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Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 1:40:46 PM

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What are the circumstances that might lead you to have an affair with another man?
crazydiamond
Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 1:46:20 PM

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atltennispro wrote:
What are the circumstances that might lead you to have an affair with another man?


Hmmm, thats a tough one, there are many accumulated reasons.
I'll start it with

DISDAIN

Ladies feel free to add to the list. (I'ts never one defined thing, but a build up of many, and a breakdown of others)

EDIT* I should add this goes both ways and not just a man bashing.

Nikki703
Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 1:58:32 PM

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I can see many reasons why a woman might have an affair. Lack of sex in her realtionship, hubby/BF/GF cheats, physical and/or mental abuse are just a few of them.

But personally I woudnt under any circumstances, I just dont believe in cheating. If the relationship was so bad to the point I wanted to have an affair, that would signal me it was time to end it.

But I can understand why a woman may have one and would never judge someone if they did!!
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Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 2:06:27 PM

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I am interested in all replies, and I understand the revenge and crappy relationship motives, but I'm also interested in hearing from women who might consider an affair even when their existing relationship was great. Is this something that occurs and what circumstances might lead to it?
crazydiamond
Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 2:15:06 PM

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Nikki703 wrote:
I can see many reasons why a woman might have an affair. Lack of sex in her realtionship, hubby/BF/GF cheats, physical and/or mental abuse are just a few of them.

But personally I woudnt under any circumstances, I just dont believe in cheating. If the relationship was so bad to the point I wanted to have an affair, that would signal me it was time to end it.

But I can understand why a woman may have one and would never judge someone if they did!!


I agree entirely, but sometimes circumstances make that IMPOSSIBLE.


findingnichole
Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 2:24:39 PM

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Reasons differ from person to person. There's always a breaking point. Possible reasons: he's cheating, drunken mistake, stopped having sex, etc. But I agree with Nikki703. If it ever came to that point I would simply end it, but not everyone can let go so easily. An affair can give you the sex and attention your partner isn't giving you but still allow you to cling to your feelings for that person. Some people don't want t just end it because they still love their partner and want some glimmer of hope that it could be fixed and whatever problem caused them to have an affair will no longer exist.

You seem sweet, mind if I lick you to make sure?
BelleduJour
Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 2:47:19 PM

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None. Been in the sexless marriage and even had my hubby give me 'permission' to have an affair provided I came home to him at night. Didn't want to be THAT woman. In my particular case, I made the gut wrenching decision and ended my 16 year marriage. Having an affair is not only disrespectful but cowardly.

2706ali
Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 4:12:20 PM

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My wife had an affair and to this day i never had an explaination,that might give me some closure.
On reflextion ,yes i did work away ,but believe i made her feel special and wanted and worked hard to provide.I left after being told that she wouldnt give him up and to add insult to injury She kept the house ,car and all that my hard work had helped to achieve.
But my trust in woman is still there and life goes on and i hope she is happy.
Nikki703
Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 4:25:17 PM

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crazydiamond wrote:


I agree entirely, but sometimes circumstances make that IMPOSSIBLE.


I totally understand. Thats why I said I can see situations where a woman would have an affair. Everyone's situation is different.
BelleduJour
Posted: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 7:30:21 PM

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2706ali wrote:
My wife had an affair and to this day i never had an explaination,that might give me some closure.
On reflextion ,yes i did work away ,but believe i made her feel special and wanted and worked hard to provide.I left after being told that she wouldnt give him up and to add insult to injury She kept the house ,car and all that my hard work had helped to achieve.
But my trust in woman is still there and life goes on and i hope she is happy.


I'm so sorry Ali - she didn't deserve you Hugs

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