Welcome Guest Search | Active Topics | Members | Log In | Register

i have surgical scars. is it a turn off? Options · View
sillyndelicious
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 10:54:52 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 1/14/2011
Posts: 163
so i had a surgery when i was in the 5th grade... it's a long scar on my outer thigh, and one smaller scar on my inner thigh, both in same leg..
well, u know how skin strecthed as we grow bigger, so yeah they're a big scar imo..
no bikinis or any hot pants for me.. *sigh*
well of course as a girl, i'm worrying about it..
so what do u think? is it a turn off? do guys really look for appearance even if it's out of our league.. (man, who wants a surgery if it's not necessary rite?!) lol..

oh, and i've been told, the man that really loves u, will accept everything u have.. but c'mon i wanna know the thruth.. :p
sprite
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 11:03:18 AM

Rank: Her Royal Spriteness

Joined: 6/18/2010
Posts: 14,636
Location: My Tower, United States
*hugs* i too have some scars, not quite as noticable as yours it sounds like, but i can be self concious about them at times. that said, it's never been an issue once i learned to relax about them. can't speak for guys, but as a bisexual woman, i might be curious about them, and maybe even pay a little extra attention to them when making love, just to show you they don't matter, but in the long run, they wouldn't matter to me. they'd be part of you, and if you were my girl, i'd love them for that very reason. :)

http://www.lushstories.com/stories/hardcore/west-coast-games-part-one-the-beach.aspx
sillyndelicious
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 11:12:51 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 1/14/2011
Posts: 163
*hugs back*
yeap.. mine is whole lot noticeable.. lol..
i dun mind of it, but thinking of how people will see me with awful look sometime bugs me..
i even hide it when i changed clothes with my girlfriends in the same room.. lol.. sometime u dunno which is friends and which is the bitch, rite.. if people need to know, better i'm the one telling them.. :D
lafayettemister
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 11:17:39 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 10/4/2010
Posts: 6,373
Location: Alabama, United States
Your scars wouldn't matter to me in any way. In fact.. show your scars to any bj/gf early on. If they are negatively affected by them, you'll know early on how shallow and superficial they are and can move on.. if you so choose.





When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 11:21:50 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
My ex husband had a huge scold scar on the whole of his inside leg, he got burnt by hot water as a child so the scar was pretty huge but that didn't stop me loving him!
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 11:24:54 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
Scars do not bother me at all. I have a scar on my knee from a roller skating accident and it dimples in where I bend my knee if I'm stood up. I won't wear summery skirts or dresses unless it goes just over my knee. I don't care what people think of it, I just don't like the way it looks to me!
It's quite noticible as the guy who did the surgery didn't do it very neatly!
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 11:26:45 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
There that Bio-oil you can get for scars and if you go to your doctor's you can get special make up to disguise it better. I don't know about you but my knee scar never faded to white, it stayed a pale pink colour so it doesn't blend in with the rest of my skin.
WellMadeMale
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 11:27:50 AM

Rank: Constant Gardener

Joined: 9/30/2009
Posts: 10,301
Location: Cakeland, United States
It is not the scar I see which troubles me now. It is that text typing stuff you're laying down which is making my eyes hurt.

just say'n

If ya can't beat 'em... pay someone to do it for you.
sillyndelicious
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 12:02:22 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 1/14/2011
Posts: 163
lol k.. I got the point..
To honeybee, yeap dimples on me too.. Big one.. Lol.. I guess only a great plastic surgery can cover them really good. Not exaggeratting things too if one ever think so.. :)
well, n i guess you're right lafayettemister.. Thx..
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 12:36:24 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
They wouldn't bother me. I like scars. They only will chase away shallow jerks.
MMonroe
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 1:04:18 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 4/10/2009
Posts: 1,893
Location: United Kingdom
Mine will probably seem pathetic compared to yours but i have a small scar a few inches below my boobs, its only about an inch long and cos i had it done when i was a baby you cant really see it unless its pointed out, but ive never had anyone notice or comment on it.

