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What do you guys think of when woman have had previous c-sections

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I know its a horrible question, but im soooo pissed off, I hated by body before but now i hate it even more so with 2 previous c-sections neither by choice might i add, does not in anyway make me feel sexy or beautiful...

what are you guys thoughts on this, the afterwards scaring, does it really turn you off.... as you never see in porn these things got me thinking its a big no no

please be honest im soo torn up about this....

Thanks

Dee
Yes im the small bitchy chick in the corner, set me off and man do you know about it !!!
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I have had several partners who have had Caesareans. In one case the scar was almost undetectable as it was very neat and she used make up to conceal it. My current partner has a much less neat scar and doesn't make any attempt to mask it. It's part of her, I love her as she is. Guys worry far less about these minor blemishes than girls think. If a guy is put off by a C section scar you are better off without him, he must be as shallow as a puddle.
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Ask the guys "tight pussy or no C section scar?" I can tell you the answer most will give !!!!
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Hunny, You are beautiful! The most amazing accomplishment of any woman is to bring a child into the world. If a man can't respect the fact that you created life, then he doesn't deserve you, and for sure someone you wouldn't want in your life. I have had 2 cesareans, luckily my scar isn't much more than a papercut, but even being like that, I don't even think about it, or considered it a flaw. I can say for certain if a man is planning to have sex with you, they aren't going to be searching your body for imperfections because they've already found enough reason to take you.
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Regular application of good quality coconut oil can really help to diminish your scars and will also leave your skin in wonderful condition...

I'm quite self conscious about my stretch marks. One day, my youngest daughter was lying on the floor on her back, watching tv. Her belly was exposed and I couldn't resist giving her a tickle and blowing a raspberry on her tummy.
She was laughing and giggling and it was very funny...
Then she said it was her turn to do it to me...

Reluctantly, I lay down and exposed my belly and she put her hands on it and gave me a look of wonder.

"Mummy, your tummy feels AMAZING!" She said before going on to explain that it felt like pizza dough when you roll it out...
A strange compliment, but she said I was really lucky to have a squishy belly then suggested that maybe a rolling pin could flatten it out a bit...

Been doing sit ups ever since ha ha ha
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It's no big deal.
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Your man should love you even more since your beautiful children came out of where those scars are.
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DeeNZ, Don't worry one bit about having scars from a C-section. Any man that is so shallow as to judge you by that is not anyone you want to have anything to do with either!

A real man wouldn't pay any attention to scars like that (or any other scars I might add). Everyone of us had one flaw here or there that we don't like about ourselves - it's only natural. But that doesn't make you any less beautiful anymore than missing a question on some test makes you stupid.

Scars mean that you have lived life for all of its bumps and bruises and survived. The "beauty" comes from how you survived it and what it has made you on the other end.
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it is not a big deal - it is more important if a woman is confident in her body. I think 97% of men embrace what women think are "imperfections". One idea is to wear one of those tube like shirts - could slide down to expose your breasts and just cover your belly - but again, that would only be if it made you feel more comfortable as I doubt your guy would care... think about it... if your are on top or he is... his pleasurable feelings are pretty much in charge - you could have a tattoo of raw intestines on your belly and his is not gonna care smile
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I'm quite self conscious about my stretch marks. One day, my youngest daughter was lying on the floor on her back, watching tv. Her belly was exposed and I couldn't resist giving her a tickle and blowing a raspberry on her tummy.
She was laughing and giggling and it was very funny...
Then she said it was her turn to do it to me...

Reluctantly, I lay down and exposed my belly and she put her hands on it and gave me a look of wonder.

"Mummy, your tummy feels AMAZING!" She said before going on to explain that it felt like pizza dough when you roll it out...
A strange compliment, but she said I was really lucky to have a squishy belly then suggested that maybe a rolling pin could flatten it out a bit...

Been doing sit ups ever since ha ha ha

Out of the mouth of babes!
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DeeNZ, Don't worry one bit about having scars from a C-section. Any man that is so shallow as to judge you by that is not anyone you want to have anything to do with either!

A real man wouldn't pay any attention to scars like that (or any other scars I might add). Everyone of us had one flaw here or there that we don't like about ourselves - it's only natural. But that doesn't make you any less beautiful anymore than missing a question on some test makes you stupid.

