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Meggsy
Posted: Monday, January 20, 2014 1:55:13 PM

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True love would be impossible for me. I cannot commit to being faithful to any one person.
Have I loved anybody - yes and I believed what we had going together was wonderful but unfortunately I was tempted and could not control the urge to find out what I could be enjoying.
I had to admit what I had done as my conscious would not allow me to conceal it. It was hard and we remained together for a while until he too was tempted and in view of my indiscretion took the opportunity. It was good for both of us but we both realised that we were not going to make it together.
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Posted: Friday, January 24, 2014 1:14:54 PM

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1LovelyKinkyKitsune
Posted: Wednesday, March 12, 2014 10:32:59 AM

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NightMan wrote:
love3 True Love. Have you ever had it. Not just ordinary love but that I would die for you love. You ever found true love or like me only experienced lust and/or infatuation?sad1

love9 My heart feels you and understands completely how you feel. I relate, and for so many many years I felt the same way. I really think there are many people who feel like that. This is a WONDERFUL topic that MORE peeps should have answered!

It is very hard. People who want that search and search. I still believe there is someone for everyone but you cannot make that happen, only accept them when it does happen. So often we get confused or misled. It is sad when deep within we feel that yearn. I have always believed and hoped, even though it seemed like I'd all but given up & my hope waned. I even wondered if my OTM (One True Match), or soulmate, was already in Heaven maybe & I hoped to wait & meet them there one day. I found someone very special to me like that when I was not looking or expecting [irony] and I am with them now. I have also finally found that soulmate connection and it is just exactly like I imagined it would be!!


I have found real love, true love, and also what I thought was true love and was not.I think sometimes it is quite complicated even when "love" should not be.
To me
"True Love" withstands the tests of time...






CliffordAClavin
Posted: Wednesday, March 12, 2014 4:25:17 PM

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It's funny because if you had asked me about my first two marriages, I would have said it was true love, the kind I'd die for. My third marriage is so much healthier and happier and I hesitated at the thought of whether I'd die for her. Maybe it's the passion in the last two that made it feel so life or death, but with this wife, she'd never ask me to die for her, there's no drama. There's just tenderness and love.

Maybe that's true love. Whatever it is, it's good stuff.
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Posted: Wednesday, March 12, 2014 4:34:38 PM

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Even being married for 25 years I'm sure I didn't feel love and
I think that if it was not the wedding and kids, I am a flighty person.
keoloke
Posted: Wednesday, March 12, 2014 9:31:36 PM

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NightMan wrote:
love3 True Love. Not just ordinary love but that I would die for you love. I thought once I had it but I was just fooling myself.


My take:

True Love or Ordinary Love, hmm which one? First, I would say that the word “ordinary” is an insult to have it associated with the word love. There isn’t nothing that’s average about love.

Love is.. Love. Not weighted or measured.

One person after so many years moves on and the other of course is terribly hurt, that's not an indication that it wasn’t true love or that we were just only experiencing “ordinary” love. We morph, so love changes. It was love, now is not any longer. We’re terribly hurt because we lost the person? Well, yes but we're also hurt because when we’re in love we have no shields whatsoever, we’re completely defenseless.

Just enjoy love for the time being.



On another account... And why the other has moved on anyway? It didn’t happen in a blink of an eye. We’re quick to make good use of criticism instead to become safe haven so the person would feel free to reveal their (new) thoughts (their morphing). If we reach that point than we can be free to continue love without any reserve.

Also, there's no "constructive criticism" especially in Love. Constructive Criticism = there's some about you that is wrong and I will fix it, just listen to me.

On a personal note, I always said that the word love is highly overused, so we're desensitized. I don't feel it should be. We even use it to superlatively say how much we like a Caramel Macchiato. We do not love a 22 oz $4 Macchiato.



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AlliRoze
Posted: Friday, March 21, 2014 11:59:58 AM

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I do believe i've found true love, because my husband is not just my spouse, he is my best friend, and was for a long time before we became romantically involved. Even in those early days I felt the need to tell him everything, all my deepest darkest failures and faults, there have never been any secrets between us.
I don't think true love is more passionate, or vibrant than normal love, if anything it is less flashy
People who've found true love don't feel the need to show it off. They don't need others to tell them they have a good thing, they already know they have it.

