This seems like a really, really odd question for woman to be asking. Moreover, a 25 year old woman. I don't say that because I'm judging you, but because I'm curious as to how this situation came to be.

It seems like you would know what you do to make yourself cum. He can do that too. If he doesn't know how, you can teach him. If he's into you, he'll definitely pursue that option, unless he's a jerk. Again, if he's not a jerk, he can and should go down on you. You'll know what feels good, and so you'll know how to guide him. To a certain extent, at least.

He should also be able to help guide you in making him "feel good" as you put it...

Now for the big question: You're 25... and don't want to have intercourse? This again is ABSOLUTELY NOT A JUDGMENT, but it is a curiosity to me. I don't quite understand. I do, in as much as I didn't want to have sex for years after it's normal to experiment, but that's primarily because when I lost my virginity - way too young - it was involuntary and needless to say there was some psychological trauma involved. If I've struck too close to home, I apologize, but I'm curious why you don't want to? Also, as a side note, most women don't usually orgasm simply from vaginal intercourse with no other stimulation.

Anyway, I hope that's a little bit useful.

Yes! Use fingertips, mouth or try a little bump n grind.

I, like centerline, am a little confused to this also because I read your profile, and in it you say, "i love rubbing my little bud unit i cum on my hand."

It is obvious then, that since you know how to make yourself cum, you should expect your guy to be able to make you cum also.

And I am not being judgmental either, just stating a fact here.

I have to admit, since you say that the thought of more than holding hands and kissing excites you, you sound like you are actually ready to take it to the next level. You are twenty-five years old after all.

But, since you say you do not want to have sex yet because you are not ready, there are several things he can do to you to make your eyes roll back into your head.

First of all, let him know you are ready to take it to the next level and that you are comfortable with him to do this to you.

The tongue is a wonderful way to have him get you off. Just give in to him and let him experiment on you. And it doesn't have to be your vagina or your clit. He can use his tongue on your nipples if you rather him start simple. Some women can orgasm just from nipple stimulation. Tell him to take it slow and see how it feels to you. If you want more and faster, tell him to go faster. There is so much he can do with his mouth on your nipples.

When you were ready for him to go down you, let him take control. If he knows what he is doing, he will know if you like it or not. He will be able to tell by your movements and your tone. If he does something you don't like, be sure to tell him so he will learn how to please use.

Also, as other's have already stated, not just the tongue can be involved. Experiment with fingers and hands and find out where he touches you excites you the most. Maybe his finger running over your center contour will do more for you than his mouth.

You never know until you try. The main thing here is to just relax and let it happen. You want to be able to enjoy the experience.

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Buy a vibrator and show him where your clit is. That should do nicely...

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Of course!!!!

Absolutely.
We can give pleasure with totngues and fingers.

You have said that kissing and holding hands is what you have been doing so far.
Most of the responses here have been about him going down on you. That seems a pretty big jump to me.
I think showing him how to touch you with his fingers might be a better first step.

If i may offer you a piece of advice from a guy with a few years on him.
Set the boundaries you two want and make them clear so he can avoid any frustration and ultimately any animosity. Testosterone is a hell of a thing. The drive behind it can be overwhelming for a guy at times.

This is a subject that has come up before. The answer is a resounding yes! I know this from personal experience. I have made a woman cum from just squeezing her thigh just above the knee. I have made a woman come by just sucking on her earlobe. There are hundreds of ways to make a sexual woman cum. But if the woman has a problem cumming it might take a little more effort, but I fucking guarantee that I can make any woman cum without fucking her. The only exception would be a poor woman who is clinically unable to have an orgasm.

I think there is a lot of ways of having orgasms without having intercourse. Which are the easy ones such as nipple play is a good one if you’re not comfortable having him go down further. If you are then there is always oral. You give it to him, him giving it to you. There is so much you can do without having sex. You’d just be having a lot of foreplay to cause the orgasms which isn't a bad thing at all.

○ Kissing

○ Fingering

○ Oral (Giving & Receiving)

○ Dry humping

○ Biting

○ Sucking

I guess almost anything you've seen on porn that might have turned you on. You can also ask him what he likes. Unless he is a virgin also? Even if he is, he might watch porn too. That’s another way. You can also just masturbate together and get your own selves off being in the same room.

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I have had some very strong orgasms from just a man's fingers...i love to be fingerfucked and my clit licked and sucked. I will cum strongly with just that!!

Definitely, my girlfriend loves being fingered but what really drives her mad is having her nipples played with.

i find a vibrator works better. :)

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As for making him feel good, I heard that giving him a good ol' lubed-up hand job is a bit of a stunner.

I believe it's all about communication and exploring together, discovering what you both like and are comfy with. I think it is, anyway.

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There are a lot of things that you can do without engaging in intercourse. There is oral sex, mutual masturbation, phone sex, and other things. I suggest that since you are already watchingn porn and masturbating, go on line and look for porn that features oral sex, or mutual masturbation etc.. and this way you can get an idea of what these things are and how they are performed. There are sex toys that you can share that are not penetration toys, like the butterfly, that you wear that stimulates your clit and he can contol with a remote control.
Realistically, there is a cornucopia of things that can be done that can cause an orgasm without penetration, so do a little research and let the good times roll!