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Do you know any differences in general if a story on here is written by a man or woman and if so which do you prefer?
I think men tend to be more descriptive of the female characters and vice versa, however, I actually enjoy most stories written by females more because they are also more descriptive of what is being done to the male characters and that lets me put my self in the fantasy easier.
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This is a huge generalisation but male writers ten to focus on the physical aspects while women spend more time on emotions. There are many, many exceptions, of course and great writers can usually overcome the difference. All that is just, IMO. 
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It's natural for each of us to describe our perspective positions in a story best. The view of either sex can be interesting for me and also depends much on the scenario or mood of story. If the writer's motives (man or woman), are realistic and honest, I can get in to it most of the time for research's sake if nothing else. I find more often than not that it's the subject/scenario/mood that is lacking interest from either sex. I agree with you RumpleForeskin in that, men are more physical and women more emotional most of the time. As it is in real life which brings magic and insight to me. I cannot agree though that either sex should overcome what they know for imagined knowledge. This makes it hard for me to be interested.
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gpjunk wrote:
I think men tend to be more descriptive of the female characters and vice versa...
It is often difficult to work in descriptive detail of the pov character without making them look vain and self-centered, or using a cliche device like looking in a mirror. Meanwhile, their impressions of other people are easily accommodated. While I think that your point is quite relevant, I think it is perhaps just a effect of the fact that more female writers write from a female pov (and men write from a male pov) than the opposite. I write from either pov, depending on the story and characters involved, and mostly I find I describe the love interest (male or female) more than I do the protagonist. It is also usually easier to work in description of the protagonist when writing in third person perspective vs first person perspective. I'd be interested to see the stats on which perspective male and female authors favor. RumpleForeskin wrote:This is a huge generalisation but male writers ten to focus on the physical aspects while women spend more time on emotions. I agree. Generalisation yes, but a valid one. You will probably also notice it affects which physical aspects we focus on. Men tend to focus on the body (ass, breasts, body-shape) while women focus on the head (hair, eyes, lips)
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I agree with most everything said here but I also wonder about differences in word usage. Is a man or woman more likely to use cunt in a story? Things like that. Someone should do a study 
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For me the choice of terminology depends on the character I'm writing about and which word I think they would use, more than my own preferences. Although, personally I don't tend to get too purple with my prose so you will rarely find me using terms like love stick or man meat. Things like that just tend to make me giggle.
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gpjunk wrote:Do you know any differences in general if a story on here is written by a man or woman and if so which do you prefer?
I think men tend to be more descriptive of the female characters and vice versa, however, I actually enjoy most stories written by females more because they are also more descriptive of what is being done to the male characters and that lets me put my self in the fantasy easier.
In general, no, not at all.Generalisations are notoriously dangerous because they are confining and suffocate any understanding or openess to other structures. As a story moderator I read more stories than most people. The differences are not related to gender but to the capability of the writer. What I prefer is a well written story, well crafted in terms of plot, story line, writing, etc. I don't know why you think men tend to be more descriptive of the female characters, unless it is because of what you have read and your own personal inclinations. Nevertheless, I do not agree. The same is true for women writing about men. Your question is too general and limited in scope to your own personal reading for it to be broad reaching.
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In general, no, not at all.Generalisations are notoriously dangerous because they are confining and suffocate any understanding or openess to other structures.
As a story moderator I read more stories than most people. The differences are not related to gender but to the capability of the writer.
As much as I hate to admit it, I have to agree with Miss Moth here...generalizations like women are more emotional in their stories doesn't seem to hold, they may be more emotional in real life...and that's a generalization, but I have read stories by women that are completely devoid of emotion...and stories by men that would bring tears to you eyes... Actually, I've read stories by both sexes that would bring tears to your eyes...but, it wasn't necessarily because of emotional content...but, that's another story... If I had to make any generalization about the differences in stories written by male and female writers, I would say that in most first person stories written by men the main character ends up with a female partner, and vice versa... And even that's a generalization around here...let me go think this out more... 
