Welcome Guest Search | Active Topics | Members | Log In | Register

For the gay guys. How can I make it easier? Options · View
martb40
Posted: Monday, September 09, 2013 6:55:15 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
How can I reduce the discomfort of anal play? I use a good quality lube and try to go slowly but sometimes even small sized items are uncomfortable. Is there anything I can do to to stretch myself a little? Can anyone help me please?
Guest
Posted: Monday, September 09, 2013 7:58:41 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 537,935
Im not a guy but I think I can help haha, basically try with fingers first! Wear a glove or something if you want, just rub the outside of it to relax it and then when your ready try and push one in! If that hurts play with yourself to relax then try a bit again, keep doing this until its comfortable with one finger and then work from there :)
martb40
Posted: Monday, September 09, 2013 12:58:48 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
Shemale_lover wrote:
Im not a guy but I think I can help haha, basically try with fingers first! Wear a glove or something if you want, just rub the outside of it to relax it and then when your ready try and push one in! If that hurts play with yourself to relax then try a bit again, keep doing this until its comfortable with one finger and then work from there :)


Thanks lover. I have been trying to gently and gradually loosen myself with some success but next time I try I am as tight as ever. I start off with 1 finger, then 2 then increase from there. It does take a long time to get myself loose enough to get anything more substantial in though.
DutchMike88
Posted: Monday, September 09, 2013 2:19:05 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 9/17/2012
Posts: 118
Location: Netherlands
Hi Martb40,

I'm also not gay but do enjoy some anal pleasure from time to time. When I introduce anal sex to a new bedpartner I always go very very slow and let them get used to the idea at all and then the size. But after some experimenting I found that in the cases I've been presented with its usually between the ears.
My last girlfriend loved anal stimulation and we've tried various things. At some point we bought a new buttplug and she thought it was huge and would never fit. One night a while later I let her put on a blindfold and made her relax on the bed. Took care of the seen, fresh sheets, good temperature et cetra. I started to gently touch her all over her body, kiss her everywhere.. All the while she had to stay silent on the bed.. until she was craving for some penetration or any other serious stimulation.
I started to go down on her.. well to detailed already anyway.. used one finger for her rectum and one for her pussy. Get her wet and ready. Then(while she was still blindfolded) I lubed up the new buttplug and while stimulating her pussy and clit started to work it inside. She never knew it was the big one until I later during sex took of the blindfold and she saw it in the mirror.

Same goes for myself.. I always started small but when we got some new stuff and she came back from a business trip we tried them on me. I hadn't been stimulated anally for months but within no time I could take 4.5 cm in diameter(the biggest I've ever had) just because I was very relaxed and eager.

My point is.. mindset and full relaxation of the body and mind make more possible then you think. As soon as you think something will be to big you're rectum will react and make it to big.

In my experience anyway. Hope this helps you.
martb40
Posted: Monday, September 09, 2013 6:26:37 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
DutchMike88 wrote:
Hi Martb40,

I'm also not gay but do enjoy some anal pleasure from time to time. When I introduce anal sex to a new bedpartner I always go very very slow and let them get used to the idea at all and then the size. But after some experimenting I found that in the cases I've been presented with its usually between the ears.
My last girlfriend loved anal stimulation and we've tried various things. At some point we bought a new buttplug and she thought it was huge and would never fit. One night a while later I let her put on a blindfold and made her relax on the bed. Took care of the seen, fresh sheets, good temperature et cetra. I started to gently touch her all over her body, kiss her everywhere.. All the while she had to stay silent on the bed.. until she was craving for some penetration or any other serious stimulation.
I started to go down on her.. well to detailed already anyway.. used one finger for her rectum and one for her pussy. Get her wet and ready. Then(while she was still blindfolded) I lubed up the new buttplug and while stimulating her pussy and clit started to work it inside. She never knew it was the big one until I later during sex took of the blindfold and she saw it in the mirror.

Same goes for myself.. I always started small but when we got some new stuff and she came back from a business trip we tried them on me. I hadn't been stimulated anally for months but within no time I could take 4.5 cm in diameter(the biggest I've ever had) just because I was very relaxed and eager.

My point is.. mindset and full relaxation of the body and mind make more possible then you think. As soon as you think something will be to big you're rectum will react and make it to big.

In my experience anyway. Hope this helps you.



Thank you Mike. I will try to relax a bit more and take things slowly. I have been doing that though. Maybe I should try to have my partner try to insert it for me!
kylie_kained
Posted: Monday, September 09, 2013 8:00:52 PM

Rank: Detention Seeker

Joined: 8/17/2010
Posts: 994
Location: Over your Knee Screaming and Kicking!, United King
Try to relax fully if you think it's going to hurt then you subconciously with tighten yourself up. Already your using a lube which is always a good thing.
















martb40
Posted: Tuesday, September 10, 2013 6:50:46 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
kylie_kained wrote:
Try to relax fully if you think it's going to hurt then you subconciously with tighten yourself up. Already your using a lube which is always a good thing.