If I was with someone with a scar id be more curious about it than repulsed tbh. I dont think many people would be turned off



*Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?*



Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 2:17:39 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
Thanks for this post. I was actually talking about my own scares today and why I never take certain pictures. I have to say it's probably more bothersome to me because I knowthey are there and I know the battles that I've overcome. Sometimes the thought of sharing why the scars are there makes me feel more vulnerable than being intimate with someone.

In my mind I know those who matter don't care about the scares and those that do are not worthy of the discussion.
WellMadeMale
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 2:20:30 PM

Rank: Constant Gardener

Joined: 9/30/2009
Posts: 10,301
Location: Cakeland, United States
I own a few scars on my epidermis. Many of the women I've dated (and some seriously) owned scars in assorted geographical locations on their bodies.

I don't think I've ever known someone (interesting to me) who wasn't a little dinged up (physically or mentally).

IMO, it's not a show stopper kind of thing.

Relax Max.

If ya can't beat 'em... pay someone to do it for you.
DirtyMartini
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 2:47:30 PM

Rank: Purveyor of Poetry & Porn

Joined: 10/19/2009
Posts: 5,791
Location: Right here on Lush Stories..., United States
WellMadeMale wrote:
It is not the scar I see which troubles me now. It is that text typing stuff you're laying down which is making my eyes hurt.

just say'n


6

I have to agree with Jeff here...it's not the scars you see that are usually the most problematic...

I actually have a fairly significant scar on my right shin...I slid down a fence as a teenager and cut open my leg...without going into details, let's just say it involved a stupid teenage prank and way too much alcohol...

Whenever any girl asks about it, I usually make up some story involving being chased by KGB agents during the time of the cold war while carrying government secrets essential to the continuation of peace and prosperity in the free world...

So, scars can be a great conversation starter...get it out of the way early and it will be all over with...


You know you want it, you know you need it bad...get it now on Amazon.com...
Lush Erotica, an Anthology of Award Winning Sex Stories

realz
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 4:32:14 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 1/29/2011
Posts: 207
Scars are rarely issue in the long run. A lover quickly stops even seeing them.

Just be honest with any new person, let them know.
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 7:16:50 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
I have a huge scar running down my chest from open-heart surgery I had when I was 4. It's nowhere near as dark now as it was when I was a kid, but I used to be really self-conscious about it. But the last couple women I've been with actually kinda dug it, said the scar gave me character and they thought it was a little sexy -- not the visual of the scar, but what it represented. Before long, my scar was just another part of me, and it did nothing to hinder my sex life.
lovely_lady
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 7:32:14 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 3/1/2009
Posts: 1,100
Location: melbourne
I wouldnt want to be with any man that was superficial enough to care about my scars. I have scars from operations and from pregnancy. I look at them as badges of honor.. each one of them is apart of who I am and what has made me who I am today. It should make no difference on what they think of you as a whole.
Rembacher
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 7:38:11 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 10/16/2008
Posts: 1,106
As yet another member with a scar, it would be hypocritical of me to judge based on scars. Mine is only visible when I remove my shirt, but I wear it with pride. It is a result of my battle with cancer. Over time it has faded, but it's still visible. Every person has some sort of scar, the physical ones aren't nearly as shocking as having to deal with the emotional scars.
LusciousLola
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 7:47:31 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 3/5/2010
Posts: 2,878
Location: Island of tranquility
realz wrote:
Scars are rarely issue in the long run. A lover quickly stops even seeing them.

Just be honest with any new person, let them know.


My ex husband had several scars. I affectionately named him ScarMan. One of his scars was on his eyebrow and he always wanted long hair in the front to cover it up. I liked it short, so he usually wore it that way for me. And really I did stop seeing that scar and all the others. They just seem to melt away, because they are not the person.
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 7:56:09 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
While most of us guys are indeed fairly shallow (and I speak from the personal experience of being a shallow guy), we're not THAT shallow. I don't think any man would reject a woman that he was otherwise into, just because she had a surgical scar on her leg.

