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Frank
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 2:15:09 AM

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As with any online genre, there is no shortage of questionable characters with shady agendas therefore always proceed with caution.


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SITTING
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 3:36:26 AM

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overmykneenow
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 3:59:42 AM

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SITTING wrote:
Well, it's not wrong. I mean, we're all humans right? But you've got to be careful - people aren't always what they seem... *insert creepy music*


Well said, Trevor.

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Why not read some stories instead
SITTING
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 4:16:57 AM

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Guest
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 5:02:58 AM

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Callista wrote:
I met up with another woman here from Lush. She had read my bio and then asked to be my friend which I accepted. We lived interstate but chatted here frequently. Tracey seemed a really nice woman and she was very helpful and gave really good advice. I gave her my telephone number as I trusted her. She was 48 years old and I was 19 at the time, living with my female partner. We chatted regularly by phone and her voice just sounded so sexy. I knew then that I wanted to meet her some day. Tracey was bi-curious at the time and talked about being with another woman or having a threesome.

Although taking chances, I invited her to come and visit us the week prior to Easter. As a precaution I advised my apartment neighbour to keep eyes and ears open in case anything went wrong. Everything went perfectly with a fantastic outcome. Six months later, I will be moving down to live with her and her husband next week as I will be starting a new job there.

So yes, some relationships do work out well here on Lush but take Nicola's warning about meeting strangers. Things can go wrong.
wow,callista.iam happy for u,i know tracey is awesome,moreover u need a friend like her,best of luck
Frank
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 6:04:34 AM

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SITTING wrote:
Well, it's not wrong. I mean, we're all humans right? But you've got to be careful - people aren't always what they seem... *insert creepy music*


evil5

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keoloke
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 9:04:43 AM

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Lush although not an online dating site, is actually no different from any other. I would add that it could better. If you and the other person are portraying true to yourselves you may end up with the best companion ever.

matchmakers, Clubs, circles of friends, job sites and web sites are no different. Now we have a vast field but the physics are the same in my opinion.

Of course use common sense in actually meeting the person. A couple of emails ( don't get caught in too many), a few phone conversations, than meet in a public place and with a chaperon. See its all the same. Than mmmm, well than its all private.

It would be great to hear about the people who met and got married.
Hey what about a story for Lush.

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sweeter
Posted: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 10:11:13 PM

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I don't see anything wrong with it if you like someone why not go for it besides people fall for eatch other in different ways I think it's great when two people fall for each other

Anything you think is sweet, I'm a little more than that.
adele
Posted: Monday, September 24, 2012 11:36:42 PM

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As several have said, Lush is not really that different form other sites. The main difference being (other than the fact that it is not promoted as a dating site) is that, it cant be truly narrowed down to mostly local people. And while I definitely agree with those who say to be cautious, meet publicly, let someone know, etc., I think part of it has to be based on a faith in humankind and your intuition about whether the other person is being honest or not. I have met a number of Lushies so far, though none really had any possibility of being romantic in nature. But I feel the concept, whether you intend the relationship to become friends or become lovers, is the same. Nothing is wrong with either, just recognize the need for caution.

The first Lushie I met in person, I had known for close to a year. We spoke many times on the phone. I flew halfway around the world to meet her. The second I only met briefly the first time, when I was returning home from my trip visiting my first Lushie. We had the chance to speak briefly on different levels of the airport. We had spoken a time or two prior to that meeting. I recently had more time to spend with her, as she came to the states a few weeks ago. Although she did not stay with me, she did spend some time at my house and we spent several days doing some sightseeing.

The third & fourth people, I met at a neutral location when they were in town. One of them knew all my personal info and we had spoken on the phone several times. We also had known each other here on Lush and spent much time talking here first. I also just recently met 3 more people, all of whom I had met awhile ago on lush and had chatted with many times. Two of those I just went out to lunch with, the other did also come to my home.

I also know two Lushies that I knew IRL first and had both been to my home, then I told about Lush, then they joined, so not sure that really counts. So the vast majority have been a pretty safe bet as far as the danger of meeting them. The one person that I took an absolute leap of faith with, was the 5th Lushie I met IRL. I knew her a mere month, though we spent hours on the phone every night, something we had moved to quite quickly after meeting on Lush. I invited her to fly out from her home to stay with me for a while. Two weeks later, she did and lived in my home for the next three weeks.