Guest
Posted: Friday, March 21, 2014 1:44:52 PM

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a very strong love built on trust and and caring for my lovely girlfriend how i wouldnt change for anyone in the world. so i guess you can call that true love :)
naughtykellypreston
Posted: Friday, March 21, 2014 3:34:15 PM

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i had true love and it was the best two years of my life. unfortunately she lest me for a guy. the problem is she fell in love with him and they are really happy together. so for now i say that that as long as she knows how i feel and she is okay then i am okay with that.
Truemalduke
Posted: Saturday, March 22, 2014 9:23:13 PM

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I've had it. I've also seen it wither into something unrecognizable.

Just keep wallowing in your own chaotic insecure delusions.
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Posted: Sunday, March 23, 2014 7:52:34 AM

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Not...I thought I had but it was not.
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Posted: Sunday, March 23, 2014 9:24:00 AM

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Is it 'love' we want? Or is it we don't want to be alone? To not have to face things without support?

To know that there's someone who is there for us as Carl Rogers says: "Love is the total positive unconditional regard for another person."

For me love is that - not the romance, that's the icing on the cake - rather I want someone to be with that I can talk to, walk with, argue with, and share love making/sex.

Share everything with.

I have no problem being by myself, and I also 'love' myself, it's not having someone here to relate the fun things that happened today, or the sad things.

To hear about their day, or to make plans for the future, or "I'm going to the store, you need anything?" type stuff.

Or now that I'm older and have two young kids, to not hear her say, "You'll never believe what X did today."

Or to reminisce about the good and bad times we went through.

????
1LovelyKinkyKitsune
Posted: Wednesday, March 26, 2014 9:35:55 PM

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Scriptwriter66 wrote:
Is it 'love' we want? Or is it we don't want to be alone? To not have to face things without support?

To know that there's someone who is there for us as Carl Rogers says: "Love is the total positive unconditional regard for another person."

For me love is that - not the romance, that's the icing on the cake - rather I want someone to be with that I can talk to, walk with, argue with, and share love making/sex.

Share everything with.

I have no problem being by myself, and I also 'love' myself, it's not having someone here to relate the fun things that happened today, or the sad things.

To hear about their day, or to make plans for the future, or "I'm going to the store, you need anything?" type stuff.

Or now that I'm older and have two young kids, to not hear her say, "You'll never believe what X did today."

Or to reminisce about the good and bad times we went through.

????


Yes.
Absolutely yes... and all those very important little things too. Like you said, however, is it always the 'person' people are in-love with or 'A' person/any person to love them back, accept them for who they are faults and all, and someone 'dependable? Hmm. Some people DO just not want to be alone. It did not use to bother me, but I realize now I don't but I can, so I was not really someone to be with anyone just because I did not want to be alone or die alone. I concluded I very well might die alone because of that and had to reconcile this. I have seen it though... and not being the sort myself, I do not know if it ends well or if it ends how we make it [in our own minds]. I always wanted my cake and to eat it too. ;) I always thought it was unfair to tempt me with a yummy delicious slice and then tell me, "Too bad! You don't get any!" Nooooo!

btw G. How was your day? :)

Guest
Posted: Wednesday, March 26, 2014 9:52:19 PM

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1LovelyKinkyKitsune wrote:


Yes.
Absolutely yes... and all those very important little things too. Like you said, however, is it always the 'person' people are in-love with or 'A' person/any person to love them back, accept them for who they are faults and all, and someone 'dependable? Hmm. Some people DO just not want to be alone. It did not use to bother me, but I realize now I don't but I can, so I was not really someone to be with anyone just because I did not want to be alone or die alone. I concluded I very well might die alone because of that and had to reconcile this. I have seen it though... and not being the sort myself, I do not know if it ends well or if it ends how we make it [in our own minds]. I always wanted my cake and to eat it too. ;) I always thought it was unfair to tempt me with a yummy delicious slice and then tell me, "Too bad! You don't get any!" Nooooo!

btw G. How was your day? :)


Cake and eat it with ice cream, please!