Scars mean that you have lived life for all of its bumps and bruises and survived. The "beauty" comes from how you survived it and what it has made you on the other end.


Now that is a great answer and spoken, IMHO, like a true man!
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I know its a horrible question, but im soooo pissed off, I hated by body before but now i hate it even more so with 2 previous c-sections neither by choice might i add, does not in anyway make me feel sexy or beautiful...

what are you guys thoughts on this, the afterwards scaring, does it really turn you off.... as you never see in porn these things got me thinking its a big no no

please be honest im soo torn up about this....

Thanks

Dee


I just wanted to add that c section scars can pale into insignificance compared to episiotomy scars...
I don't want to get too graphic, but babies sure can tear things up on the way out, whether it's "natural" or otherwise...
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My wife had two big babies after long labours, and a c section with our third. So she has lots of stretch marks, and a c section scar as well as an appendectomy scar, done when she was 4 months pregnant with our first, so it stretched a lot as well.
But so what! She's my woman, and we've spent years together loving each other since then.
If ypou have someone who is concerned about these, then he may not be worthy of you.
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Ok I find "Mommy Tummy" so sexy. What it represents is extremely hot. Any man who has an issue with this is no man at all.

Wear you tiger stripes, and scar with pride.
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"Mummy, your tummy feels AMAZING!" She said before going on to explain that it felt like pizza dough when you roll it out...
A strange compliment, but she said I was really lucky to have a squishy belly then suggested that maybe a rolling pin could flatten it out a bit...

Been doing sit ups ever since ha ha ha


That is soooooo cute! Kids can really make your day sometimes.

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Our son was born by section and I don't really notice the scar on her anymore but that's on someone I've been with for over twenty years who has had that scar for fifteen of them. Not sure if I'd feel differently if it was someone I was getting it on with for the first time but I have a few scars and blemishes of my own so I hope it wouldn't bother me if mine don't bother her.
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Not an issue with me. I will still kiss her tummy.
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yah its not soo much stretch marks i didnt add too much weight due to complications, just the scaring, the after care cant do some things as i used too.. i hated the scar before and i hate it now, plus the whole no exercises part i didn't get so yes alot of issues afterwards but as i keep sayin its only been 13 weeks
Yes im the small bitchy chick in the corner, set me off and man do you know about it !!!
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yah its not soo much stretch marks i didnt add too much weight due to complications, just the scaring, the after care cant do some things as i used too.. i hated the scar before and i hate it now, plus the whole no exercises part i didn't get so yes alot of issues afterwards but as i keep sayin its only been 13 weeks


As you can see, any guy worth his salt isn't going to care, but it's obviously really important how YOU feel...

Your body changes after childbirth (unless you're one of those bitches who just "pop" them out and spring back into shape - realistically though, most women don't)

I'd say that to some degree you are going to have to accept your "new" body (BTW DO try the coconut oil - it does make a huge difference and I am talking from experience here)...

As I see it, guys with a mature outlook aren't going to be concerned about a few stretch marks or scars (we do all have them, the things we feel self conscious about and honestly? I bet they seem much much worse to you than they would to anyone else)

Accept and love your new body, take joy in your wee baby - it's more about how you feel about yourself than how you actually look - most guys will tell you that when a woman is happy and confidant, it shines out of her... And THAT is a very attractive quality indeed!!

(also, it's worth getting in touch with other mums and new mums to talk about it - you'll see that they are all going through the same thing... That can really help)

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I know its a horrible question, but im soooo pissed off, I hated by body before but now i hate it even more so with 2 previous c-sections neither by choice might i add, does not in anyway make me feel sexy or beautiful...

what are you guys thoughts on this, the afterwards scaring, does it really turn you off.... as you never see in porn these things got me thinking its a big no no

please be honest im soo torn up about this....

Thanks

Dee
I really wouldn't worry about it. i know it's hard not to but, Most guys wouldn't have an issue with it.

Would you have a problem with a guy who was missing a testicle due to cancer? I dont think most women would.
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As you can see, any guy worth his salt isn't going to care, but it's obviously really important how YOU feel...

