a female only phenonomen, ie sex that was painful, or when a partner didn't care about your pleasure or feelings. Then I had a conversation with my boyfriend about some of his previous experiences and this made me realise that sex that makes you feel bad can apply to guys as well. I felt as though I had been so insensitive and sexist without realising!!

Thanks for posting this discussion WellMadeMale!
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bad sex is the kind that leaves you wiping away tears along with the cum...

also if you have to wear long sleeves & turtlenecks/eyeglasses ect afterwards.


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Posted: Thursday, July 21, 2011 2:59:10 PM

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seven minute sex is bad sex
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Posted: Thursday, July 21, 2011 3:02:00 PM

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without heart is the bad sex
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Posted: Thursday, July 21, 2011 4:17:57 PM

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bad sex is worse than no sex
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Posted: Thursday, July 21, 2011 11:42:32 PM

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Oh hell yes. I've made pictures out of the popcorn on the ceiling. Or redecorated the room in my mind.
I've tried everything I could think of to try and revive an encounter that was falling flat. Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there. Sometimes it's a lack of knowledge. And sometimes we just didn't fit right. What ever the reason, over my sexual lifetime I've had the gambit of lovers. And yes, that means some encounters suck.
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Posted: Thursday, July 21, 2011 11:44:05 PM

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LittleMissBitch wrote:
seven minute sex is bad sex

I disagree, I think a hot quicky has it's place.
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Posted: Friday, July 22, 2011 5:43:10 AM

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I've heard of a thing called "no sex." That is way worse.

I've also heard that only women experience bad sex. Men just experience awesome sex where we cum all over the place.



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Posted: Friday, July 29, 2011 3:31:55 PM

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Twice. Both times it was the first (and last) time. Both times I can honestly say neither of us really wanted to do it with each other, but both kinda felt like we were supposed to anyway.

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Posted: Friday, July 29, 2011 6:36:42 PM

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rockstar81 wrote:
LittleMissBitch wrote:
seven minute sex is bad sex

I disagree, I think a hot quicky has it's place.


oops! i meant when it ends up me alone in the shower with a vibrator. THAT kind of 7 minute sex! ;-)
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Posted: Tuesday, August 09, 2011 11:17:15 PM

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OMG!! Anyone that doesn't believe there is bad sex obviously is just greatful they are having sex!

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Posted: Wednesday, August 10, 2011 9:26:03 PM

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I've had bad sex. It's possible, in my experience, for a woman to have bad sex even if she has an orgasm...

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Posted: Monday, September 12, 2011 7:04:27 AM

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Yep, I should know. I have had plenty of it lol
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