How can I reduce the discomfort of anal play? I use a good quality lube and try to go slowly but sometimes even small sized items are uncomfortable. Is there anything I can do to to stretch myself a little? Can anyone help me please?
Hi Martb40,
I'm also not gay but do enjoy some anal pleasure from time to time. When I introduce anal sex to a new bedpartner I always go very very slow and let them get used to the idea at all and then the size. But after some experimenting I found that in the cases I've been presented with its usually between the ears.
My last girlfriend loved anal stimulation and we've tried various things. At some point we bought a new buttplug and she thought it was huge and would never fit. One night a while later I let her put on a blindfold and made her relax on the bed. Took care of the seen, fresh sheets, good temperature et cetra. I started to gently touch her all over her body, kiss her everywhere.. All the while she had to stay silent on the bed.. until she was craving for some penetration or any other serious stimulation.
I started to go down on her.. well to detailed already anyway.. used one finger for her rectum and one for her pussy. Get her wet and ready. Then(while she was still blindfolded) I lubed up the new buttplug and while stimulating her pussy and clit started to work it inside. She never knew it was the big one until I later during sex took of the blindfold and she saw it in the mirror.
Same goes for myself.. I always started small but when we got some new stuff and she came back from a business trip we tried them on me. I hadn't been stimulated anally for months but within no time I could take 4.5 cm in diameter(the biggest I've ever had) just because I was very relaxed and eager.
My point is.. mindset and full relaxation of the body and mind make more possible then you think. As soon as you think something will be to big you're rectum will react and make it to big.
In my experience anyway. Hope this helps you.
Try to relax fully if you think it's going to hurt then you subconciously with tighten yourself up. Already your using a lube which is always a good thing.
Ok guys. Thanks for the help. I've been doing a little experimenting with your suggestions and I think I have it almost cracked, so to speak. Lots of lube, then 1 finger, then 2 fingers. Here's where it important. A tapered glass dildo slides in very easily and gives that little bit of stretch to relax the sphincter muscle. After that I found that I could get some of my wife's sizable dildo's in my ass with some degree of comfort. The most positive aspect of this is that there is little or no lingering discomfort now, though there was a little blood when I was done experimenting. Nothing much though. I guess there is only so much stretching you can do even with the best preperation! Thank you all for your suggestions.
I am a gay bottom and love the feeling of a hard cock in me, rubbing and creasing my prostate… so believe me when I tell you that the key to anal sex is to relax and use lots of lube to allow the cock or dildo to slide in. Start small like with fingers and gradually increase length and girth.
Easier? What happened to HARDER?
Warm water enemas help you relax but also clean you out
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You could also use something like lidocaine gel, it'll ease the discomfort rather quickly ?
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