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BornyHouseHusband
Posted: Saturday, December 29, 2012 9:41:03 AM

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Is it wrong to be using this website to chat and read stories because I'm not getting any action rather than actually shagging someone else behind my wifes back?
QueenOfSex
Posted: Saturday, December 29, 2012 9:59:08 AM

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If I was your wife, I'd prefer it if you came on Lush and read the stories, but I'd also like it if you could speak to me about it...

Try talking to your wife! See if there is anything you can do to spice up your sex-life.

xo


If you're absent during my struggle, don't expect to be present during my success.
BornyHouseHusband
Posted: Saturday, December 29, 2012 10:09:00 AM

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We've tried spicing thing up and things get better but she tires easy with full time work so I don't want to pressure her into having sex when she's exhausted and has no urge to.

I come on her read stories I like to have some dirty chats with people but no webcam ing or direct contact. Nice picture you have there too.
AbigailThornton
Posted: Saturday, December 29, 2012 10:20:17 AM

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The question you need to address is why you aren't getting any action. If that's by mutual agreement within your relationship, then fine. If it's not, then I'd advise you to work on that. Since you love your wife, it's important for her to be a part of your sex life. Let her know that you love her... be romantic, run her baths with wine and candles, romantic meals. Be the man she chose to marry. If you are 'bored' she probably is too - introduce new elements into the bedroom, mutual masturbation, fantasies, porn. You can rekindle a sex life with someone you love.

Guest
Posted: Saturday, December 29, 2012 10:48:53 AM

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I don't think there is anything wrong with it. If u have tried to engage her in something different and she isn't responding then why not go ahead and realease ur sexual frustrations on a website. I'm the same way. My husband works night shift so we rarely see each other. I think its fairly harmless as long as u don't start to ignore ur wife to hang out and talk to other ppl.
Naughty_Nurse
Posted: Saturday, December 29, 2012 11:31:11 AM

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Mmm, sounds bad and complicated, guess you 2 should talk with eichother and you tell her honestly what you miss and what you would like....
Let her tell you why she doesn't/ hardly wants to have sex and what she would like.
I actually can't imagine it is only her job, there must be more...maybe she feels unhappy, insecure, unattractive, etc?
Do you have kids? How is the rest of your relationship?
Don't talk about it only one time, but make appointments with eichother when you will evaluate.
If you do that, it is easier to re- open the subject. It's always difficult.
You are only 34, you want to have a almost sex less marriage the rest of your life?

And I think it's harmless that you are here, chatting and reading.


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Nikki703
Posted: Saturday, December 29, 2012 4:25:53 PM

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Would your wife be upset if she found out that you are on Lush? If she would be and you love her as you say, then YES it is wrong.

Maybe you need to tell her you have a very strong sex drive and need an outlet for it. And that you understand her issues with being tired all the time. BTW, is that the only reason she doesnt want to have sex? You should ask her that. Maybe you can convince her to come on Lush with you and maybe that will spice things up. Maybe read some stories together or something like that.

Another thing you need to ask yourself, could it be that the reason your wife is always tired and doesnt want sex is that she is getting it elsewhere? Sorry if that sounds cruel but it is possible. I hope that is not the case.

Communication is key. Talk to her about this and what you can do to make it better for both of you. And when your tired of talking, talk some more!!!

overmykneenow
Posted: Sunday, December 30, 2012 9:30:19 AM

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BornyHouseHusband wrote:
Is it wrong to be using this website to chat and read stories because I'm not getting any action rather than actually shagging someone else behind my wifes back?


Let me rephrase this for you: "Is it wrong to steal a car rather than killing someone" - they're both wrong, just one thing is more "wrong" than the other.

What are you hoping for here? Someone to pat you on the back and tell you it's all ok - a bit of harmless fun. You know it's wrong but you make that risk/reward decision and decide to go ahead anyway. Once you start justifying what you do on here as "OK" you'll pretty much start justifying anything, trust me.

I'm not for one minute telling you shouldn't do it - I'm guilty of far worse - but you have to be honest with yourself about what you're doing here and where it could lead.

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Why not read some stories instead
overmykneenow
Posted: Sunday, December 30, 2012 9:49:03 AM

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Nikki703 wrote:
Another thing you need to ask yourself, could it be that the reason your wife is always tired and doesnt want sex is that she is getting it elsewhere? Sorry if that sounds cruel but it is possible. I hope that is not the case


This is a very good point, I don't know your situation, Borny, but it's a sad fact that women who have to support their husbands can often lose respect for them. If she's around the same age as you I'd be even more worried - it's around the age when a woman can start to feel like she's on her last chance to attract men (yeah, I know), sometimes they feel the need to prove it.

Make her feel special, make her remember the man she married. The rest should should hopefully follow.


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Why not read some stories instead
Guest
Posted: Sunday, December 30, 2012 10:54:13 AM

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Nothing wrong with having a good wank, but maybe you should talk to your wife and try and get to the root of your boredom and solve it.
Guest
Posted: Sunday, December 30, 2012 11:42:37 AM

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I think in this situation you should simply ask yourself if doing what your doing is lessening the love you have you have for your wife in anyway. If it isn't then I think it's harmless and you shouldn't feel guilty about keeping it from her. From what you've said you're truly in love with your wife and this wouldn't be a situation you would choose for yourself, so if this keeps from you from cheating and it keeps you satisfied, it surely helps both parties?
NymphWriter
Posted: Sunday, December 30, 2012 12:00:39 PM

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Well... I used this site to post my stories initially... then I would chat and on occasion found the chats aroused me. I'd rather my husband come here to fantasize and jack-off then fuck some whore & ruin our marriage.

Try talking with her... share the stories... if she doesn't go for that... share your fantasies... even if you know you'll never act on them... communicate is the key to any good relationship. You might find she likes them, has some in common... or some of her own you never thought of.

It's worth a try right? Fantasies aren't always meant to be a reality... that's why they are fantasies.

Good luck!

Neve & the Sandman a story written by NymphWriter & adagio_sabadicus

freakycactus
Posted: Monday, December 31, 2012 8:57:56 AM

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If you're hiding it from her then yes, it's wrong.

Try working out why you're not having sex. Do you listen to her, help her with things, talk to her about her day and tell her about yours, do you do things together, have quality time together, do you talk during the day when you're apart, have a date night?

Are you still attracted to her, is she still attracted to you? Is she stressed at work?

If you want to rekindle the romance in your marriage then you need to sit down with her and find out what's going on, there won't be a quick fix, but if you both love each other and want things to work then it'll be worth it.

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