I've noticed- both with the girls that I work with and with the girls online here at Lush that easily half of them call themselves bi-sexual.

With guys though, you hardly ever see a guy call themselves bi-sexual on Lush, and I don't have any girlfriends that have dated bisexual guys, so what is the deal?

Are there really 10 times as many bisexual girls as there are guys? Or are the bisexual guys, except for a brave few, homophobic and in the closet, afraid to be honest about themselves?

Not very well, lol. It doesn't explain why there are so many more self proclaimed bi girls than bi men.

And if homophobia means fearing and feeling negative about homosexuality- and I think it does- then it could apply every bit as much to a bisexual man who is uncomfortable with himself, and tries to deny his homosexual feelings, as it does with a straight man who is uncomfortable with other homosexuals or bis.

In my opinion it is sexist. There are more bisexual girls than there are bisexual dudes. I mean when I was in High School, about 50% of the females were bisexual or lesbian, when the guys percentage was around 5-10%. I think guys just have a bigger ego. Especially in today's world.

Isn't this strange? I was looking the place over and came across this after reading your thread. So far not one guy has answered. I think they're afraid of being type cast, as it were.

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst11075_How-many-str8-Guys-have-felt-attraction-for-another-Guy-and-who-has-acted-on-it-.aspx

D: I'm not a guy?

one word: hedonist

Pursuit of or devotion to pleasure, especially to the pleasures of the senses.

Some people are true hedonists without boundaries of gender.

Van

I really wish that men who do have bi tendencies be more open with themselves.

I mean, yes it is more socially acceptable which is utter BS but, I think if you have the curiosity and desire to be with someone of the same sex, don;t hide it. I don't...

I'm a bi-female who loves bi men and who loves writing m/m.

Happy to say so too!

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"Writing M/M turns me on..."

Throughout time, men were always seen as the strong ones in control. And of course, men come with egos. Think about it, anal is one of the most submissive positions. Being on your knees is also very submissive. Some men don't want to be seen as weak to the population.

ok.. I will out myself.. I am physically attracted to beautiful female impersonators and very femish shemales.. somehow I can rationalize the fact that they are piped the same as me.. I am not attracted to males nor would I seek contact individually... I also have been in 3somes where male contact has been made and wasn't rejected.. now that being said.. WMM you have absolutely no chance of reaching into my pockets.. unless Bunny or Lady is between us...

Hands off of hornybunny74, she's all mine.

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Insert typical super smart ass comment courtesy of thepainter here.

A lot of people just don't want to label themselves. Many men feel that to label themselves as bisexual really means gay. Are you gay just because you fantasized about sex with another man or do you actually have to do the deed? Are you gay because you just want to have sex with another man or only if you are interested in romance as well?

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Erotica is writing that is intended to arouse and excite sexual feelings and desires in the writer. We read erotica to get turned-on, to get hot and bothered, to get hard and wet. Admit it. Enjoy it.

I like a hairy man hee hee, I do honestly, esp a hairy chest. But the smelly man not so, I do like a sweaty man.

funny, but i had this conversation recently with a male friend. our conclusion is that it's more socially acceptable for a girl to label herself as bi. many women are ok with it, and men think that girl on girl sex is hot PLUS if they are bi, they have a chance to get involved as well. On the other hand, most men would probably be labled as gay if they admitted to liking other men, despite the fact that they also like woman, hence they are afraid to admit their attraction to other men.

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Bitches in the Basement on Amazon by our own Dancing Doll

For nearly twenty years, from my early twenties and through to my late thirties - I got hit on a lot by gay men and by openly bi-sexual men. The frequency was more noticeable at certain locations I was visiting, than others. My face has age written all over it and around the age of 39-40...while I did not change venues I attended - the frequency of flirtations or outright come'ons did begin to slow down noticeably until they have almost ceased entirely the last four or five years.

I'd be sitting with or dancing with women, and men would approach me, either alone (more common) or if I had a woman or two around me...and 'they' the male(s) would just come right out with their offer to dance with me...or could they perhaps buy me a drink, etc. One fellow slid his business card in front of me, while I stood at a bar one night with a male friend of mine, on the back was his note - "If you're not with the stud next to you, call me." We were not 'in' a traditional gay nightclub but a predominantly straight meat market that night.

The first few times this occurred when I was in my early twenties, I did not know if I should be insulted or flattered. I was stunned to be honest, but that was my own naviete and not 'their fault'.

I then began taking it as a form of flattery. I'm not wired that way, myself...but I can recognize a handsome male, as easily as I can recognize an attractive female. Just because I see a man and either think to myself (there is my competition in the room...and most men do size up their competition) or voice it to my female companion - "That guy has it going on, don't you think?"

Does not mean, 'to me' that I have any inclination towards homosexuality nor bisexuality. When I chose to 'run' the nightclubs back during my running days...I often preferred to do so, solo. But those evenings when I did fly with another male friend...he wasn't my wingman, nor I his. And 'he' was always a fellow I considered to be 'handsome' facially as well as physically. I don't hang with slobs nor dorks, in other words.

But what do I know. I'm not a classically trained psychologist.

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The best thing you can do for your fellow,
next to rousing his conscience, is - not to give him things
to think about, but to wake things up that are in him...
to make him think things for himself - George MacDonald

i understand, dont forget that along with men who will be hiding the fact they are bi, not every man like anal. so they might be mentally attracted to men but say they are not because they dont feel they could have a physical relationship.
so maybe its just factors which are more apparent to men than they are to women.

HH