How do I get my husband to be more dominant in the bedroom? We have tried reading different web-sites and taking advice from the web sites, we've talked about it, he also has asked me for advice. I would like help from you all. I would like to know in what ways I could be of help to him? I would also know if there is anything I could do to make him feel more comfortable? Can you all help me please???
There is no cure for being a pussy. I think it's one of those nature vs nurture things or some shit. His brain is already wired.
There is no cure, I'm sorry, but you can try a couple things..
Start being more of a bitch. Boss his ass around more. Do the shit you want to do. Disagree with him a lot. Eventually he'll want to angry fuck you.
If that doesn't work, slap him in the face really hard next time you're fucking. I promise the next stroke will be harder.
have tired for years .... I have learned there is NO way in the world..
Have you asked to be fucked hard, to be tied up and spanked? One more thing is while having sex tell him how much you love his cock, his hard cock, shit like that
I can't wait for my next session. My wife better hold on!
whisper it to him and if that does not work get louder.
It really depends on him, when I first got together with my wife I wanted her to be more dominant after many failed attempts I asked her why. She explained that she could never hurt me because she loved me. We talked about my need to be dominated before we agreed that I should see someone else for my need, of course my wife is also bi so we agreed to have an open relationship. I know it might not be the answer you expected but it has always worked for us.
You all are being trolled by what's his face...the guy who claimed he lived in Hawaii and was great friends with Rico, his bisexual room mate.
Bigguns?
Actually, it is difficult to tell... Bigguns is probably, actually Carolyn/Mark from 2009/2010.
Been around so long, it seems like up to me.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
@WMM really? I thought Bigguns was now thePlayer/Hotmama? Shows what I know
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I think you need to ascertain why he doesn't seem to want to be more dominant. I'm a fan of the talking approach.
Is he afraid of hurting you? Does he think he might go too far? These are both valid questions. Perhaps he should consider taking some self assertiveness classes.
Is he gentle by nature? Exactly how do you want him to be more dominant? Spanking? Taking control? Being more vocal about his desires?
My best advice is to talk to the man and find out if he has anxieties about being dominant and work them out together. It may require that one or both of you make a compromise, but if you're both happy and find a balance, it'll work out.
I think Magical_felix is pretty dead on but not entirely.
I was with a man for nearly five years and tried to encourage him to be more dominant. It use to drive me mad how sensitive and slow and shit he was. I'd talk dirty to him, beg him, even demand him to fuck me harder. To give me what I deserve. We talked about it nonstop through the years but he never really did anything. He was a wuss. {Not saying your husband is.}
I thought maybe this was all men. When I got into my next relationship he told me he was a bit submissive, and didn't have a lot of experience with sex of any kind under his belt. We would cyber, phone sex all of it. I was more then Dom at first but when we met and started having sex in person he quickly took the role of the Dom and I easily gave into being his submissive. It was a big change, shocking as it was. But it was fricken incredible. I think with him all he needed was a little practice and time. But he was open to the idea of it all.
I really think it's all in what they truly want sexually. A lot of people think they know but truly don't. Some people aren't sure at all. Some people don't have an open mind to new things.
Unless he can't do it on his own, even just a little, then it's difficult if not impossible. Like it's been stated; you can't train a pussy to be a boss. It's in you from day one. Maybe you've bossed him around too much in your every day life and now it's coming back to haunt you in the bedroom. It's personality, not something you can train.
Being dominant is something that comes naturally.. you can't train it like seals.. here's a test.. next Friday night.. after a hard day at work.. serve him cold meatloaf and wax beans for dinner.. give him a 12 pack of warm beer.. slam his hand in a door.. and tell him you fucked his brother.. if he doesn't get dominant after that. put a ribbon in his hair and call him Polly..
Hell he's not going to be dominant. Just go ahead and bring some well hung guys home and make him watch you getting ravished.
I bet WellMadeMale and Magical'Felix are available if you offer them cold beer. You might even get Dudealicious to come over if you have a sports car.
You can't change a zebras stripes sweetie, and that's okay. But it seems like he's actually wanting and willing to work with you, so that is a good sign. Talk dirty to him and let his inhibitions take over. Tell him you want it rough, you want him to take charge and have complete control over your body. Sometimes tapping into the S&M spiel of things will work.
The more submissive you act the more dominant he will feel. Try that.
I have the same problem. I know how you feel. He is just not into it
People are who they are but that is not to say one can't learn or be taught how to be a Dominant or a submissive if the tendencies are there already. That is the key: there has to be a tendency to be D or s or even switch so that it can be expanded. The D/s aspect of the lifestyle is not for all people, or for all couples. If one partner wants to explore and the other doesn't that will often spell trouble if there can be no meeting of the minds to venture down the path in that way. Some people will remain a frustrated spouse who doesn't get the chance to explore and may seek out the porn on the internet. The frustration may likely manifest itself in some other aspect or his/her relationship or in other ways. Some people will step out on their spouses to find what they desperately seek. The secret can be kept for many, many years but ultimately it is discovered. And still others will decide to leave their relationship after deciding that ending the relationship will bring more fulfillment for both people in the long run.
So in answer to the question how to get him to be more dominant: you must communicate your needs and desires as step 1. Only you can determine step 2.
Being dominant or submissive in the bedroom is part of personality, you cannot make someone to be more dominant if he is submissive and all he wants is to suck your toes. You just didn't chose right for yourself.
if he is not dominamt then you dominate him
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