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cherryrebel
Posted: Friday, February 25, 2011 5:14:33 AM

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i dont like people who are cleverer than me.... why? Obviously because they make me feel stupid- duh? haha ;)
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Posted: Friday, February 25, 2011 6:47:11 AM

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I find intelligence sexy as hell.
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Posted: Friday, February 25, 2011 9:09:42 PM

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intelligence, sophistication, maturity

the opposite is a complete turn off
WellMadeMale
Posted: Friday, February 25, 2011 11:56:27 PM

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hotswimmer wrote:
intelligence, sophistication, maturity

the opposite is a complete turn off


Yeah, I dunno. Bimbos can be fun too. Besides if she's too much more articulate and intelligent than me, then...I'm the bimbo. violent1

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Posted: Saturday, February 26, 2011 12:43:37 AM

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Yes, sometimes a really intelligent girl can be intimidating in that you feel like she notices every little thing about you and you have to do everything exactly right or risk being made a fool. But of course it depends on the girl and how you get along. I don't think anyone really avoids girls because they're intelligent. Who enjoys talking to a dumb person anyway?

A female friend of mine once said in frustration, "Make one joke and you're immedieately in the friend zone." That's university dateing for you.
Magnus
Posted: Saturday, February 26, 2011 11:35:04 PM

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I like intelligence in a woman very much. When she challenges my stance on an issue, I like to be able to defend myself yet still be forced to leave my comfort zone and think in order to do so.

Although I have known women who were intelligent yet very prickly about it, determined to be right and throwing errata and data at me until I submitted. And on the other hand I've encountered women who are fiercely intelligent yet their emotions are timid and require oh so much work to encourage.

So I can say intelligence isn't intimidating to me, however what sometimes comes with it can overwhelm me.
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Posted: Sunday, February 27, 2011 9:56:47 AM

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you know, it's easy to say 'i want a super smart girl' here, and really, you might even mean it, but yeah, the truth of the matter is that once you find one, it's a whole different matter. since i don't claim to be the brains of the outfit, i'll cite my gf in this case - Berkeley graduate of the 4.0 variety, obviously smart, confident, very opinionated, and has had trouble keeping guys around for more then a few dates when being herself. to be honest, she intimiates ME at times! and i tend to get into that 'why are you with me, i'm not smart enough to keep you interested' modes at times, no matter how hard i try not to.

just something to throw out there - the ideal (dating a smart girl is super cool!) vs the real (dating a girl who makes me feel dumb just isn't that much fun - where's the bimbo's at?)

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Posted: Sunday, February 27, 2011 10:10:32 AM

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intelligence in itself is not as intimidating as purposeful stupidity is.

What's intimidating, is the attitude of the particular intelligent person who his wielding their intellect as if it's the only tool in their kit. The Mensa member who reminds you constantly that she or he owns an IQ which is 97.68% higher than the other 6 billion people on this planet.

I'm not intimidated by any articulate person, I'm intimidated by a talent or skill which I have not attained, nor can hope to, in what time I might have left, in this life.

Smart, witty, clever humor is wonderful. Especially when it is natural and easy and does not come at the expense of others.

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Rembacher
Posted: Sunday, February 27, 2011 11:01:15 AM

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Not for me, when you are this smart, you need someone who is at least smart enough to hold a conversation with you beyond the superficial small talk.
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Posted: Sunday, February 27, 2011 1:20:29 PM

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My 2 cents
I think it all depends on the person, but for me (in general), I’m attracted to well-educated, intelligent, independent, and successful women.
I’ve dated girls who are eleven donuts short a box of dozen and those relationships never lasted too long.
I can’t really date a woman I don’t respect, and I have a lot of respect for intelligence, autonomy, and ambition.
Plus, big brains are sexy. Mmm mmm mmm. (as well as.... Whistle




sprite
Posted: Sunday, February 27, 2011 2:07:54 PM

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Just curious - what about all those of us who aren't dumb, but not exactly geniuses, us average girls? where do we fall on the meter? :)

