Well crap, I missed the last question... I know it's not going to do me any good now, but I am usually a lame-assed lurker because my thoughts sometimes come out of my fingertips and it gets me into trouble... just sayin'
That is quite the list of questions you have there, I'll do my best to answer:
...HAVE an admirer or BE an admirer?
I do admire many things, but nothing is better than feeling admiration, seeing it in someones eyes. It gives you a boost and makes you feel better. I don't base my worth or confidence on others, but still it's a great feeling to be admired, no matter if it is for your body, your mind, your humor ....
...HAVE a plaything or BE a plaything?
That's a hard one. I would have to go with having a plaything. even though I enjoy submitting on the odd occasion, I prefer being in charge a lot more.
...HAVE a secret or BE a secret?
Have a secret, no question. Being a secret could be fun under the right circumstances, but having one is always great.
...HAVE the latest gossip or BE the latest gossip?
Neither, gossip is a stupid thing, that can seriously hurt people.
...HAVE inspiration or BE inspiration?
I think being an inspiration is one of the greatest things you can accomplish and one of the best compliments you can give someone.
...HAVE an interesting reply or BE a lame-assed lurker?...
I assume you are talking about the chat rooms here. It's the only context in which this one makes sense. I prefer to participate in conversation rather than just sit around. If I can show that I'm the smartest and funniest person there, it'll be even better.
1) I guess I'd rather have an admirer because it can really suck to admire someone if they don't want you back!
2) It's fun to be the plaything, but switching it up is exciting sometimes.
3) Neither? Having a secret is preferable to being one though.
4) I'd rather be the latest gossip, if people want to take an interest in whatever I'm doing then that's fine.