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VirginalViet
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 5:30:33 AM

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How many girls on here tell their BF/Husband/Significant Other about their Lush account? The first time my BF found out it became a "big" issue and I had to delete my account for a while. What's your experience. I have a new guy I'm getting really turned on by and I'd love to share Lush with him, but I'm a bit nervous about his reaction.
hankyspanky
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 6:46:44 AM

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I think that a lady,should be able to have sex fun if she wishes&any guy who objects is rather silly as it will happen anyway&why not! Ladies need more sex than men,or can certainly take more&GOOD on the ladies.
paul_moadib
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 7:10:47 AM

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I'd like to say he'd be ok with it but I don't know the guy.

If he's the jealous type then it's possible you'd encounter some friction.

If not, I really can't see what the deal would be. It's an adult version of facebook, that's all. Better too.
Guest
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 7:13:07 AM

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Nobody knows about my account, but why did he object? Because you want to read a few saucy stories or do you want to cyber? If you told him about cybering, I could understand someone getting really upset about that, but not if it's just for the stories.

A lot of couples come here to read and get ideas from the stories.
sprite
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 9:07:37 AM

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well, here's the thing, if you're going to be with this guy for a while you have a few options. you can continue to hide it from him, in which case, it's going to always be in the back of your head that that's exactly what you're doing, or you can tell him about it. honestly, if all you're doing is coming here, reading, posting, chatting with friends, there shouldn't be an issue. if it bothers him, you should talk it out with him and explain that you simply like to read and write erotic stories and that it's been a learning experience that will benefit him as well as yourself.

Now, if you're cybering, that's a whole different story, but i'm going to assume you're not, in which case, you really have nothing to hide (if you are, it's best to either knock it off or be honest about that too, and it if bothers him, cease and desist as well).

btw, my wife and i like to read stories to each other as a sort of foreplay and it also gives us ideas about what we're in the mood to do in the bed room. that might be a good thing to do as a couple, hmm? ;)

i think it's kind of a good litmus test of a relationship to see what he thinks. is he a jealous guy? is he easy going? is he is sexually adventurous? trusting? supportive? understanding of your needs? also, it would be a great way to show him that you trust him as well. :)

btw, i'm guessing that he looks at porn sites. most guys with internet connections do. point out that you're cool with that and that this isn't really any different. :D

http://www.lushstories.com/stories/hardcore/west-coast-games-part-one-the-beach.aspx
Delphi
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 9:25:23 AM

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Does your new guy like to read? He may not be into Lush if he's not a reader, so if he's more visually stimulated, porn is the way to go. You could tell him you like to read erotica, without specifics, and judge his reaction.

Really, even if he's not into erotica, he'll just receive the benefits of your reading... 204-oral



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AbigailThornton
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 9:35:28 AM

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My boyfriend was very shocked when I did the big reveal about writing sex stories but he got over it quickly enough. Since you're just starting out it could be very hard to survive a strongly negative reaction - you'll lose Lush or him.

When you say 'share' Lush - what do you mean? If you mean reading stories together, just try it out - don't log in; say that you've found a site you enjoy and see what he says. The best way is to talk to him about it and see what his reaction is.

sprite
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 9:42:59 AM

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AbigailThornton wrote:
My boyfriend was very shocked when I did the big reveal about writing sex stories but he got over it quickly enough. Since you're just starting out it could be very hard to survive a strongly negative reaction - you'll lose Lush or him.

When you say 'share' Lush - what do you mean? If you mean reading stories together, just try it out - don't log in; say that you've found a site you enjoy and see what he says. The best way is to talk to him about it and see what his reaction is.


that's because i hear he was the test subject for your story ideas... *giggle*

btw, great advice. i'm kind of in your face blunt about this kind of stuff. Abi's approach is probably wiser than just hitting him in the face with it.

http://www.lushstories.com/stories/hardcore/west-coast-games-part-one-the-beach.aspx
anonymouslylush
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 10:13:41 AM

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I told my previous s.o. about my lush account. He trusted me to not be inappropriate with others. Trust and honesty are important for a relationship to work.

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EllenJames
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 8:01:26 PM

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I think my wife may be ready to hear at least a little bit about what I've been doing on Lush - if I carefully choose the right moment and keep it a bit general at first - going to try anyway


Ellen James

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Naughty_Nurse
Posted: Monday, April 15, 2013 11:18:27 AM

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My husband knows that I'm here and what I'm doing here. It seems that I'm very lucky because he is cool with it.
He also read my stories and profile and even saw a pic of my favorite lushiefriend. I think for us is the key to be open, but I can understand that for some people it can be difficult.

I also found it difficult to tell him, because I wasn't 100% sure if he was ok with it.
I told him at a night that we were having a lot of fun and the atmosphere was very relaxed.
Actually I don't really remember how I told, just start telling in general is the best I guess.

Many guys just find it very sexy if their girl is interested in erotic stuff.

Good luck and have fun!

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Nikki703
Posted: Monday, April 15, 2013 1:47:24 PM

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My SO knows all about my Lush account and is totally cool about it. I think it all has to do with trust and how secure you are in the relationship. I am not really a cyber girl but if I did cyber a lot that would also be OK. We use my Lush activity as a stimulus for OUR activity. I wanted her to join but its really not her thing, but we have chatted with friends together a few times when I was on Lush and asks me about a few people, how they are and all that!!
Beckie2309
Posted: Monday, April 15, 2013 2:09:14 PM

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My boyfriend has known about my interest in Lush for a few years so when the time came that I could make my own account I was eager and quickly created one, even though he was apprehensive at first. I stressed the fact that Lush was simply a place to share my brain with other creative and aspiring writers! I guess some of the stories get in the way as I am so absorbed but it gives me something to do whilst he's busy on his PS3!

fireman
Posted: Tuesday, April 16, 2013 8:53:48 PM

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They say Honesty is the best policy. But sometimes if they don't know it doesnt hurt. It's not like you're online to meet people. I would want to know. Who knows he may want to join.
candyflossbaby
Posted: Tuesday, April 16, 2013 8:58:12 PM

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I've been honest about this from the beginning with my bf, he's cool and laud back. I don't cyber or anything here, just chat casually to friends, read and post stories and check out the forums. Lush had helped me explore what I like and what I want. Letting him know how much I've learnt from lush has helped him be cool and relaxed about it, but I can imagine if you cyber it may open up a whole other kettle of fish :/

Just your friendly neighbourhood....erm.....ashleigh i guess :P
wild_flower
Posted: Wednesday, April 17, 2013 8:54:44 AM

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I was recently in a relationship and wanted to tell him soo bad, but i knew better he would've freaked. After watching a few episodes of catfish i told him that i chatted online & made friends he told me that they aren't real friends blah blsh so needless to sau i had to delete my lush until we were over. Never again lol. My advice wsit it out test the waters before you say something.
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