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Guille
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MMonroe
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In a fantasy world/porn film - the guy is hot, successful, amazing in bed, and its completely safe to wander off with him to god knows where without even exchanging numbers first.

In the real world - the kind of guys that solicite girls for sex are creepy, slimy, think they're gods gift and are most likely crap in bed. Oh, and they usually cant take no for an answer.

It would be nice if everyone could be that open about casual sex and not mind being asked for it that frankly but they're not, and i wouldnt go for a guy who just asked straight out, without even asking for a number first, no matter how hot/confident/rich he was. You dont know what you're getting and its not safe.

Basically, chat girls up all you want but ask for numbers, chat a bit, and be prepared for it to take a little longer than 'wanna fuck?'



*Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?*



Shylass
Posted: Saturday, January 21, 2012 1:28:27 PM

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I'd completely love it. I'm the one who always holds the coats and looks after the drinks whilst everybody else gets chatted up... Boo hoo!

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ThunderQueen79
Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 5:38:54 PM

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It all depends. Sometimes yes, its hot and heck yeah let's go for it, but sometimes its way gross
ShyVixen
Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 5:39:32 PM

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It's flattering to a point, but it's just not my style. Now have I done this, hell yes! Good thing I stay out of bars!
BelleduJour
Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 6:32:07 PM

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honestly, i've been approached many times for this in my life and it can be flattering at times but i have never accepted an invitation...just not my style to do so.

Jessi_Leigh
Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 7:24:57 PM

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Honestly, yeah. It's like a compliment to me. Oddly enough I don't always say yes, some people may think I do, some people have that natural creeper vibe they give off or they're too arrogant. I hate the guys or girls who think they can get who ever they want with a smile and a drink.
MzRogue
Posted: Sunday, January 22, 2012 7:34:00 PM

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lol it's flattering, but it can be annoying. Especially when they dont understand the word no. But i have done my sex with strangers phase... i at least ask them their last name now. ;)
Guest
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 12:56:02 AM

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Quote:

Do you like to be solicited for casual sex by strangers in bars?

Yes and no. If they are blunt louts, then I say no. If thy are more gentlemanly about it (& buying me a few beers and talking first helps) then I usually never say no.
1Zratedgal
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 1:01:05 AM

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MMonroe wrote:
In a fantasy world/porn film - the guy is hot, successful, amazing in bed, and its completely safe to wander off with him to god knows where without even exchanging numbers first.

In the real world - the kind of guys that solicite girls for sex are creepy, slimy, think they're gods gift and are most likely crap in bed. Oh, and they usually cant take no for an answer.

It would be nice if everyone could be that open about casual sex and not mind being asked for it that frankly but they're not, and i wouldnt go for a guy who just asked straight out, without even asking for a number first, no matter how hot/confident/rich he was. You dont know what you're getting and its not safe.

Basically, chat girls up all you want but ask for numbers, chat a bit, and be prepared for it to take a little longer than 'wanna fuck?'


I have to agree with MMonroe...
As a person in the lifestyle, many people think we live the "free for all" sexual attitude but it is a more responsible group of people that are a pool of friends or like minded individuals who can enjoy other partners without fears and stress...

The fantasy of casual sex is always there but the reality and the consequences are more scary!

Kisses!

Steph
Jack_42
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 2:22:14 AM

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When I was not committed and whenever a girl has been frank but not arrogant I've always gone along with it.
MMonroe
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 2:33:59 AM

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Deumea wrote:

Yes and no. If they are blunt louts, then I say no. If thy are more gentlemanly about it (& buying me a few beers and talking first helps) then I usually never say no.


Yep, i mean this. If the guy is willing to put a bit effort in then thats better than thinking he can get you by clicking his fingers.

Now casual sex at a house party is waaaaayyy different! You have somewhere to go (a bedroom/bathroom/whatever), and usually safer than being out on the streets



*Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?*



CrimsonBlaze
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 3:31:19 AM

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There was a time when it was flattering to a certain degree IF the person was charismatic enough and spent a little time seducing me a bit instead of just smiling, buying a drink and saying "let's go fuck." Now, it gets rather annoying and irritating and usually the person doing the soliciting is arrogant and assumes the answer is automatically yes, giving no regard to the other person. That's not flattering to me at all.
Coco
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 6:13:39 AM

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No, not anymore. When I was an unattached girl and was drug out to bars with friends, I didn't mind it.

SITTING
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 7:50:54 AM

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Not particularly. I haven't really forgotten the Sex Ed lessons yet and seriously, it'd feel a bit slutty to just go off and have NSA sex with a random dude.

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ready4
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 9:09:45 AM

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yes i am always attracted but am choosy about who can have me
Buz
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 9:39:09 AM

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I wonder why women always hit on me in clubs and bars when I am with my wife. It is annoying to me and it really pisses my wife off. Just a couple of weeks ago some woman stuffed her phone number in my pants pocket while I am walking through the crowd with my wife. My wife saw her do it and confronted her on it. The girl tried to say she did not realize we were together. I don't see how in the hell she did not see that we were holding hands as we were walking by. I have discovered that women in bars/clubs are much more aggressive toward me now that I am married than back when I was single. What's up with that?