Both of us took a risk with that, though probably me more than her. Many of her family and friends had all my contact info, while no one in my family had much info about her. It all worked out and we became even better friends than before she came. We still speak to one another almost daily, and have plans to visit each other in the near future. At least she is only a 2 hr plane ride away. That brings my total count to 10 (or 8 if you don't count the 2 I mentioned above). Besides these, I also actually speak or have spoken to at least 7 other people. There are also 2 more a few I converse with via email because they have left lush. There is a good chance I will meet at least a few of these people at some point.

Do I regret meeting any of them? No, but then I am also not planning on marrying any of them. Do I feel I should have been even more cautious in the 1st meeting? No, not even with the one I only knew for 6 weeks before we met. Somehow it all seemed natural. What will I do in the future? I will continue to assess each individual and judge each potential meeting individually, then decide the manner of the meeting based on those judgements. One thing for certain is that I will continue to meet Lushies IRL. Maybe one day, it will be someone I actually fall in love with.

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And no mark of others,
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Guest
Posted: Monday, September 24, 2012 11:52:14 PM

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Sorry Ladies, I'm already spoken for...
sweetaz
Posted: Tuesday, September 25, 2012 6:20:11 AM

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I say thank goodness for the characters on this site ... I fall each time :)
Guest
Posted: Thursday, September 27, 2012 2:09:45 PM

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This is my fifth networking site, Tribe.net, Ifish.net, Literotica.com and Facebook being the other four. I've met with a group from Tribe all of whom were who they said they were. Strictly platonic and we had a great time. I think you can fall for someone online and many people do. Right?....only you and they can decide that. I see many with their status as "having an affair", whatever is fine with you. I don't come here to judge.
LillyBella
Posted: Friday, September 28, 2012 7:31:59 PM

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not really wrong or right, just have to really be careful. when hubby and i first started talking to each other (in friendship) we both were in LDR.....turned out we both were being played. so on a good note, we both ended up taking our friendship further and have been together for 3 years now! =)

midnightraider61
Posted: Tuesday, October 02, 2012 1:42:20 PM

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I don't know if it's right or even possible to fall in love on this site, but I truly love three women on here and I believe they love me back. Physically being with any of them is impossible, and there are so many hazards to falling in love to the point where you say "I do" or its equivalents, but three women here are the kindest and sweetest and most caring people I know. I wonder if any of the three will read this and realize they are one of them? All of them are in love with someone else, perhaps several someones, so they might not pick up on it right away but I hope they realize what true Heaven-bent souls they truly are.
Shylass
Posted: Tuesday, October 02, 2012 1:59:45 PM

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It's not wrong. But it can hurt. A lot.

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Posted: Tuesday, October 02, 2012 3:45:02 PM

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who knows were it could led to, but be careful. there are and I have chated with what seems to be good people on this site, but there are crazy people in the world so use caution and if you do meet someone do it with a friend first time for safty.
Callista
Posted: Friday, November 09, 2012 6:46:07 PM

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midnightraider61 wrote:
I don't know if it's right or even possible to fall in love on this site, but I truly love three women on here and I believe they love me back. Physically being with any of them is impossible, and there are so many hazards to falling in love to the point where you say "I do" or its equivalents, but three women here are the kindest and sweetest and most caring people I know. I wonder if any of the three will read this and realize they are one of them? All of them are in love with someone else, perhaps several someones, so they might not pick up on it right away but I hope they realize what true Heaven-bent souls they truly are.


I believe I know 2 of them for sure and I have an idea who the third is. I will not disclose our secret to anyone here.
stephanie
Posted: Friday, November 09, 2012 7:50:20 PM

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I've 'Fallen' for quite a few... Some as colleagues... some as just friends, some as perhaps something more...

I've met more than one fellow Lushie IRL and I've never been disappointed... (Some dry, some wet...)

Have I been hurt? Oh God Yes!!! But I wouldn't regret a moment of that... (What we want isn't always what we, (or indeed someone else) needs...

Honesty is the key, be who you are and let what happens happen...

I CAN say I've made true friends and that's one of the reasons I'm still here.

xx Steph

(Never send money... A certain Little Lady some years ago cried rent problems and promises and I duly sent £600 quid... And she WAS just someone I chatted to, nothing else, I'm nice like that, or I was... She's still around... Never talked to her after that...She vanished... Not everyone is who they pretend they are... Or who they wish they were... I chalked that one up to experience, and I'm far too classy to name the girl...)







"I'm a writer... Honesty is not my first language..." (Stephen Flashman)
midnightraider61
Posted: Saturday, November 10, 2012 11:53:47 AM

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Callista wrote:


I believe I know 2 of them for sure and I have an idea who the third is. I will not disclose our secret to anyone here.


