I was going to write I dont have any sexual insecurities, thats one of the great things with being with the same lover for 19 years, they know every little curve and dimple on your body, but its just not true.
I still worry about whether or not he looks at me and sees the small imperfections old and new.
The one saving grace of getting older you gain the ability to say this is me. Love me as I am.
I have in the last few years gained a sense of confidence that I only thought I had when I was younger. I'm strong enough now to say ...."This is what I want and this is how I like it and while you're at it why dont you try it like this"
I dont think we ever lose all insecurities but we do learn that most of them are just in our own mind, that our lovers look at us and see perfection
Mine don't fit into one category. It's scary getting naked in front of someone new, but I'm aware enough to know that they're my insecurities and they won't see most of what I notice in the mirror. Then there's the worry about sexual skills, but for me it's not just about not being good enough in bed, it's not being good enough in general. They're equally big issues, so they're both my number one.
There's always the worry about them seeing my scars and asking about them, that's just a constant one in the background, that I choose to ignore.
It's funny how many insecurities you have when you sit down and think about it.
I chose the first answer. I think it's safe to say, most of us women are insecure about our body in some way. I did have one lover that was extremely turned on by what I am most insecure with.
I think we all have concerns, after all we all dress to downplay those aspects we don't care for. Once you remove that covering it leaves you open to the scrutiny of others. I don't mind being naked, I am fairly content with who I am, but I do worry that a new person will notice the areas that I notice. The rational part of me knows they aren't seeing what I see, but I still want to be that image of myself I see in my dreams. I don't worry to much about my skills, I feel I've got this down; I might not be the best but I am comfortable with what I do. I'm not worried about what I want verses what they want, again, I know what I like, but am open to learning/trying new ideas. As for after sex, it has taken me years, but I have discovered that it really doesn't change who I am. Since the most important relationship is the one I have with myself, I am content.
As most have said, i dont know if it is that we are just wired that way or what, but i do not know one girl that doesnt have at least one issue with their body. So of course been completely naked in front of someone else its nerve raking or at least the first time it's for me. So for me that first time my mind always go to that part of your body that you dont like because you think your thighs are a little to thick or that your boobs are not as perky as they used to be, or whatever your issue with your body is at the moment. For me once i get more comfortable with the guy, this issues start bothering me less.
I'm a kinky girl, some may even think me a nasty girl, so my biggest concern is my doing something that will turn him off or make him think I'm a nutcase. He knows of my desire for kink, knew of it before he proposed, but has yet to experience all of it with me. I'm looking forward to more, just not sure if he is.
Being naked and bodily imperfections being noticed
I was a late developer, felt inferior to girls with larger breasts and didn't want guys comparing mine against theirs.
I guess that had a lasting effect and even now I'm still shy of being naked, Probably as a result of that I also enjoy sex with my clothes on.
I'm a confident person sexually, but sometimes worry that I could very easily cross the boundaries of what is considered 'normal' sexual behaviour. That's my insecurity.
Theres a couple of those that apply to me:
Disappointment in your sexual skills/abilities
Him doing/wanting something that you're not into
Both relating to me dissapointing him i guess but the main one is 'Being naked and bodily imperfections being noticed', especially how i look down below. Im paranoid about how swollen i get when im aroused, even though ive never had any negative reactions or reponses from anyone.
I have my good and bad days where im feeling more sexy/confident than others but i also think it depends on the person you're with at the time. Some people just make me feel more comfortable and therefore confident than others do
I put mine in other although it is i guess along the lines of being insecure...
Besides the fact that i have gained a tremendous amount of weight after my child which i admit i haven't worked hard enough to lose...
I always worry that pushing a baby out didn't help my down there area...i guess we see all these images posted on women and its hard to realize that it isn't what all women look like!!
ok now to go eat some ice cream lol
I chose doing something that would freak him out, because it has happened before.
For me, it's doing something that may freak him/her out. You never really know how sexually compatiable you are with someone until that first time. I'm a wild one so I'm always more nervous that I'll be too much for them. It has happened a few times and every time, the entire encounter goes downhill and afterwards it becomes painfully awkward.
Being naked and body imperfections. Because I'm not comfortable with my body.