Thanks Kylie. I've been relaxing as much as possible. I've even had some success. It just makes me uncomfortable or a couple of days after I've been playing. I would like to have a little more permanent give if you know what I mean.
martb40
Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013 7:55:23 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
Ok guys. Thanks for the help. I've been doing a little experimenting with your suggestions and I think I have it almost cracked, so to speak. Lots of lube, then 1 finger, then 2 fingers. Here's where it important. A tapered glass dildo slides in very easily and gives that little bit of stretch to relax the sphincter muscle. After that I found that I could get some of my wife's sizable dildo's in my ass with some degree of comfort. The most positive aspect of this is that there is little or no lingering discomfort now, though there was a little blood when I was done experimenting. Nothing much though. I guess there is only so much stretching you can do even with the best preperation! Thank you all for your suggestions.
Crows_kitten
Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013 1:28:50 PM

Rank: Active Ink Slinger

Joined: 8/25/2013
Posts: 32
Location: United States
I'm not a guy, but I can give you one tip that helped me immensely when being introduced to anal play was help your body to associate it with pleasure. When I was first getting used to it, my Master would talk with me to keep me relaxed, but at the same time have me play with my clit a bit while stretching/preparing so that my body became conditioned to associate anal play with pleasure and for the most part that makes things much easier and enjoyable.

For a guy, I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that the same thing can be done, but I could be completely wrong. I do hope that this helps some for you, though. Best of luck :)
martb40
Posted: Wednesday, September 11, 2013 9:23:42 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
Crows_kitten wrote:
I'm not a guy, but I can give you one tip that helped me immensely when being introduced to anal play was help your body to associate it with pleasure. When I was first getting used to it, my Master would talk with me to keep me relaxed, but at the same time have me play with my clit a bit while stretching/preparing so that my body became conditioned to associate anal play with pleasure and for the most part that makes things much easier and enjoyable.

For a guy, I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that the same thing can be done, but I could be completely wrong. I do hope that this helps some for you, though. Best of luck :)


Thanks Kitten. Every little helps. I haven't tried the pleasure part, usually because I don't seem to have enough hands lol. But I guess when I bring my partner into the equation it will become easier. I think there was a real breakthrough today as I finally relaxed enough to insert something without pain. Thanks again for your help.
TonyZ
Posted: Tuesday, October 01, 2013 3:04:30 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 10/1/2013
Posts: 231
Location: United States
I am a gay bottom and love the feeling of a hard cock in me, rubbing and creasing my prostate… so believe me when I tell you that the key to anal sex is to relax and use lots of lube to allow the cock or dildo to slide in. Start small like with fingers and gradually increase length and girth.
martb40
Posted: Tuesday, October 01, 2013 6:14:16 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
TonyZ wrote:
I am a gay bottom and love the feeling of a hard cock in me, rubbing and creasing my prostate… so believe me when I tell you that the key to anal sex is to relax and use lots of lube to allow the cock or dildo to slide in. Start small like with fingers and gradually increase length and girth.

Thank you for the advice. Much appreciated!
dpw
Posted: Wednesday, October 02, 2013 1:25:02 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 9/15/2013
Posts: 3,228
Location: Liverpool, United Kingdom
martb40 wrote:
How can I reduce the discomfort of anal play? I use a good quality lube and try to go slowly but sometimes even small sized items are uncomfortable. Is there anything I can do to to stretch myself a little? Can anyone help me please?

I know it may seem strange but when you're lubed push your sphincter out, that actually relaxes the muscles and allows easier entry. However, as a gay guy, I would recommend a cock with a good looking man attached to it. Lol
martb40
Posted: Wednesday, October 02, 2013 5:15:19 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
dpw wrote:

I know it may seem strange but when you're lubed push your sphincter out, that actually relaxes the muscles and allows easier entry. However, as a gay guy, I would recommend a cock with a good looking man attached to it. Lol

LOL DPW. I don't think the man is necessary in my case but thank you for the advice.
malebox
Posted: Wednesday, October 02, 2013 6:39:51 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 3/5/2009
Posts: 173
Location: United States
Easier? What happened to HARDER?
TonyZ
Posted: Wednesday, October 02, 2013 6:59:47 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 10/1/2013
Posts: 231
Location: United States
dpw wrote:

I know it may seem strange but when you're lubed push your sphincter out, that actually relaxes the muscles and allows easier entry. However, as a gay guy, I would recommend a cock with a good looking man attached to it. Lol


Yes, pushing out your sphincter works because as you let it go it has to return to its original state "sucking in" the intruding object, but the down side is that it may cause prolapse... I would rather you work on breathing exercises until it becomes natural, and just breath in as you are inserting the dildo in. For me though, dpw's recommendation of finding a hot man attached to a hard dick works wonders ;))
martb40
Posted: Wednesday, October 02, 2013 6:11:09 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
TonyZ wrote:


Yes, pushing out your sphincter works because as you let it go it has to return to its original state "sucking in" the intruding object, but the down side is that it may cause prolapse... I would rather you work on breathing exercises until it becomes natural, and just breath in as you are inserting the dildo in. For me though, dpw's recommendation of finding a hot man attached to a hard dick works wonders ;))

Thank you once again. Do not want a prolapse.
martb40
Posted: Wednesday, October 02, 2013 9:16:47 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 8/16/2013
Posts: 100
Location: United States
malebox wrote:
Easier? What happened to HARDER?

Right now ....harder is not an option. Still recovering from bigger. Harder would be just too much lol.
Users browsing this topic
Guest 


Forum Jump
You cannot post new topics in this forum.
You cannot reply to topics in this forum.
You cannot delete your posts in this forum.
You cannot edit your posts in this forum.
You cannot create polls in this forum.
You cannot vote in polls in this forum.

Main Forum RSS : RSS

Powered by Yet Another Forum.net version 1.9.1.6 (NET v4.0) - 11/14/2007
Copyright © 2003-2006 Yet Another Forum.net. All rights reserved.