Okay, here's my problem. There's this girl that I started seeing, not officially dating yet, but still seeing her rather often. Everything was going great, chemistry was right. After bout 3 weeks or so her periods came and nearing the end of it, we had a small fight over the phone. Now, I didnt do anything, and apparently my silence towards her situations pissed her off really badly. After a few days, things started to get normal again and I thought we were gonna pick up where we left off. Now, one of her friends who works close to her recently confessed to her and tried kissing her, but she isnt like that, so she backed away and they argued for a while about how that was sort of inappropriate. The dude said some shit and she started crying while we were on a video call with each other, I didnt know what to do or say. After that, a few days went by where she ignored his calls until finally she picked up and they started talking, and they eventually became friends again.
I still like this girl, alot, and I thought she felt the same way about me too, until recently I saw something that may or may not prove otherwise. I visited her the other day, and the topic of the guy came about around friends, and when she said his name, she blushed and said it in a kinda high pitched fashion.
I think she likes this guy, the same dude that insulted her to the point of tears. I told you all this to ask this simple question; Why do girls like guys that hurt them emotionally? I dont get it, I fell in love with this girl and there's a chance that she's pushed me aside for someone who isnt gonna make an effort to make sure that she's happy at the end of the day. Or was it something I did wrong? Someone, please tell me, cause this feeling that I have right now is freaking unbearable.
dont worry about it mate. I have faith she'll come to her senses and end up in your arms. Show her that youre better than this guy but do it for you, not her and dont treat i as a competition as jealousy could set in there and blow your chances. Just do you and the rest should fall into place. Chin up champ and just keep swinging
My personal opinion what you should do?
WALK AWAY!
You'll eventually find a girl who may or may not be more laidback, but she'll be waaaaaaaay less dramatic.
It seems to me that GIRLS (and some YOUNG WOMEN) tend to want/need lets just call it DRAMA .... if they are not having problems they want someone who is .... my guess is your are both YOUNG .....give her space and time .... meet new people ...enjoy and experience and learn .... let life show you its many wonders .... grow and ripen .
Wow, guys worry way too much about everything. Life's too short.
My advice would be to take it easy. You said yourself that you're not even 'officially dating' (whatever that means) so just keep doing what you're doing (it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, for the record) and see what happens. If she ends up with this other guy, whatever you think of him, then you cry into a beer for a few hours then suck it up and move on with your life.
Some girls like drama. Embrace it or get out.
Whatever you do, for goodness' sake, RELAX.
Wow how huge things are when you are young...
looks like this girl doesn't know what she wants. sorry you got attached. you could try to convince her that you're the right one but will probably end up making her feel smothered. my advise is to focus on yourslef and other aspects of your life. move on and if it's supposed to be something, she'll likely seek you out.
My advice is my motto which is down below vvvv
oh, and i'm making a note... be careful of blushing and raising the pitch of my voice cause it's a sure sign that i am head over heels in love with some dude who makes me cry...
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
there are 3.5 billion females/3.5 billion males in the world they won't all like you no matter how wonderful you are, never be afraid to risk losing one...talk to her with honesty and forthrightness....it either works or it doesn't...then, if necessary...move on....Don't bullshit or play games...it will always payoff in the long run....
It's the people you like the most that can really hurt you if some random stranger came up and insulted me, I wouldn't care, but if someone I care about did it, it would really hurt, maybe that's why she was crying that first time and the fact that he kept calling her MIGHT mean he was sorry about it. Maybe she liked this guy before she met you and when he confessed, confused the girl? If I were you, I'd let it go, move on.
Thanks guys and girls... I've let go, time to move on.
unreal, this affair was how long, just weeks?
Get a grip, Dear John , your gone,sbxx
Yeah you've seen her for a few weeks...that is not love that is infatuation. She is confused. You are obviously not communicating with her about any of this. Sit down and tell her your concerns but for Gods sake leave the L word out of it!
Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer. ~Swami X
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