Except maybe a surgeon, because it would remind him of work....
SadBi-Virgin
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 8:35:01 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 1/15/2010
Posts: 355
Location: nunya, United States
i know this is ask the guys but i wanna respond to it. To me scars can be beautiful things.
kent1734
Posted: Tuesday, February 01, 2011 9:48:44 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 11/13/2010
Posts: 313
Location: USA
Embrace the way you look! If a man or woman is superficial enough to make you feel bad about a scar then that is not the person for you. I believe that you should be out there wearing a bikini and shorts and showing to the world that its what's inside that counts. Also I find scars to be kind of sexxy! I have my fair share of them and find them to be part of who and what I am.
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, February 02, 2011 3:52:26 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
I like scars on such places, they tell a story about pain and sacrifice in one's life. I'd rather have a girl with some marks than a brainless plastic skinned girl.
whysoserious
Posted: Wednesday, February 02, 2011 4:28:20 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 2/3/2010
Posts: 261
sillyndelicious wrote:
so i had a surgery when i was in the 5th grade... it's a long scar on my outer thigh, and one smaller scar on my inner thigh, both in same leg..
well, u know how skin strecthed as we grow bigger, so yeah they're a big scar imo..
no bikinis or any hot pants for me.. *sigh*
well of course as a girl, i'm worrying about it..
so what do u think? is it a turn off? do guys really look for appearance even if it's out of our league.. (man, who wants a surgery if it's not necessary rite?!) lol..

oh, and i've been told, the man that really loves u, will accept everything u have.. but c'mon i wanna know the thruth.. :p



Having a scar wouldn´t put me off. If I liked you as a person, then it doesn´t matter. After all, none of us are perfect!!
sillyndelicious
Posted: Wednesday, February 02, 2011 5:23:58 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 1/14/2011
Posts: 163
thank you guys..
i can see that u guys are nice people.. :p
tho, i still won't use any bikinis yet.. lol..
being 'rejected' both physically and mentally did the magic on how i think too..
but getting my confidence better as time goes by..

but, if anyone still have more opinions, i will gladly welcome it.. maybe i can use to fix what i need to fix.. xD
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, February 02, 2011 5:24:28 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
nope scars would not affect how I felt about someone. If someone was affected by the scar then they are not worth knowing
JesseS
Posted: Wednesday, February 02, 2011 5:31:27 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 1/1/2010
Posts: 119
Location: United States
Think of them as a great filter to weed out the really shallow people. I've had a lover with serious leg scar, never paid it any mind. If that is off-putting to someone, you're better off w/o them!
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, February 02, 2011 9:14:34 PM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,425
I think scars are a turn on. I have several scars to which I am proud of. My favorites scars are from my vasectomy Fugly
rxtales
Posted: Thursday, February 03, 2011 7:30:18 AM

Rank: Advanced Wordsmith

Joined: 11/28/2008
Posts: 2,589
Location: Newcastle, United Kingdom
Inexperienced wrote:
I like scars on such places, they tell a story about pain and sacrifice in one's life. I'd rather have a girl with some marks than a brainless plastic skinned girl.


Exactly. I find them quite sexy, on both men and women.

I used to date a guy that had a very large one on his stomach. Without really realising it, I would always trace it with my fingers when we were in bed. It always use to bother him, and it took him over a year for him to tell me what it was from.
sillyndelicious
Posted: Thursday, February 03, 2011 9:25:18 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 1/14/2011
Posts: 163
rxtales wrote:
Inexperienced wrote:
I like scars on such places, they tell a story about pain and sacrifice in one's life. I'd rather have a girl with some marks than a brainless plastic skinned girl.


Exactly. I find them quite sexy, on both men and women.

I used to date a guy that had a very large one on his stomach. Without really realising it, I would always trace it with my fingers when we were in bed. It always use to bother him, and it took him over a year for him to tell me what it was from.


i understand why it's bothered him.. lol..
it bothers me too.. that's y i posted this one.. xD
Users browsing this topic
Guest 


Forum Jump
You cannot post new topics in this forum.
You cannot reply to topics in this forum.
You cannot delete your posts in this forum.
You cannot edit your posts in this forum.
You cannot create polls in this forum.
You cannot vote in polls in this forum.

Main Forum RSS : RSS

Powered by Yet Another Forum.net version 1.9.1.6 (NET v4.0) - 11/14/2007
Copyright © 2003-2006 Yet Another Forum.net. All rights reserved.