I know I love at least 6 women on here, with 3 more yet to be determined. In love with any of them? Not so far. But I believe they also love me.
sprite
Posted: Saturday, November 10, 2012 11:59:39 AM

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stephanie wrote:


I've 'Fallen' for quite a few... Some as colleagues... some as just friends, some as perhaps something more...

I've met more than one fellow Lushie IRL and I've never been disappointed... (Some dry, some wet...)

Have I been hurt? Oh God Yes!!! But I wouldn't regret a moment of that... (What we want isn't always what we, (or indeed someone else) needs...

Honesty is the key, be who you are and let what happens happen...

I CAN say I've made true friends and that's one of the reasons I'm still here.

xx Steph

(Never send money... A certain Little Lady some years ago cried rent problems and promises and I duly sent £600 quid... And she WAS just someone I chatted to, nothing else, I'm nice like that, or I was... She's still around... Never talked to her after that...She vanished... Not everyone is who they pretend they are... Or who they wish they were... I chalked that one up to experience, and I'm far too classy to name the girl...)







you mean you didn't get that bag of loose change i sent you? you should have said something! damnit, Steph, it's obviously your fault!
TastyMissPT
Posted: Saturday, November 10, 2012 12:21:03 PM

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Of course it is and should be encouraged. That little tingle when we make a connection, when we lust for another and they lust for us, is what we all crave. It doesn't matter if it lasts for a day, a week, a month or longer. Just enjoy it, I do. Miss Tina's tip for today and tomorrow -- "even the smallest amount of love is never wasted".
Mazza
Posted: Wednesday, November 14, 2012 6:16:02 PM

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I think that the heart wants what the heart wants...

Whether it's "right" or not to fall for someone on this site, or anywhere else, makes not a blind bit of difference... We all do stupid, in advisable, crazy and unrealistic shit...

Do we learn from it? Well, yes, hopefully and it makes u stronger or in theory less likely to repeat the same mistakes...

Ultimately, whether here or IRL, we live, we learn and we move one...

(As for money? They never send it when they say they will... Best to assume that they told a fib... Sucker.
You can't buy love with expensive gestures...)
LauraLee_sugah
Posted: Wednesday, November 14, 2012 6:26:11 PM

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Mazza wrote:
mazza says: I think that the heart wants what the heart wants...
.......

(As for money? They never send it when they say they will... Best to assume that they told a fib... Sucker)



wait! wait! you mean people will send MONEY????????

sometimes i have to watch....

read my masturbation story, Isla
Mazza
Posted: Wednesday, November 14, 2012 6:28:00 PM

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LauraLee_sugah wrote:



wait! wait! you mean people will send MONEY????????


Lol, no! That's the point!!! Not unless they REALLY want to get into your pants! ;)
Ianthomas
Posted: Wednesday, November 14, 2012 6:37:18 PM

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God, i so admire those of you who have had the courage to meet up in the real world. Personally I don't really like even meeting myself these days! Nor do i ever repay my own debts.
DLizze
Posted: Wednesday, November 14, 2012 8:00:39 PM

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Mazza wrote:


Lol, no! That's the point!!! Not unless they REALLY want to get into your pants! ;)


Except Steph. Steph will send money, but only if you'll send your panties in return. (Not you, MILIK!)

Oh, he may SAY it was for rent, but I am skeptical.

"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
sweeter
Posted: Wednesday, November 14, 2012 8:17:44 PM

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I agreePour Wine with it seems everyone. Just be careful and hopefully whoever you are falling for is as real as you are. Good luck to you as well as others.

Anything you think is sweet, I'm a little more than that.
Mazza
Posted: Thursday, November 15, 2012 1:15:40 AM

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DLizze wrote:


Except Steph. Steph will send money, but only if you'll send your panties in return. (Not you, MILIK!)

Oh, he may SAY it was for rent, but I am skeptical.


Oh touché
Iain69
Posted: Thursday, November 15, 2012 1:12:41 PM

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Pay money to get in to your pants? Mmmm: I think it would need more than money to squeeze me into a pair of your miniscule panties......
Mazza
Posted: Thursday, November 15, 2012 1:29:39 PM

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Iain69 wrote:
Pay money to get in to your pants? Mmmm: I think it would need more than money to squeeze me into a pair of your miniscule panties......


Fabrics can be very stretchy these days hahahah

Me and curlygirly will be setting up our used panty auction soon


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