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Buz wrote:
I wonder why women always hit on me in clubs and bars when I am with my wife. It is annoying to me and it really pisses my wife off. Just a couple of weeks ago some woman stuffed her phone number in my pants pocket while I am walking through the crowd with my wife. My wife saw her do it and confronted her on it. The girl tried to say she did not realize we were together. I don't see how in the hell she did not see that we were holding hands as we were walking by. I have discovered that women in bars/clubs are much more aggressive toward me now that I am married than back when I was single. What's up with that?


Because you are now a challenge, therefore more attractive.

As far as the original question goes, the rule tends to be that the more opportunities for sex a girl has, the less excited she gets to take them. Girls getting constantly hit-on in bars for casual sex is pretty much standard fair. You get hit on standing at the bar, on the dancefloor, waiting in line for the bathroom... it's not a novelty. For me, it drives my guard way up and contributes to a necessary stand-offish attitude, especially in a club where guys are more and more aggressive and proactive about making their 'pitch'. The easier you can get it, the less you want it. I very rarely have ever gone for a one-niter from a bar/club.

In Buz's case, because he's not projecting the "I need to find a girl to fuck" energy, he becomes even more attractive to girls. A hot guy who isn't trolling the bar for chicks, and just looks like he's having a good time and chilling becomes much more of the 'novelty'. Not sure if these girls are seeing his beautiful wife, but some of them probably don't care either way. They're into the challenge, and for some - 'stealing the hot guy' from the girl he's with can become something of a game.


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Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 10:48:49 AM

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I find it flattering to be found attractive, but I'd never randomly hook up with some guy in a bar...

I'd like him to try a bit harder than that...
Nikki703
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 10:56:44 AM

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Getting hit on in a bar, club, etc can be flattering at times but usually more annoying, mainly because of the way guys go about it. Most are very rude and make it seem like it is my lucky day that they are interested. Some are cool about it but they are far out numbered by the pathetic come ons.

I really love the guys who see me with my GF or with another friend and immediately think threesome. I have heard stories of girls pretending they were lesbians in order to have guys leave them alone, but that just makes them want you even more, LOL!

I agree that many women find married guys more attractive. Maybe beacuse of the challenge of having someone elses guy, or maybe they are just looking for no strings attached sex and figure the married guy wont be constantly hounding them afterward. I have never done that so I cant speak from experience

When guys do hit on me, I always try not to be rude and hope they just give up. But I also imagine, I will be sad when the day comes and they no longer want to hit on me too!!!
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Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 5:00:34 PM

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Honestly? The attention isn't awful and in some ways it's rather flattering to know that someone finds you attractive.
But, the whole one night stand thing isn't me and it can be really frustrating when some guys assume that a couple of drinks means you become their property or seem unable to understand the words "no thank you".
nowheregirl
Posted: Monday, January 23, 2012 7:23:24 PM

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i find it flattering that some one would be interested but i'm not quite sure i would be okay with a one night stand or going to a complete strangers house.
Budlee
Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 1:31:34 PM

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While it's flattering, I'm way past that stage. Now it can be more annoying than fun.
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well, its good for a giggle, cuz as if. lol

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If it's someone you like it can be very flattering.

If it's someone you don't like it can be very uncomfortable.



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chanx
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here it happen many time to me! i think is compliment lol
Guest
Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 2:22:32 PM

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Don't particularly like it, mainly because most are drunken layabouts. Just occasionally a guy with a suave and attractive personality will be subtle and I may well gravitate towards him - and who knows I may well end up having sex with him.
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Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 3:08:49 PM

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Nikki703 wrote:
Getting hit on in a bar, club, etc can be flattering at times but usually more annoying, mainly because of the way guys go about it. Most are very rude and make it seem like it is my lucky day that they are interested. Some are cool about it but they are far out numbered by the pathetic come ons.

I really love the guys who see me with my GF or with another friend and immediately think threesome. I have heard stories of girls pretending they were lesbians in order to have guys leave them alone, but that just makes them want you even more, LOL!

I agree that many women find married guys more attractive. Maybe beacuse of the challenge of having someone elses guy, or maybe they are just looking for no strings attached sex and figure the married guy wont be constantly hounding them afterward. I have never done that so I cant speak from experience

When guys do hit on me, I always try not to be rude and hope they just give up. But I also imagine, I will be sad when the day comes and they no longer want to hit on me too!!!


Come On Nikki

We all know that when you are not getting hit on, either Sex has been banned by th Feds or you are too old to get to the bar. Nah that could never happen!






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Guest
Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 4:05:37 PM

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its usually older women knowing who they want and what they are going to do to u. Mostly accept
1nympholes
Posted: Thursday, September 13, 2012 5:04:51 PM

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I do not mind getting hit on in the least and my resistance is not very high either.

But do it with some class and style. So many guys seem to be looking at the next girl down the bar while they are trying their luck with you.

Make us think we are really an interesting woman, even if you are just looking for the immediate.






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