OK ANY GUYS IN A LTR EVER HAVE A FFM 3SOME ?? I HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN FOR OVER A YEAR...STARTED OUT AS A FUCK BUDDY TYPE THING....NEITHER OF US EXPECTED IT TO DEVELOPE INTO ANYTHING MORE OR TO LAST THIS LONG BUT IT DID, WE HAVE A EXTREMELY SATISFYING AND HIGH ENERGY SEX LIFE, VERY ACTIVE,NEVER BORING AND VERY PLEASURABLE....FOR US BOTH...HE IS VERY ATTENTATIVE...ALWAYS GIVING ME MULTIPLE ORGASMS BEFORE HE CUMS AND I AM ALWAYS VERY ATTENTIVE TO HIS NEEDS AND WANTS.
WE ARE BOTH VERY OPEN IN OUR SEX LIFE, BOTH ENJOY ORAL SEX IMMENSLY...HE CAN EAT PUSSY GIVING ME 4 OR 5 ORGASMS AS FORPLAY...HE GETS A BLOW JOB AS HIS FORPLAY...WE BOTH LOVE ANAL SEX..DRESSING UP,HANDCUFFS, MASTERBATING FOR HIM,HIM CUMING ON ME, I AM VERY LOUD AND PRETTY WILD. A NIGHTS SEX ALWAYS INVOLVES ORAL,THEN NUMEROUS POSITIONS AND USUALLY IS ABOUT 3 TO 4 HOURS LONG, I ENJOY AND ALWAYS SWALLOW.
BASICALLY WE HAVE A FULL SEX LIFE...WE ARE BOTH VERY HAPPY AND SATISFIED BUT WELL YOU KNOW MEN AND THEIR FANTASYS....NOW THE QUESTION IS HE HAS A FANTASY OF A FFM 3SOME...THIS IS HIS FANTASY, I AM NOT ATTRACTED TO WOMAN, I DO FIND WOMAN BEAUTIFUL BUT DO NOT GET TURNED ON BY THEM, HIS FANTASY IS TO SEE ANOTHER WOMAN EAT ME OUT AND ME TO EAT HER OUT...THEN FOR HIM TO EAT OUT US BOTH AND I GUESS SEX WITH US BOTH,WE HAVNT REALLY TALKED ABOUT THAT YET....I DO TRUST HIM COMPLETELY BUT DO NOT KNOW HOW I WOULD FEEL ABOUT THIS, REGARDING ME BEING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN AND HIM BEING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN....ALSO I HAVE A PERSONAL ISSUE...[content removed by admin.] I'M AFRAID THAT DURING A 3SOME THIS MIGHT TRIGGER SOME FEELINGS FROM MY PAST BUT I'M NOT SURE, I HAVE DEALT WITH THAT AND HAVE GOTTEN PAST THAT AND FEEL COMFORTABLE AS I SAID IN MY SEXUALITY NOW AND DO TRUST THIS MAN BUT THE WHOLE 3SOME THING KINDA SCARES ME, WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT THIS ON SEVERAL OCCASIONS,WE HAVE A VERY OPEN RELATIONSHIP AND TALK FREELY,I WANT TO PLEASE HIM BUT DO NOT WANT TO HURT MYSELF OR OUR RELATIONSHIP NOR DOES HE.
HE ISNT PRESSURING ME OR INSISTING BUT HE DOES BRING IT UP AND I KNOW ITS SOMETHING HE REALLY WANTS TO DO, I JUST DONT WANT TO RUIN WHAT WE HAVE.....JUST WANTED TO GET SOME MENS OPINIONS ON THIS MATTER.
I would say if you are not comfortable doing it then just tell him that as you are saying we are very open to each other he will surely understand your point
Just because I would love to have my wife and her 3 best friends take turns blowing me until I cover all of them with 10 gallons of my cum doesn't mean that i expect it to happen. Just start letting him know that you really don't think you could do it.
Let's try a different analogy here. Suppose you had a known food allergy. Would he WANT you to eat that food knowing full well that you have an allergy to it that might could cause you all sorts of problems? If the answer is YES, you need to RUN away from this man as fast as you can. What I'm talking about here is the past sexual abuse in your history and the unknown reactions you might have to a similar situation. You didn't ask for votes, but I vote NO!!
i'm not trying to make light of your situation. any time someone has these types of issues to confront there is always the possibility it could turn disastrous but ask him how he feels about blowing another guy?
that will give him an idea of how it would feel for you to have sex with another woman.
of course if he say's he'd love to... that sort of shoots down your analogy but opens the door to other possibilities
am a gal sugar..but i love what asleep wrote....sometimes we hide trauma away...& at the most inopportune moment..wham it rears it's ugly head...i add my no vote too.. for your emotional safety
I am a guy so hell yes, but really it depends on the three involved. Like any type of relationship there is work involved.
See, this is where too much pornography watching becomes "too much". Everyone has fantasies but it never should mean you HAVE to impose your fantasies on someone else. If you are not bi-sexual or drawn to women, then this is definitely a bad idea. Tell him to keep his fantasy as a fantasy.
happened once with an ex.. difficult to get the image out of my mind and hers.. emotional security more imp than a fuck
sounds great as a fantasy but would change things if done in reality trust your instincts if not comfortable with it don't do it
I once joined a couple for a threesome and while they had a very open and sexually free lifestyle it was still awkward at certain moments. As you are not comfortable with the idea I'd advise against it. It may be even more emotionally challenging then you might believe.
If he loves you he should understand that you can have boundries that you are not ready to cross. You have a right to them as a person. This doesn't mean you dont care about his needs, it just means that this happens to be something you are not ready for.
You sound like you give him everything you have to make him happy. If he honors you that should be enough.
