Labels.

I really cannot stand the term.

I really do not like to think that anyone can really be boxed into a category. But then again, I am the type of person who really is not all that strong on one point or another if I can see and understand where a person is coming from. If they get all preachy holier than thou-ishy? I get a little on a high horse and take whatever side I can get. But that is a different story. And that is a dead horse the need not be beaten any more.

So I got to thinking when Mister Felix in the thread about Violent Criminals said that is an idealist thought, and he mentioned liberal which made me think of conservatism and all those ism's and labels that people give themselves or go to professionals and get "knighted'' with a label.

Yup for in my personal opinion, in today's world people seem to need a label to help define them. I've read a few medieval romance novels (ok, many many many in my youth) where a young man had a need to be knighted and called "sir" which is all fine and dandy, but it just seems that in today's world, the doctors are the kings of the kingdoms, and everyone wants a label to further identify themselves.

So I propose a new topic for this here me favourite section of the Forums I have been on (yup. What can I say. Using my brain turns me on and I love it!!!!). Here are some questions, if you can answer the questions then support your answer in essay like for and I shall mark it. Blah. hard to stop being a teacher.

1. How do you identify yourself when it comes to labels? ie: personality style, political views, survivor, any sort of -isms? (and nymphoism's do not count!!!!) ADD's, OCD disorders etc...

2. Do you feel that labels are important? Be they right wing/left wing, liberal/conservative, introvert/extrovert, survivor/victim? (My sister in America was telling me about this boy in her daughters kindergarten class, he is disruptive and loud, refuses to work, steals from the other students; when my sister complained for her daughter is now sporting a bruise on her face from this boy hitting her, the teacher said something along the lines of, there is nothing we can do he has ADHD, and control issue blah blah blah... but the kid it seems, enjoys chocolate chip cookies and chocolate milk for breakfast as that is the only thing he will eat.) Should people should be allowed to ''hide'' behind the labels people put on people?

3. How do you feel about society as a whole becoming too politically correct? Hyper sensitive? Touchy feely?

Enjoy!!! I really look forward to your answers!!!!

w

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Living life and enjoying life are two different things... just need to figure out how to do both at the same time to live it right!

Woman... GO FLY A KITE!!!!! Take a slideshow walk with me on a walk through the parks of Inner Mongolia, China. Then enjoy the tale of a very traditional day in the life of a white Woman in China.

I also meant to ask about labels such as bi/gay/lesbian as well in my first post.

And yesterday in recovery, I got to thinking while the drugs were wearing off... how hard would it be when someone labels you in one group to show them that is not how you think of yourself??

I'll post a little before I must dash off.

My bottom line when it comes to labels is they are pointless. People trying to put people into little pigeon boxes when in reality... we are constantly evolving. Changing. If someone puts you in a little box as a child, and expects you to grow into adult hood while living in that box, you are stunted. Stunted in so many ways. If we know this happens physically to a live being, would it not make sense to reason that when one is "classified" as a person, that they would be stunted?

My recent jaunt into the hospital yesterday for a surgery made me realise, that as much as I try not to label, I have as well. I've always thought of Chinese hospitals as dirty, ugly, poorly kept places. And to be honest, scared to the point of panic attacking that I might need surgery here in this country.

Yesterday, I had to have a minor operation, where yes. They drugged me up and knocked me out naked on the slab. Thank goodness the room was warm is all I must say. It was not as sterile as what I am used to in the West, was not as modern or as clean as the West... but oddly comforting in some ways. The surgeons were fun, the nurses amazing. I'd not thought about maybe I was pre-judging them and the work that they do and putting them into a little category in my mind. Of the negative sort.

But thankfully, as I mentioned we have the ability to evolve and to change the way we think and to change how we see things. I for one, am (ok... I mean this wincing as I am still wanting to give them a tongue lashing of their version of no pain afterwards leaves much room for interruption or Chinese women who have had this surgery have no sensations in their vaginal regions), kind of glad that I get to change a preconceived thought I had with Chinese hospitals and surgeons.

I shall return later on to answer my own questions...

And Deadlogger??? Is not "normal" a label too? And it is boring to be this thing everyone calls normal!!!!!! Be you! Not everyone else!!!

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Living life and enjoying life are two different things... just need to figure out how to do both at the same time to live it right!

Woman... GO FLY A KITE!!!!! Take a slideshow walk with me on a walk through the parks of Inner Mongolia, China. Then enjoy the tale of a very traditional day in the life of a white Woman in China.

I'm somewhere in the middle of liberal and conservative. I don't agree 100% with either way of thinking or politics or whatever you want to call it. I think it's dumb to blindly follow anything.

I think labels are necessary though just to be able to have conversations.

It's just easier to say:

Harry: Jane told me she's gay yesterday

Dick: Oh...

Instead of:

Harry: Jane said she only goes out with girls.

Dick: What does that mean?

Harry: I don't know I asked her out and that's what she said.

Dick: You think she's like one of those girls that only has sex with other girls?

Harry: maybe, she must be if she doesn't want me.

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I am who I am. Someone wise once said that (yup, I've an ego or so it seems).

I do see where you are all coming from and it does make sense. But where I cannot stand it, is when people see labels as black or white. Where I see the world as all grey. Nothing is all black and nothing is all white. A person is never just one; within each person there are countless personalities. When you are here on Lush, you let one part of your personality shine. And that personality is different than when you are with your family, that one is different when you are with your friends and even different when you are around your colleagues and so on and so on.

Does not labeling make it black or white and box you in?

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Living life and enjoying life are two different things... just need to figure out how to do both at the same time to live it right!

Woman... GO FLY A KITE!!!!! Take a slideshow walk with me on a walk through the parks of Inner Mongolia, China. Then enjoy the tale of a very traditional day in the life of a white Woman in China.