Is it cheating to carry on (in chat or email) online if you have a relationship offline? (I'm assuming the online doesn't become offline.)
What is it about online written sex ("I'm kissing you ... etc") that makes it so hot?
Depends on the boundaries of your relationship. Just think about how it would make your significant other feel if he/she knew if you were cybering online. If it's something you wouldn't want them to know about, then chances are you shouldn't be doing it.
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... and how would you feel if your significant other was doing it behind your back?
Ummm... I have a quick question for the OP...
Why don't you do this with your wife?
Texts, emails and sexy handwritten notes in strategic places can give you the same thrill without the worry of "cheating".
Plus... Your wife gets the added benefit and so do you with a little extra sack time for "keeping things fresh" between the both of you.
Note: This is also a great way to introduce some roleplaying into your relationship. Sometimes people are more comfortable letting their inner sex goddess out by writing it down. You have that ability to bring it out in her. Just a thought.
I unfortuately, I know the hurt of my husband cheating online as it is called. He had been emailing a woman for months behind my back. I never would have suspected anything because like everyone else we had normal marriage spats. In our worst of times I would never have thought he would do such a thing. And before you ask...Did I give him all sex he wanted? The answer is yes. Let me just say that he got everything he wanted. His cheating tore my heart out. When I read the words "I Love you more than my own wife." It hurt like hell. I got mad, angry, sad, and then I kicked him out. Cheating is cheating and it is never ok. Perhaps you and your wife need to roll play and pretend you too are having the affair by emailing each other.
Many relationships today are similar to the modern television.
It has become a disposable world. When something becomes; old and worn out, or one grows tired of their mate, it's easy to pitch it and buy a new one, or worse yet, go an watch the neighbors set.
I see nothing but excellent advise here friend.
I hope you choose to follow.
Yes, it's cheating. It's all in the intention and mindset.
it is cheating if you have that much affection and time to give to another person especially online. then what is stopping you from putting that effort and passion into your actual relationship. it hurts deeply to find out the person you are with is carrying on with someone online reading the things they would like to do or have done it hurts. trust me she will notice a difference. put that passion where it truly matters.
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Always interesting debates with online cheating. I honestly believe that there is a gender difference of what constitutes cheating (and please don't read that as though I am saying ALL genders at 100%, because if common sense prevails, there are always exceptions to a "stereotypical ideal"). It has appeared to me, on Lush, that men "generally" believe that if it is NOT physical, there is no cheating. Though, we all know and most agree, if there is any type of emotional involvement, that is indeed considered to be cheating.
Even here on Lush, both parties single in real life, finding an interesting relationship developing ....... and one decides to "play" with someone else. Yikes!
Even here on Lush, the one who finds out about the other playing with someone else, will usually garner a "cheated on" feeling from the cheatee. Yikes!
Even here on Lush .... sometimes one thinks more of the other person ... like the idea of SO ... "presuming" that they are just playing with only each other.
Even here on Lush .... bad feelings and break ups happen because of this.
Nature of the beast is this .... when your eyes, thoughts, body, heart moves to someone else besides your significant other (in real life or online) .... it's a sad mistake to assume that the other person will be "OK" with it.
I am of the opinion that one must break it off, clearly .... before starting up with someone else, in real life and online. One should try to be courteous and still considerate in any type of relationship. I have never cheated on a significant other, in any fashion whatsoever. I believe they deserve to be released before I start up with someone else.
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Well yes, but only because it takes one to know one x
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Why not read some stories instead
NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber When I was a child and being taught to make responsible decisions, my parents told me, 'As you make decisions, pretend your Mother is watching over your shoulder. If you think she would approve of what you're doing, go ahead. If you think she would disapprove, don't do it. That advice would work here. If your mate was watching over your shoulder, would she approve? Based on what you've written, I'd guess no. That means regardless of whether or not YOU consider it cheating, she probably would consider it cheating. Why do you have trouble being honest with the most important person in your life?
if your partner would mind..then yes
to me it is..if i found out my lover or partner was sharing what i WANT
i would kick hom to the curb
but as i have said before...1 i am way too demanding in bed for a man ot EVEN think of another and 2...i dont share...
perhaps instead of looking for another..u start being the LOVER to..your partner...
texting her sexy words...overnight stays in hotels where u "meet" as strangers
toy play in the bedroom and bath....
i belive we all get lazy in love...and most DEF..in sex...
