None of us are perfect, and I am much more tolerant of my lovers imperfections then my own.
I am forced to be reminded of my own imperfections daily and even though I realize none of us is perfect, my infatuation of her blurs her imperfections.
I now realize that my lover has the same insecurities... so we should just relish the moment for the special thing it is.
I do not have any "interesting" stories to share about sexual insecurities. Not that there are not stories, I just don't want to share. But I did vote.
I think nearly all have some sexual insecurities. Do not dwell on them but allow yourself to enjoy and fulfill.
I have no sexual insecurities whatsoever!
All of the above. Even with the so called right equipment doesn't mean you are going to achieve the right ending. Every one's needs are different. So trying to achieve the right ending doesn't always work.
I think that unless you really have no conscious, you are always going to be a little nervous with a new partner. I've had the same partner for a couple years now and I still get overwhelmed sometimes. It happens
I'll be honest...when I was in my teens I was insecure about my uncut cock, but that has never been an issue, and you get more comfortable with yourself as you get older. For a bit there in my early 20s, it was worrying about her orgasm too much, but I found that relaxing is key and not to be in my head; be in the moment. But now, it's more a concern than an insecurity, but "doing something sexually that will freak her out." She's pretty vanilla sexually and I want to bring up other things delicately and w/o pressure, but I'm nervous about it.
My insecurity is misreading when she gives the green light. What really screwed me up was the girl who believed 'no' meant 'yes'. There were several times we got hot and heavy and just when I was ready to go for it, she said, "No" in her breathy voice. So being the gentleman that I am, I didn't proceed any further but we continued kissing and feeling each other up. It happened a second time and again, the same result. When we finally made love she told me I should have taken her the first time. I reminded her she said no but she said she really meant yes. So being a gentleman delayed me fucking her. Maybe I should be more aggressive, but I don't want to force myself on anyone either.
I have come to the conclusion that my fantasies are way kinkier then my girl´s... This makes me really think about how and when I should introduce the idea of fulfilling one of my fantasies. I have to carefully balance the consequences of a no and her reaction...
Apart from this, I´m rather confortable in my own skin.
It's very interesting to see how varied the responses here are compared to the poll in Ask the Gals.
"other"
Sometimes I worry if the sex is becoming routine. Not boring to where we both don't achieve orgasm. I know we both enjoy it all of the time. But there are times when I worry that things can get a bit predictable.
Being err cough cough one of the more mature blokes on here I do not have any body hang ups. I suspect this will be the top of the girls list.
Myself would be the worry of freaking her out with something too kinky!
For me it's the typical that I know it's probably not gonna be a problem, but I make a big deal out of it and worry about it in my head.
Should I in the future I know that odds are I won't get her to cum every time I stick my cock inside her, and I've sort of settled with that. But I'm still worried that I might not be able to give her an orgasm through intercourse. I know I can finger and lick her to an orgasm, but fuck her? I'm not sure about that and it's something I want to achieve.
Second thing is I hope to God she doesn't think "It was nice, but my ex was better" afterwards. I guess maybe that's why I'm a bit of a sexual doormat; I'm willing to try pretty much anything the girl wants as long as it involves the two of us and not another dude.
Part of the benefits of being in a committed long term relationship is most of these choices don't apply. Mrs P is very vanilla, so I'm always concerned about freaking her out by taking things too far.
More to the point of DD's question though, if I were with a new partner I would be concered that my dick was too small. All the ads dealing with how to grow a longer schlong combined with all the guy here at Lush being nine inches or greater I would have to wonder. Other than that, I'm generally secure with my appearance and bedroom skills/abilities.
My thing is i tend to last a very long time. I'm beginning to think there's something wrong with me. There has been 3 or 4 times where i faked orgasm it to stop fucking, not because i wanted to but because i didnt want to hear her tell me we had to stop. of course in those situations time was a factor for example she wants to fuck before work or we both wake up for some late night fun, but its supposed to be late night not all night, or even quickies in a place where its not even safe to be fucking. It makes me feel good when i can make a girl cum multiple times but it REALLY bugs the hell outa me when i get some but cant get to the best part on my end.
WMM made mention of an ex which triggered my memory of a lady I once dated. No! ...dated would mean we actually spent some time together.
I actually only bonked her on three occasions (she was my first) and she also possessed one of those cavernous vaginas, making me feel quite inadequate as I wasn't touching sides!
I am neither tiny nor hung like a horse but, my God ...!!
In fact, a mate of mine bonked her a few months after I had ...and he is hung like a cart horse.
His statement to me afterwards was; "Holy fuck, you could put three dicks in there and still have space for your motorbike"
Pride returned and I'm pretty close to being a normal human being again - okay ...close is good!!
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