I still have a toy dog my ex won for me at the fair (it was like an old fashioned film!), and he sits on my shelf now, but it would totally depend on the break up. With this ex, we have remained friends after but I have been through break ups before when it was too painful to keep any reminder of him around so it all went.

If you're not sure what to do with it, just stuff it in the back of a cupboard for now

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it depends on how the bad the break up is

i kept my engagement ring for a very long while - he broke up with me, btw. the exes from breakups that were mutual and on good terms, i kept some things for sentimental value - the bad break ups i either destroyed gifts or gave them away/sold them if they had some monetary worth. i still have some jewelry, books, and stuffed animals from exes that i was fond of, even after we split. :)

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Bitches in the Basement on Amazon by our own Dancing Doll

It generally depends on the item given. If it’s a worthless piece of tat I would throw it away. But if it is worth something even if it’s not worth money but sentimentality then I would keep it to remind me of better days.
Just because they are your ex does it mean that you chuck out everything that reminds you of them. I think that is stupid.

I was talking about this the other night with a friend. She's sporting a hefty diamond solitaire engagement ring (and has been for nearly a year) but she's thinking of ditching the guy as he's dragging his feet on setting a wedding date. Whatever... I thought it was odd that the marriage date wasn't agreed upon within the first few weeks, but that's not my concern.

She's going to give it back.

But the earrings, watch, bracelet and anklet...she plans to keep (unless the cheap bastard requests them returned).

Most guys who gift to their beloved ... know the unspoken rules. And if you don't... heheh, you'll learn 'em.

Don't be a fucking cheap ass too, koolboy. Unless, yanno - If she cheated on ya, she should give back THE ring (if there was one) and if not...cut your losses and count your blessings. * If you cheated on her (another woman, another man, drugs or what the hell ever - Kiss the Ring goodbye)

In your future life, you should drive down the road and piss away more coin, having fun.

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The best thing you can do for your fellow,
next to rousing his conscience, is - not to give him things
to think about, but to wake things up that are in him...
to make him think things for himself - George MacDonald

yup u are right.. i dont know why it wasnt geting posted completly..

I think you probably tried to put it all in the subject title, which is why the first post is blank. Normally, the titles have a very small character limit, as opposed to the post field (the bit you are reading this in now).

Perhaps you could just ask if they want it back? You could do that by phone, letter, e-mail or in person. If you don't feel you can ask, but you are worried, you could perhaps post it, or leave it with a mutual friend for them.

And if you are not sure, as somebody else said, stick it in a cupboard until you know what you should do with it.

My brother's ex has left three large bags of books here, from before they broke up. I can't throw them out, obviously, and as she turned out to be a psycho and my brother has avoidance issues (and a new girlfriend). So if it's something big and annoying that your family have to put up with, please return it just to get it out of the way!

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If you are interested in the law on engagement rings (and who has the right to the ring if the wedding is called off), here in an interesting article:

http://writ.news.findlaw.com/grossman/20011023.html

if its jewelry- especially expensive jewelry- keep it. if not id throw it out

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If they are really expensive, i would return them. Perfume, books, cd's... i use them.

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Take it to the pawn shop!

Ebay? Give it back? Pay it forward?

Unless I really, really indentify with it, then i keep it.

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Overwhelming Reality

From Across the Room

In the year... well a year that was a long time ago... I had given my girlfriend a tennis bracelet (very tiny diamonds), a 14 ct gold necklace (didn't cost much - couple three hundred bucks I think - maybe?) and... (drumroll please)... a promise ring. lol Yeah... a $250 ring...should tell ya how long ago that was...

The precursor to the engagement ring...and not as sentimentally close to my heart as my college class ring (which I lost about 20 years ago while fishing).

She gave me a Colibri cigarette lighter that at the time was billed as the world's thinnest, for our 2 year anniversary of 'going steady'.
It looked like this...I could have sworn she paid $500 for the thing.

At the time, I just thought I was one lucky bastard. (and I was)...it's not the cost of thing$ when you're young and in love...so much as it's just that she thinks of me.... queue up swooning-romantic-puppy-love tune. She and I were poor college kids. She gave me pussy and I gave her lots of hard dick. That was good enough for both of us 99% of the time.

We broke up after four years of monogamous dating (no living together involved) she and I attended different colleges. No gifts were returned, nor did I think to offer her back the cig lighter. I liked it, even though one full charge of butane would only light up about 10 cigarettes before it petered out.

My grandmother had given her a couple of hand made quilts for a couple of xmas presents... Marilyn did ask me if I wanted those back...and I asked her to keep them, unless she was going to give them to Goodwill or something.

You don't have to be an asshole when a relationship ends, and you don't have to be a gold digging butt-wipe either. But four years is a bit different than 4 weeks or 4 months or 1 year of loosely seeing one another.

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The best thing you can do for your fellow,
next to rousing his conscience, is - not to give him things
to think about, but to wake things up that are in him...
to make him think things for himself - George MacDonald

I think this question only applies to short term relationships between 2 people. It's a different ball game after 20 years of marriage and kids etc things like "she gave me these cufflinks " don't seem as important as other issues. Well that's how I see it.