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The only difference I've actually noticed sometimes, just sometimes, is that male writers tend to make their female characters sluttier than female writers. Men will be more degrading of women than female writers in general.
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gypsymoth wrote:gpjunk wrote:Do you know any differences in general if a story on here is written by a man or woman and if so which do you prefer?
I think men tend to be more descriptive of the female characters and vice versa, however, I actually enjoy most stories written by females more because they are also more descriptive of what is being done to the male characters and that lets me put my self in the fantasy easier.
In general, no, not at all.Generalisations are notoriously dangerous because they are confining and suffocate any understanding or openess to other structures. As a story moderator I read more stories than most people. The differences are not related to gender but to the capability of the writer. What I prefer is a well written story, well crafted in terms of plot, story line, writing, etc. I don't know why you think men tend to be more descriptive of the female characters, unless it is because of what you have read and your own personal inclinations. Nevertheless, I do not agree. The same is true for women writing about men. Your question is too general and limited in scope to your own personal reading for it to be broad reaching. That's actually why I asked the question, to see if this was my personal experience or if there was something more to it. Also, I agree that generalizations can be dangerous but they also need to be discussed because if there is something to them they can be kept in mind for the improvement of a writer. For example, if men truly were more descriptive of women a man writing a story could keep that in mind and seek better balance in his descriptions. I realize also that the better the writers the less any generalization will apply but I was speaking more of the average writer than the better ones. I am glad you answered because you do read more stories than the average reader so you are better equipped to answer the question than most.
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gpjunk wrote:Do you know any differences in general if a story on here is written by a man or woman and if so which do you prefer? I think men tend to work on their stories naked...alternating one hand the keyboard at a time...vs. a woman working naked at their keyboard...alternating one hand at a time. See they have to go completely around their naked breasts without touching them vs. a man going unencumbered right to their kickstand. If I had really nice sensitive nipples on a really nice chest…if I was a woman…I’d have a hard time not stopping to play just a little….know what I mean? 
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I don't like to generalize on this one. I think people have different styles of writing but I don't think it is dependent on their gender. I think the stereotypes of women writing more flowery, emotional love-stories is a bit dated. The most hardcore/raunchy porn out there today is actually made by female producers (a little known but surprising fact). I think writing style is dependent on a lot of factors... personal experience and point of view are probably the greatest influencers.
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On my first published story, someone commented, congratulating the lady who helped me out with some of the parts that were more.. let's say.. feminine. I'm not sure why, because I actually wrote it all by myself... should I have been flattered?
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Magical_felix wrote:The only difference I've actually noticed sometimes, just sometimes, is that male writers tend to make their female characters sluttier than female writers. Men will be more degrading of women than female writers in general. I could agree with that. I certainly, on occasion, have made my female characters considerably sluttier than was probably realistic relative to the rest of their personality or than was necessary. Other than that, there are no generalisations that really hold up (especially on Lush). The language used and the level of physical and emotional description varies from story to story depending on characters, situation, style, etc. (in my experience, at least).
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The difference between the male and the female writers? The female writers are much better looking. Need I say more.
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Difficult to say that there is a consistent difference. However, some women writers have much greater stamina and much greater attention to fine detail than most male writers. In short, the sex lasts longer and it has a finer grain when it gets to body parts. If I were ever to use the terms "slow motion" or "close zoom" to describe erotic writing, I think it would be for women authors. I agree with Dancing Doll (as usual, of course) that women writers are just as likely to be way up there on the raunchiness scale.
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I find the best stories (for me anyway) rely very little on physical descriptions of the main characters male or female. Thanks to porn most of the descriptive narrative of a lot of sex writing is sadly limited to sight and sound: painfully lacking in the sensations of touch, smell, taste and emotion.
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overmykneenow wrote:I find the best stories (for me anyway) rely very little on physical descriptions of the main characters male or female.
