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Fanofolderwomen
Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 7:52:56 PM

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I think they should talk to their wives.
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Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 8:24:20 PM

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Regardless of age or of sex, sex itself is essential to maintain a healthy relationship. Talk to her not at her be clear to convey what your needs are how your feeling, watch and listen to her response. Wish you all the best :)
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Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 8:28:19 PM

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I guess they won't be writing Wife Lovers stories.

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To each his own. If he wants to, he's gonna. But he better be ready for the consequences.



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Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 9:46:30 PM

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Marriage is special. It's sacred. They should talk it out. Good communication is essential in any relationship.
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Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 9:53:03 PM

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I think anything is fine WITH communication AND honest permission! If there is an ounce infidelity or untruthfulness ya might as well get the walking papers written up!
WellMadeMale
Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 11:17:31 PM

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Hey, if your wife or long-term girlfriend is urging you to go out and get your rocks off... go for it. I've been in a similar position before.

The gf or wife has decided that she just isn't into that whole physical sharing/loving/adventuring thing anymore...and if she's given you the green light for some strange leg on the side...

Go for it.

It isn't like you're going to be infecting your wife/gf with any STDs...she's not fucking you anyway, right?

However...if the life partner isn't into you chasing and catching some pussy (and other possible things) and sharing a bed or house with you... perhaps you should just divorce or remove yourself from that living situation and go enjoy your life without trampling on hers.

My 2 cents

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Magical_felix
Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 11:26:52 PM

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WellMadeMale wrote:
Hey, if your wife or long-term girlfriend is urging you to go out and get your rocks off... go for it. I've been in a similar position before.



Your wife/GF literally told you she didn't care if you cheated cause you weren't getting any off her? LOL

What is that...



Naughty_Nurse
Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 11:35:03 PM

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Hi, i wonder why you think this is funny?
If a woman doesn't feel any sexual appetite I think it's just very good of her to give green light.
She can not expect from her husband to have a sexless life I think?

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Magical_felix wrote:


Your wife/GF literally told you she didn't care if you cheated cause you weren't getting any off her? LOL

What is that...


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WellMadeMale
Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 11:52:31 PM

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Magical_felix wrote:


Your wife/GF literally told you she didn't care if you cheated cause you weren't getting any off her? LOL

What is that...


It ain't cheating if you and your wife or you and your girlfriend are openly communicating about the situation.

Try to keep up Jackson.

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Magical_felix
Posted: Tuesday, July 02, 2013 11:53:40 PM

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Naughty_Nurse wrote:
Hi, i wonder why you think this is funny?
If a woman doesn't feel any sexual appetite I think it's just very good of her to give green light.
She can not expect from her husband to have a sexless life I think?

Regaeman Man


I tend to lose my appetite when confronted with bologna too. Now a piece of skirt steak? Yeah I'm hungry again.

If that makes sense.



nil4sin
Posted: Wednesday, July 03, 2013 12:43:32 AM

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Pour Wine I have heard that sex in a secret relationship is most enjoyable. Only condition is that the involved persons are in total agreement.

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Dani
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nil4sin wrote:
Pour Wine I have heard that sex in a secret relationship is most enjoyable. Only condition is that the involved persons are in total agreement.


This is like the biggest contradiction ever. It can't be a secret relationship if involved persons are aware and in agreement.



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budwilliams
Posted: Wednesday, July 03, 2013 2:16:17 AM

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Magical_felix wrote:
Your wife/GF literally told you she didn't care if you cheated cause you weren't getting any off her? LOL


I have had that happen
bustyreadhead
Posted: Wednesday, July 03, 2013 8:03:46 AM

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"What do you think of older married men seeking sex because their wives no longer want it?"

i'd like some clarification... everyone in this thread seems to be answering with the assumption that your wife has just given you permission to sleep around - which is odd because you don't seem to be saying that at all.

so now i'm curious.... are you asking about having an open relationship, or banging younger chicks on the sly?
janet_haney
Posted: Wednesday, July 03, 2013 9:44:57 AM

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I agree with the other women. First of all you should see if maybe the partner has some reason for not enjoying sex with you. Women go through so many changes as we get older that can affect our sexuality. Age alone can do that not to mention all the other physical changes we encounter. However, from my experience if you can't honor the vow then you should move on.
Metilda
Posted: Wednesday, July 03, 2013 1:15:19 PM

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I think it's tragic when one persons' health or other issues end up controlling and denying someone else what is a basic element in a relationship and life.