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Posted: Sunday, February 27, 2011 11:52:59 PM

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sprite wrote:
Just curious - what about all those of us who aren't dumb, but not exactly geniuses, us average girls? where do we fall on the meter? :)


I'd say a lot of average girls, could be selling themselves short, if they think this way.
Intelligence does not necessarily mean a university degree.
Lots of university educated people, might be book smart, but give them a practical problem, to solve... ;-)
overmykneenow
Posted: Monday, February 28, 2011 11:35:13 AM

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sprite wrote:
Just curious - what about all those of us who aren't dumb, but not exactly geniuses, us average girls? where do we fall on the meter? :)


Surely it's all relative - most people here will say they like intelligent girls but what they're really saying is they like girls as intelligent as they are.

Being intelligent doesn't stop people being an asshole. Conversely not being a PhD doesn't make you stupid

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Posted: Monday, February 28, 2011 12:55:06 PM

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I was involved with someone for awhile who was my intellectual equal. I loved every single moment of it. Her intelligence was one of the strongest reasons I was attracted to her. I won't go into it, but I had to break things off with her for completely unrelated reasons. I still miss our mental "sparring matches".

The thing is that, as Doll pointed out, most guys are very much attracted to "airheads". I see an airhead and I want to push her down the stairs and take her out of the gene pool. I am very much turned off by them.

I think it's very odd that almost no one has admitted being attracted to them in this topic. I'll admit I used to be attracted to them when I was a teenager, but I outgrew that when I realized there wasn't anything more to them than looks.

Maybe the guys who like airheads just aren't posting in here or something, who knows? I just know this isn't what I see in real life.

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Posted: Monday, February 28, 2011 5:54:35 PM

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I actually find intelligence extremely sexy. Jessica Simpson and similar "dumb blondes" are a turn off to me (but then again, I'm 55 years old.)

I prefer brains + looks:. Think Lauren Bacall, Kim Basinger, Gwyneth Paltrow, Halle Berry, Kate Winslet, Veronica Lake, etc.
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Posted: Wednesday, March 02, 2011 11:49:47 PM

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Intelligence is very sexy. Unless its just a lusty, animalistic, one-time-thing relationship, there has to be some good conversation in between the naked parts.
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Posted: Thursday, March 03, 2011 4:25:26 AM

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I do not consider intelligence to be intimidating. I like to have conversations with the people in my life and as I see it, an intelligent woman will have a lot to talk about. If a woman knows more than I do, I do not consider it intimidating, I consider it an opportunity to have wonderful conversations with someone who can teach me something. I do not have to feel like I know everything. Nobody knows everything and everyone can stand to learn something.
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Posted: Thursday, March 03, 2011 7:38:48 AM

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Intelligence is incredibly sexy, but there are also people who are very intelligent (book smart), but have no sense of social intelligence (street smarts).. trying to find a mix of that is the ultimate find.

Sprite, based on reading some of your stories, I'm sure you have nothing to worry about, you seem to have that really good mix..
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Posted: Thursday, March 03, 2011 10:54:27 AM

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A woman who is MORE intelligent than me would be a huuuuuuuuuuuge turn on. I am personally attracted to challenges of a relationship. So, chasing the girl is always fun, but I can get bored after a sustained relationship. If the woman can constantly challenge me on an intellectual, sexual, and emotion basis I could live forever with them, and do whatever they wanted me to. That's not to say I wouldn't challenge her or try to be the dominant one :p. Just my two cents.

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Posted: Thursday, March 03, 2011 10:56:52 AM

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sprite wrote:
Just curious - what about all those of us who aren't dumb, but not exactly geniuses, us average girls? where do we fall on the meter? :)


you are anything but average. lol. Girls who have "average" intellegence, aren't average in everything. So, it's just a matter of finding how to use your best attributes to please the one you want.
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Posted: Thursday, March 03, 2011 9:23:49 PM

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Intelligence is effing hot!