For me it's being with and in an equal all encompassing relationship. Like slipping into a very hot steamy bath - it takes time to get use to it, but you know once in it, it will be heaven. The water is edgy hot, as you slide under, trepidation about it being too hot, maybe, slowly you lower yourself in and the water embraces you but it's still a little on the doubtful side. You go for it and suddenly you're relaxing, embracing it as it embraces you. Your whole body gives over, and you're rewarded with a wonderful feeling of being at one, and peaceful and the doubt you had is gone. That's what I'm looking for in a relationship - sharing, building memories.

And my day has been good, thank you for askinghappy8
Magical_felix
Posted: Thursday, March 27, 2014 10:17:53 AM

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Karranaz
Posted: Thursday, March 27, 2014 7:44:48 PM

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NightMan wrote:
love3 True Love. Have you ever had it. Not just ordinary love but that I would die for you love.


In my life. Yes I have. I am lucky to be blessed with a good mother and I would say if there is someone who could define for me what true love is, it would be her. I realized that true love is not a feeling but is more of what you sacrifice and do for someone you love. I saw her sacrifice and feel her pain for our life is not that easy and I am not a perfect child and often caused her great pain and yet she still loves me and cares for me. I know sometimes she prefers to be fashionable but if she only has a few hard earned dollars left and her family needs it, then she would put our needs above her own. And even though she might be tired after working or taking care of the home still she makes time to check on us and even to this day her kids are all grown up. With the years she spent with my father she don't jump into adultery and leave her kids stranded and left my father in the dust to reclaim her youth. She was there for my father till the day he died, for her children through thick and thin, good and bad. She never ever stop being a mother, being a wife and has set a great example to us her kids. She redefined for me what true love is.

natural_woman
Posted: Saturday, March 29, 2014 11:11:30 PM

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I thought I had it when I was young and silly. Now the love I have is for my children and two very close friends. Romantic love, it may come again, I won't hold my breath until it does. I don't need it to be a whole person.
Merton
Posted: Saturday, March 29, 2014 11:50:13 PM

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Platonic friend & family love. Still seeking romantic love w/passion. Anyone care to apply....?
MissMovingOn
Posted: Thursday, April 03, 2014 7:59:56 AM

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True love hmmmm :)
Not romantically. I deeply value the love I have for my friends and family though. And I deeply value their love back, however they wanna show it :)

"Some say love
It is a razor
That leads your soul to bleed."
prairiedogg
Posted: Thursday, April 03, 2014 10:12:27 PM

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Having just ended a somewhat polyamorous relationship, I would have to say that I don't have any love right now. That's not to say that my partners and I weren't in love. There was love there, but sometimes it gets spread out so much that the substance is lacking. I think that's what happened to us. We all wanted more than any one of us could give.

That said, real love could be lurking right around the corner or behind the next door. If you're not willing to go there you'll never find it. We all have to make the effort to allow love to find us.
tasha4girls
Posted: Tuesday, May 13, 2014 5:16:21 PM

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If you had asked me that a few months ago I would of said a true and endless love, but sense I haven't seen her in 3 months i'll have to say a lonely love at the moment
NightMan
Posted: Tuesday, May 13, 2014 11:30:40 PM

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I have read all the response's to date. I would like to thank everyone for their replies. It took awhile but my post did finally get noticed. I guess I'M just A bit impatient.Just one of my many faults.As it always has life goes on. As for me I haven't changed & most likely never will.although I keep on trying I just can't seem to get over my selfish nature. I have A lady friend that I go out with from time to time.Although she is A good person & friend, I look in my heart & there's nothing there. I found A nice Bar I visit from time to time also.Again though I can't seem to connect with any one on an emotional level. I guess I'M just not capable of caring about anyone. Perhaps I am as one respondent said Jaded.Then again I could just be A selfish Bastard. Either way I don't see any change coming in the future.As for the rest of you, Keep on reading & responding. I wish you all the best. And thanks again. wave
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Posted: Wednesday, May 14, 2014 1:51:10 AM

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true love I am sorry but there is no such love I never been with anyone I truly love with everything I had I don't think that kind of love exist your partner and you would have to work at keeping up a relationship to make it work is that love maybe but is it truly true love ? Yeah love my boyfriend but I don't think it's true love. Maybe I am a bit bitter from the pass relationships I have had. Love will fade over time but if you want the love to stay you have to work at it and maybe true love is out there for some but not for those who don't believe who it has crushed into small pieces and left broken.

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