I can't imagine looking at my husband and telling him 'no sex' . . . and then getting offended if he gets to a point where he can't deny himself such a basic, primal urge.

That's forcing someone into celibacy - and it's sad. No one should have that type of power over another person.

While I understand that you can't create sexual desire when it's just no longer there (for whatever reason) - you shouldn't let that force the other to let go of it, too. Nor is sex the only type of sexual satisfaction to give/receive.

If I was in a position where I couldn't bring myself to please my husband AT ALL I'd give him the green flag to go and seek out someone else PHYSICALLY.

However, I did go through a time when - because of health issues - I could NOT have sex. We resorted to oral/manual stimulation during that time. I might not have been able to orgasm, but I still saw to his needs and enjoyed it.

If someone is so put out by their issues that they can't even get someone off that way then there's more going on than meets the eye.

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Posted: Wednesday, July 03, 2013 9:38:23 PM

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I think he should talk to his wife, and together they can devise a solution that they are both comfortable with. Anything else is dishonest.
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Posted: Wednesday, July 03, 2013 10:04:22 PM

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I think we all need sex. Its wrong but if I know the guy well enough, who knows what can happen.
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Posted: Wednesday, July 03, 2013 10:56:25 PM

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Metilda wrote:
I think it's tragic when one persons' health or other issues end up controlling and denying someone else what is a basic element in a relationship and life.

I can't imagine looking at my husband and telling him 'no sex' . . . and then getting offended if he gets to a point where he can't deny himself such a basic, primal urge.

That's forcing someone into celibacy - and it's sad. No one should have that type of power over another person.

While I understand that you can't create sexual desire when it's just no longer there (for whatever reason) - you shouldn't let that force the other to let go of it, too. Nor is sex the only type of sexual satisfaction to give/receive.

If I was in a position where I couldn't bring myself to please my husband AT ALL I'd give him the green flag to go and seek out someone else PHYSICALLY.

However, I did go through a time when - because of health issues - I could NOT have sex. We resorted to oral/manual stimulation during that time. I might not have been able to orgasm, but I still saw to his needs and enjoyed it.

If someone is so put out by their issues that they can't even get someone off that way then there's more going on than meets the eye.


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Posted: Thursday, July 04, 2013 3:14:28 PM

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Why must he be an older man?

If a couple is no longer sexual and have fully explored all the avenues to find a solution, including a good Sex Therapist.

It seems to me that both parties have the green light to find pleasure outside the bedroom.

Plus it is not always the woman who is disinteresed in sex either.






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why do ya think all the dirty old men are here, ya never see a dirty old lady"s ?
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Posted: Thursday, July 04, 2013 4:56:38 PM

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Did you ever consider she just didn't want sex with YOU? Older married men can let themselves "go" just as married women can. Are you a slob, overweight, have gross habits, lust after "the young stuff" while you ignore your wife, no longer make any effort to "seduce" her? Are you a "lazy lover", a lousy one, only make love on some schedule? Consider her POV and work from there to get your "goove" back. Is she worn out from housework that you expect but never help with? Are you a "make me a sammich and bring me a beer" guy?
The same old-same old rut and routine of married life is reflected in the sex life as well for either gender. And "trying to spice it up" with kinks or experiments is a "bandaid" approach if the romance and desire isn't built up first.

Too many people, in my opinion, rush to adultery as a "fix it" without considering the alternatives. Look to your own deep motivations. Do you think the "outsourcing" with something strange is because you're bored? Maybe you're the one that's boring. Do you think some "young stuff" will make you feel younger? In most, cases the opposite is true because their sex drive and energy will outlast yours and you'll be a disappointment to them, then it's bye bye.

Are you "full" of porn images and vids that excite you and think "Oh, yeah, I'll get me some of that"? Reality, it's not! For every "hot babe" or "hunk" you think exists for you, there are a bazillion plain, ordinary people who want average, ordinary lives not based in some frenzied sexual fantasies that most men of an age can't maintain for more than ten minutes. Oh, sure, with Viagra or Cialis, you'll think you're SuperStud until you wind up in the ER or Intensive Care.

Just my two cents worth, of course. :) Go on and do what you think you can handle, but don't whine when it doesn't work out.
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Posted: Thursday, July 04, 2013 5:48:28 PM

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in agreeance with yourmr.dark......if after all assessments are made and all avenues have been exhausted and there is no relief to be had in the sex department.....know this.....what mama or daddy wont do.....another will......speaking from experience.....
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Posted: Thursday, July 04, 2013 6:00:14 PM

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Metilda wrote:
I think it's tragic when one persons' health or other issues end up controlling and denying someone else what is a basic element in a relationship and life.