I think it intimidates many men. But, men are intimidated by what they lack. Sad but true. Guys are socialized to think that they have all the answers, be right (most of the time), be able to take care of any situation, strong emotionally, etc. Intelligence can be a threat to that upbringing.
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Posted: Friday, March 04, 2011 2:38:48 PM

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Magnus wrote:
I like intelligence in a woman very much. When she challenges my stance on an issue, I like to be able to defend myself yet still be forced to leave my comfort zone and think in order to do so.

Although I have known women who were intelligent yet very prickly about it, determined to be right and throwing errata and data at me until I submitted. And on the other hand I've encountered women who are fiercely intelligent yet their emotions are timid and require oh so much work to encourage.

So I can say intelligence isn't intimidating to me, however what sometimes comes with it can overwhelm me.


I like this reply. I have to agree with much of it.

I'd have to say though (and this is an observation about people in general) that someone tossing errata at someone just to be right has an inferiority complex. It's an ego thing, not an intelligence thing. Actually, if someone is throwing errata around that's the opposite of intelligence... it's grabbing onto anything and everything to put up the appearance that they are right. Intelligence is about bringing together the correct data with the appropriate conclusions from that data. I'd just call a person merely clever if they were able to sling errata and unrelated data toward me and make it sound convincing.
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Posted: Friday, March 04, 2011 5:13:49 PM

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Not at all nothing is a bigger turn off for me than a pretty woman who when she speaks sounds as bumb as a box of rocks! Lets face it we can't be screwing all the time! when were not a appreciate intelligent conversation.
Buz
Posted: Saturday, March 05, 2011 3:38:41 PM

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Intelligence is not intimidating at all...it's preferred!!!!!

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Posted: Saturday, April 16, 2011 11:04:56 PM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
However you qualify intelligence, whether it's by IQ, social intelligence, writing/communication ability or book smarts, would a woman that is more intelligent than you be seen as intimidating or attractive.

Think of the popular female images of Jessica Simpson acting like the dumb blonde, or Marilyn Monroe's sexualized little girl act, or all the giggly, pillow-fighting, "omg, I'm just a girl" hair-twirling ideal of the Playboy empire and the porn industry (in general).

Does intelligence scare or intimidate men?

Try to answer this question honestly, because I think it's easy to say "I like a smart woman," but the reality is that society often shows that we are at our most attractive when we're being cute, giggly, helpless, and girly.

Is it just a part of the caveman ideal of being the "protector and provider" or is there a feeling that a very intelligent woman would be emasculating to a guy in some way?

Ladies, feel free to respond if you have any thoughts/opinions on this topic... icon_smile


I can't stand girls who can't take care of themselves. Call me a liar, but they just annoy the hell out of me, expecting to get by on cuteness and that shit. I love being challenged by a girl in a debate. And, the girls who are more intelligent are usually better in bed.


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Posted: Monday, April 18, 2011 9:56:13 PM

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no i would rather have a girl smarter than me than a complete airhead slut
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Posted: Monday, April 18, 2011 11:23:45 PM

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DD:

I can't believe you asked this question. You know better than anyone. Beauty and Brains the double negative. Or is that intimidation to the second power.
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Posted: Monday, April 18, 2011 11:38:37 PM

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Nope. It shore ain't.
GentleBen1st
Posted: Tuesday, April 19, 2011 7:02:47 PM

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I find an intelligent woman, one with whom I can have great conversations on a great variety of subjects a total turn on. Life is so much more rewarding with lively and exciting conversation.
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Posted: Friday, April 22, 2011 2:40:40 AM

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a intelligent woman is wonderful. you can actually have a meaningful conversation with one. I'm not talking about a genius, just intelligent If I can not have a conversation with a girl then there is really no point in even considering her for anything else. So no a intelligent girl is not intimidating, she is a welcomed partner in a conversation.
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