He just gave you the money, asked no questions, didnt ask you aything in return, in a very casual way.
Would it make you feel so uncomfortable? This "I owe him" feeling?
Yea kind of, but i always feel guilty when people give me money, parents, friends, anyone.
When i'm with a guy i always offer to pay half or buy the next round. I am an old fashioned romantic but when it comes to money i think the cost should be split........ Or i'll just make it up to him later on
I would never ask a man(or woman) for money and I would not accept money if he offered. It is a big turn off. Paying for dinner or drinks is one thing, although I believe in paying sometimes too. But giving me money is something totally different. There is always a reason for it even if it doesn't seem apparent. I am not a prostitute! Although it does make a hot fantasy. And I don't like to "owe" anything to anyone.
I'm not yet clear on this- am I asking him for money or is he just giving it to me out of nowhere?
If I'm asking him for a loan, then yes, I'll obviously feel that I need to pay the money back. But if he's paying me for something he got in return, or if it's just a gift, then I feel no guilt or need to pay him back.
Why is he giving me money?
and how much is it? if it's a small amount, then really, it's a gift. and yeah, why is he givig it to me? and what is my relationship with him? too many intangibles to answer this one.
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Gen reply: I did not want to focus on any any specific scenario, it's just the idea of some guy giving you money. Perhaps you asked him because you were desperate, or it was him the one who offered it, perhaps it was just a whim, perhaps it was a lot of money, or very little, etc.
Just the thought of some guy giving you money would ruin any possible romance?
It would really depend on the situation.
If it was a gift/help from a guy who I cared for, then I think that would be okay.
If I had just had sex with a guy, and he left money on the dresser for me, that would not be okay.
Is it my birthday?
Woooohooo! No guilt, no turn on, no turn off.
Maybe I lent him money when I was 5 and now he wants to pay me back!
Wohoooo! yay a dollar grows so much!
Did I maybe find his wallet on the street and gave it to him?
More over is he a stranger?
Do I know him?
Does he give me the same amount each month?
Is it ok to buy lingerie for it to show another man??
IF I knew the guy I'd probably know how I'd react though, it would never be a turn on.
It might be a turn off but never a turn on.
I would absolutely not accept a man just giving me money. It makes me feel uncomfortable to accept money from people in general.
Culturally I am in the minority. It is acceptable and often expected for a man to randomly give a woman money just because she has needs and he is her man. To me that's part of the Latina subserviant world that I don't agree with but that's a different story.
I cringe at the thought of a man giving me money. I'm grown able to work and I can pay my way or if I can't I won't go simple as that. More than likely this comes from being raised by a single mother w/o the help of mine or my sisters father. My mother always reminded us that a woman does not need a man to survive and can do anything that they set thier mind to. Even in the work place.
"We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves." -François de la Rochefoucauld
If I am in a relationship with the man.... nope. I'd go buy something special for him to take off me later on. Or buy a new toy. Yes. New toy!!!!!!
If I am not in a relationship with the man? And he just handed me money willy nilly? I'd look at it and say, "That's it?????" Maybe I might be able to get more from the idiot then go on vacation.
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Woman... GO FLY A KITE!!!!! Take a slideshow walk with me on a walk through the parks of Inner Mongolia, China. Then enjoy the tale of a very traditional day in the life of a white Woman in China. Hubby usually gives me money when we play "Hooker and the John". I keep it though...:-)
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