What's going on everyone? I'm 18, a virgin heading to college in the fall, and it makes me nervous as hell. It hasn't been my choice to be a virgin, I am not the smoothest talker with women, and I am not the most attractive man on the market...this just makes me nervous heading into college. I'm not too confident as you can tell, and I am not sure what I am asking for...just felt like letting it out. Thanks
Expect long study hours, numerous tests, and many trips to the library. Honestly: that's what college is for. Focus on your studies and if you meet a girl you like, say hi. Maybe eat lunch or study with her.
Consider yourself a college student, don't define yourself by your sex status. That's the wrong way to go.
Yes, study your books, do your homework, pumps some neurons, and keep one of those inflatable dolls in your closet for those times of need.
That makes 2 of us, man.
I'm a virgin and in college too.
You aren't alone, my nigga.
University was the best five years of my life (four years BA, 1 year Masters). I didn't think of myself as especially attractive going in, either, and I had suffered serious bullying in high school so wasn't exactly dripping with self-esteem, either. Learning about the world, becoming independent, and, eventually, losing my virginity changed things for the better to be sure. But the sex part didn't happen, to be honest, until grad school though I had some casual relationships with girls and the odd date earlier. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin into your twenties but there is also nothing wrong with being open to meeting the "right one" when it happens. Go in with an open mind and you'll learn a lot, both academically and in the school of life, whether you "lose it" or not.
Sex will come eventually, don't go looking for it. I'm in my final year (for now) of college for my bachelor's in Education (I eventually want to get a Master's).
All sex/attempted relationships did was make my mind wander in class and not focus on my studying because I wanted to know what went wrong (the attempted relationship part). Sex just kept me thinking what else I could do to please the person I was with. Trust me don't stress over being a virgin in college.
I think I am the oldest woman on here
I don't think 18 is all that young to be a virgin
in fact if one more celebrity tell me they lost their virginity at a seriously young age I will puke
you make love or have sex with someone for you cannot NOT wait for another moment
not to throw away it to get rid of it
and lots of people are shy and introverted
but at college you get to be YOU
not a part of a clique or group
not classified on where you live or who your parents are
you get to be YOU
and it is AMAZING and scary at the same time
so first just make friends study hard
and the girls will come
see in college everyone is the same
well except for brains
and the nerds rule the world
so relax
she will come
and then so..will you!
My best advice is just RELAX! Then just be yourself (you're always more confident when you're not TRYING to be someone you really AREN'T and as the ladies here can tell you a certain air of confidence (so long as it isn't OBNOXIOUS) tends to start the process of get them turned on. After that, the right girl will be there, the time and situation will be right and once you realize that SHE WANTS IT TOO, you'll relax again and just do "what comes natural". In the meantime, read up on HOW to caress them! LITTLE will get you shut down faster than "GRABBING" (going TOO hard with the hands.) Practice on yourself a little, try it on your thigh, it won't take you long to realize that a gentle barely skimming STROKE feels MUCH better than a hard GRAB.
You are not the first or alone.
If you want to find out without embarrassing yourself - find a brothel - tell them your story and I know they will do their best to ensure that you enjoy your first esperience and not embarrass you if you fail - the first time. It happens. Some of the women will take pride in wanting you and encourage you to enjoy your first time with them.
I am not and never have been a prostitute but I know many - in my industry our guests will often ask the consierge to find them a girl. You would be surprise at some of them - most of the girls are women you could take home to meet mum - with their clothes on. It stops there.
There is no shame in being a virgin. And a lot of my friends went into their freshman year of college as virgins too. It's nothing to get anxious or shy about, no one will judge you and if they do, they aren't mature enough to be having sex themselves.
I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20, and I actually was popular with the girls. I graduated college without having ever seen a woman naked, and I didn't think anything was wrong with that. Then I got cocky and apparently that's sexy as hell, so I lucked out. I'm sure you will too.
I'm an adult and still a virgin. I was focus on my studies and I'm too shy.
I feel deep inside that I've found the right man. I hope so.
I'm almost 21 and i am still a virgin. But "Good things come to toughs who wait." I been waiting since when I was 16, and all I got close to was making out and french kissing. Also Miss Bunny, I would like to be your friend btw.
Try not to worry about being a virgin. Like others have said, it will happen when the time is right. I can suggest a few things where you might find yourself more comfortable. Find things in your life that you love and are passionate about. Writing and books? See if there is a book club, or a writers guild that you can join. Are you into gaming. Surely there are groups of kids that gather and game together, and some girls enjoy gaming as much as guys. Animals? find a shelter to volunteer at if you have extra time. What ever you are passionate about, try to use it to find women who loves the same things as you. Most importantly, wait until you find someone who cares about you, and who you are. It makes all the difference in the world.
You may find it hard to believe, but we all started out as virgins! Some people lose their cherries earlier and with more enjoyment and gusto than others. You should and shouldn't be serious about it. Laughter is great with sex, especially when it gets awkward for a moment. Go with what feels right for you both.
Your certainly not alone out there man! I'm in the exact same situation :P