I can't imagine looking at my husband and telling him 'no sex' . . . and then getting offended if he gets to a point where he can't deny himself such a basic, primal urge.

That's forcing someone into celibacy - and it's sad. No one should have that type of power over another person.

While I understand that you can't create sexual desire when it's just no longer there (for whatever reason) - you shouldn't let that force the other to let go of it, too. Nor is sex the only type of sexual satisfaction to give/receive.

If I was in a position where I couldn't bring myself to please my husband AT ALL I'd give him the green flag to go and seek out someone else PHYSICALLY.

However, I did go through a time when - because of health issues - I could NOT have sex. We resorted to oral/manual stimulation during that time. I might not have been able to orgasm, but I still saw to his needs and enjoyed it.

If someone is so put out by their issues that they can't even get someone off that way then there's more going on than meets the eye.
Candi00_us
Posted: Thursday, July 04, 2013 6:01:15 PM

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i totally agree with metilda
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Posted: Thursday, July 04, 2013 6:08:09 PM

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I have been with my wife for 18 years, 12 of which has been married ... I would love to have a great "lushstories.com" relationship with my wife ... it is her second marriage, and talking with her ex the issues I deal with are the same he dealt with ..

The last time I had sex with my wife was Jan 7th 2011 .... she just lays there, and says "Are you done!"

the time before that was in March of 2009 and before that Feb 2008 ...

I have remained faithful, expect for in my very wild Penthouse Forum/Lush Stories mind to my wife ... I have not had sex with any one else ...

I have been on lush for almost a week now, and women will talk with me about life, and wild crazy sexual things. There are women out there, if not yet for but a moment make me feel wanted.

So if I am a desperate old man, who is breaking the "Sanctity of Marriage" for that I guess I plead guilty,,. I have tried talking with her she doesn't want to talk.

Not sure what to do...
Metilda
Posted: Thursday, July 04, 2013 10:23:36 PM

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(Peter and others in a similar situation) Sounds like couples therapy might be helpful. At the very least she should be able to tell you what is going on inher mind. Without communication and a close relationship your not married - you're just coexisting with random benefits.

I wouldn't tolerate that type of behavior. I'd put my foot down and demand communication and a possible solution. Because I'm a human being and a wife and deserve respect from my husband rather than derision and being ignored.

So - buck up. Have it out. Try to be polite and when that gets you nowhere be firm about things.

I tell women in similar situations that they deserve more respect and the same is true for men.

Honestly - life's too short to let yourself waste away in miserable, rejected silence.

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Magical_felix
Posted: Friday, July 05, 2013 2:26:00 AM

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yourmisterdork wrote:
Did you ever consider she just didn't want sex with YOU? Older married men can let themselves "go" just as married women can. Are you a slob, overweight, have gross habits, lust after "the young stuff" while you ignore your wife, no longer make any effort to "seduce" her? Are you a "lazy lover", a lousy one, only make love on some schedule? Consider her POV and work from there to get your "goove" back. Is she worn out from housework that you expect but never help with? Are you a "make me a sammich and bring me a beer" guy?
The same old-same old rut and routine of married life is reflected in the sex life as well for either gender. And "trying to spice it up" with kinks or experiments is a "bandaid" approach if the romance and desire isn't built up first.

Too many people, in my opinion, rush to adultery as a "fix it" without considering the alternatives. Look to your own deep motivations. Do you think the "outsourcing" with something strange is because you're bored? Maybe you're the one that's boring. Do you think some "young stuff" will make you feel younger? In most, cases the opposite is true because their sex drive and energy will outlast yours and you'll be a disappointment to them, then it's bye bye.

Are you "full" of porn images and vids that excite you and think "Oh, yeah, I'll get me some of that"? Reality, it's not! For every "hot babe" or "hunk" you think exists for you, there are a bazillion plain, ordinary people who want average, ordinary lives not based in some frenzied sexual fantasies that most men of an age can't maintain for more than ten minutes. Oh, sure, with Viagra or Cialis, you'll think you're SuperStud until you wind up in the ER or Intensive Care.

Just my two cents worth, of course. :) Go on and do what you think you can handle, but don't whine when it doesn't work out.


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