Thanks to porn most of the descriptive narrative of a lot of sex writing is sadly limited to sight and sound: painfully lacking in the sensations of touch, smell, taste and emotion. I agree with this. I want to shoot myself when someone pauses his/her story to insert a description. The "let me start by saying that I'm 5'7" with a great body, bla bla bla"... totally kills it for me. I don't mind someone mentioning a body part in action, but otherwise physical descriptions are not necessary.
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rudyP34 wrote:
I agree with this. I want to shoot myself when someone pauses his/her story to insert a description. The "let me start by saying that I'm 5'7" with a great body, bla bla bla"... totally kills it for me. I don't mind someone mentioning a body part in action, but otherwise physical descriptions are not necessary.
Agreed! It's even worse when two characters meet in a story for the first time and the narrator (or perspective character) reels off their stats like they'd just greeted them with a tape measure or they have the magical ability to psychically read clothing labels at a distance. I look across the room and saw her. The most beautiful woman I've ever seen. She had long blonde hair that fell down across her 36D breasts and when she stood up on her four and a half inch heels she was 5'11". Erm, yeah right.
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Mistress_of_words wrote:rudyP34 wrote:
I agree with this. I want to shoot myself when someone pauses his/her story to insert a description. The "let me start by saying that I'm 5'7" with a great body, bla bla bla"... totally kills it for me. I don't mind someone mentioning a body part in action, but otherwise physical descriptions are not necessary.
Agreed! It's even worse when two characters meet in a story for the first time and the narrator (or perspective character) reels off their stats like they'd just greeted them with a tape measure or they have the magical ability to psychically read clothing labels at a distance. I look across the room and saw her. The most beautiful woman I've ever seen. She had long blonde hair that fell down across her 36D breasts and when she stood up on her four and a half inch heels she was 5'11". Erm, yeah right. Agreed. In my "Delights" novels (12 books, 600,000 words) the chief character, the story of whose life they are, is never described, even to his height, though it can be inferred that he is shorter than his chief bodyguard who is described as "a very tall man, almost seven feet and broad in proportion" when that impression is an important part of the story. While many problems have been pointed out to me by eagle-eyed readers, mostly correctly, not one has ever commented on the lack of description for David Ransome, Emir of Kobekistan.
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Generalizing about a persons writing style based on gender is tantamount to using their sexual preference, ethnic background, religious training, the state they live in, or their Avatar to judge their style. That is part of why I chose a non-gender specific Avatar in the first place. But BS aside, I prefer "most" women's style of writing, when they chose to involve deeper emotional impact into the story. Case in point is "Pretending" by PennLady; the ending choked me up. But, I have found male authors with the same gift, James Patterson with "The Jester". I hope to remain committed to judging the author by their story, not the story by the author.
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Someone just shared this in one of my Facebook writing groups...Why are male writers so bad at sex scenes?
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Mr Martini, In reading the examples I realize there is still hope for us struggling male writers at Lush, obviously it may only happen with the astute guidance of our female brethren. 
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I find the post here to be very interesting. A a male writer I find myself making the woman the focal point. I at least try to bring in emotion into the storyline as the fuel for the sex. To me the discriptions of the act are critical but how it makes the players feel is equally so. For myself I'd have to say that female writers seem to write from the female perspective and therefore captivate my interest. Of course any talented writer be they male or female can produce a great story and lush has several men who are excellent.
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Hey'all slow down there a bit.
First we're not all straight-orientated here. And concerning gay stories,altough one may assume writer's gender is obvious(which is true in most cases) i've read elsewhere gay stuff written by both genders writers which is good enough to let you think the author though actually not gay or even of the physical gender involved personally endorsed the sexual orientation upon which his material based.
Second. When it comes to straight stories(mosty 1st person pov ones) most contain some body descriptive lines. And generally each gender writers tend to describe the other's physical appearance and their's feelings(no need to say a nine inches or more penis size almost undoubtly betray a three to five inches shorter one between the writer's legs). To avoid generalizing let's say this is more noticeable with young unexperienced writers.
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