plenty of lubriation and he could work up to it gently, you need to really relax your instinct will be to tighten up.
its great when you relax
Lots of lube and take it really really slow.... Start with one finger, then 2 and so on... In any event it will hurt for the first few minutes. If he goes slowly or just doesnt move at all until you get used to the feeling it will be g-r-e-a-t.... You can try having a drink first to help you relax too.
1. make sure you do not have any other problems down there. Like hemorrhoids.
2. Do you want it? Try out what works for you on your own.
I prefer a constant slow push when getting something in there. Always working slowly until I'm comfortable and need more. (If it suddenly hurts really bad I do not withdraw fast cause that usually makes it worse.)
Try out on yourself and share what you've learned with your guy so that he doesn't do it in a way you do not like it.
Use plenty of lube, just when you think you've applied enough, put a little more. Also go slow, let them work you until you relax with fingers. You can also try masturbating analy to see what you like. Once you're relaxed it can be really good.
You need to know your limits before letting a guy back there. Try fingers, or a vibe, or a dildo first.
You should also want to do this because YOU want to do this. Don't try anal if you're being pressured into it by a guy.
If he really wants it that bad make him try it first, then he'll know what your going through and will be A LOT gentler.
If your still going to try anal, try lying on your side in the spooning position with him. Its the least painful position I've found so far.
And I can't say this enough... LUBE... Lots and Lots of LUBE
The only other thing I can think of is... you need to trust your partner
Anal sex is fantastic when done properly and by a partner thats careful with you...
Remember to relax and have fun and enjoy yourself... its not for everyone but I've always loved it
All the suggestions made above are great. The key thing is LUBE. And start off with fingers or a small vibe to get used to the feeling of having your ass penetrated. You can do this yourself of have your partner do it. And I have always found that having him work on my pussy first always got me more relaxed.
Also make sure he goes slow. Push it in a little, relax and get used to how it feels, then go a little further. There will always be a little pain the first time but once you are comfortable with the whole act it passes and becomes amazing.
But as has already been said, make sure you are doing it because you want to do it. I think anal sex is wonderful but that doesnt mean everyone has to do it. We are all different.
There have been several threads about anal in the forum. You should go back and read them to find more helpful suggestions.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!!
your ass is for waste to come out, no wonder it hurts so much when your trying to stuff a willy up there!
Everything happens for a reason. Live for the moment and have no regrets.
Who says that waste is all your ass was meant for? all our other orifices are multi purpose. I think if it wasn't meant to be used for sex the parts wouldn't fit, so who's to say it isn't designed for built in birth control. Having a dick shoved in it isn't all a pussy is for either and menstrual waste comes from there too.
I do think you should be doing it on your own before letting someone else try. The shower is a good place to experiment. Personally I think I'd like using a plug during sex, so that might be a good alternative to help get used to it. If I ever ask my husband to try it I'll make use of the position suggestions too.
Thank you so much for all of the suggestions! I'll def try the lube! You guys are awesome!!
like everyone else said, plenty of lube, a guy who knows what he's doing, slowly relaxing yourself and starting with fingers or small toys and practice
I have to be incredibly turned on and completely relaxed. Take your time and use lots of lube, be slow and gentle but you will experience some discomfort at first.
You have to open up slowly so start by using fingers instead of trying to go straight to cock.
For me it's not the fact it goes in. I don't mind. It's the movement of going in and out especially as my significant other is rather well endowed and he gets bigger. Even when I'm relaxed and well lubed it is still painful.
So any suggestions guys?
The one tip I can give is not just using lube but where you use it. Make sure you or your guy carefully works it into you, not just on the surface. This will have the added advantage of helping you get loose. I find a heating lube best.
Also before he starts be sure he is lubed too. Coat his head and shaft, stroke it in with your hand like you would during a hand job.
As said above you must be relaxed. He should use fingers first maybe even a thin dildo.
Last suggestion would be to let him try shortly after you cum through oral or toy use. That will get you hot and ready as you will ever be.
This is a problem for me because in my head, I do fancy being fucked hard and fast but in the real world, that would plain hurt.
Ditto everyone else who said that it is really important to stay relaxed. Otherwise, the asshole simply won't give way. Gandalf himself actually appears and shouts "you shall not pass" ...True story.
Seriously though, since I'm often in the S&M game I have to get myself in the mood before hand and 'prep' my asshole. I have a but plug (which I highly recommend to anyone who wants to get started with anal sex) and play with myself before my partner arrives so that when he does, he can go straight into ripping my clothes of and pounding me. Butt plugs are great because their conical so you can slowly work your way up. Second, you can go at your own pace without worrying if your partner is getting bored or anxious. That's a HUGE bonus.
only have anal with men with smaller penises? No, that's a serious suggestion - i think some men are just too big for some of us smaller girls to be comfortable with anal unless we've had a lot of experience with it.
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The best lube I've used was Astroglide. It's very thick and stays lubricated a long time
Thanks to all the ladies who offered their knowledge. I've always wanted to try anal sex with mrs P. She seems willing to give it a go, but the one time I thought we were ready to give it a go, she asked me to not hurt her. I was scared off until I read this thread. Thank you so much for being open and honest.
You have to have total trust in your lover, and relax, relax, relax !! To this, add a bit of lube and it's heaven-sent sex. An intense feeling of physical closeness.
I am sure most of us had some level of discomfort with this activity the first time or three. All of the Sister above have made good comments, on which I do not think I have to expand.
But even if you accept some level of discomfort for that guy, most likely you will find the day when Anal is just as much for you as it is for him. Maybe more so.
How do you make being analed not hurt as much?
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