Your body changes after childbirth (unless you're one of those bitches who just "pop" them out and spring back into shape - realistically though, most women don't)

I'd say that to some degree you are going to have to accept your "new" body (BTW DO try the coconut oil - it does make a huge difference and I am talking from experience here)...

As I see it, guys with a mature outlook aren't going to be concerned about a few stretch marks or scars (we do all have them, the things we feel self conscious about and honestly? I bet they seem much much worse to you than they would to anyone else)

Accept and love your new body, take joy in your wee baby - it's more about how you feel about yourself than how you actually look - most guys will tell you that when a woman is happy and confidant, it shines out of her... And THAT is a very attractive quality indeed!!

(also, it's worth getting in touch with other mums and new mums to talk about it - you'll see that they are all going through the same thing... That can really help)



Ok im sorry Maz but that's not fair even though you know I adore you and worship ur writing.

I am one of those bitches its called breast feeding I have 3 kids and fed them all, many women don't, it sucks the fat out of you and is best for the babies, boosts their immune systems triplicate and pops you right back into shape. I have 3 kids and you have privy to my pics as we are friends and I did always fall back into shape I don't think its fair to call us bitches because we do we just do and in my case it was thru breast feeding.

That's not to say though that being petite I don't have the stretch marks ect I do I think any man who does not see them as war trophies or such needs to know how it bloody feels like to give birth and go through labour.

Ok my boobs have seen better days but it kept my kids healthy infact they are rarely sick at all.

As for Dee ur blokes an arsehole obviously a caesarean situation is different I haven't had one but even so who is back to normal after 13 weeks in any way shape or form? Any Dr in the UK will tell you that a woman should wait a year before becoming pregnant again it takes that long for the body to recover, how do I know this, I fell pregnant again 5 months after I had my son and the drs urged me to abort I refused and I don't ever regret my decision but I do suffer for it tbh my periods are hell but I wouldn't be without her. WTF is ur man moaning about sorry if this is rude but of u haven't given birth then well stands to reason ur pretty tight in the nether regions and what man thinks about scars in those circumstances ?? ( im straight btw just pointing this out)

Seriously any man who cares about such fickle things is undeserving of you and the blessed child you gave him, personally id give him a scar he'd never forget for even mentioning mine but that's just me

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Ok im sorry Maz but that's not fair even though you know I adore you and worship ur writing.

I am one of those bitches its called breast feeding I have 3 kids and fed them all, many women don't, it sucks the fat out of you and is best for the babies, boosts their immune systems triplicate and pops you right back into shape. I have 3 kids and you have privy to my pics as we are friends and I did always fall back into shape I don't think its fair to call us bitches because we do we just do and in my case it was thru breast feeding.

That's not to say though that being petite I don't have the stretch marks ect I do I think any man who does not see them as war trophies or such needs to know how it bloody feels like to give birth and go through labour.

Ok my boobs have seen better days but it kept my kids healthy infact they are rarely sick at all.

As for Dee ur blokes an arsehole obviously a caesarean situation is different I haven't had one but even so who is back to normal after 13 weeks in any way shape or form? Any Dr in the UK will tell you that a woman should wait a year before becoming pregnant again it takes that long for the body to recover, how do I know this, I fell pregnant again 5 months after I had my son and the drs urged me to abort I refused and I don't ever regret my decision but I do suffer for it tbh my periods are hell but I wouldn't be without her. WTF is ur man moaning about sorry if this is rude but of u haven't given birth then well stands to reason ur pretty tight in the nether regions and what man thinks about scars in those circumstances ?? ( im straight btw just pointing this out)

Seriously any man who cares about such fickle things is undeserving of you and the blessed child you gave him, personally id give him a scar he'd never forget for even mentioning mine but that's just me



Hold up - the "bitches" thing was said in jest!! However some women DO pop back into shape - I'm sure that in addition to a healthy lifestyle, it's a genetic thing... Other women don't heal quite as quickly and are sometimes not the same again after child. Also, after a c-section, it's not always easy or possible to breastfeed (and the whole BF thing is an entirely different thread)

I breastfed both of my kids too and it certainly did make a difference... However - I am not the same shape as I used to be, not by a long chalk... It affects us all in different ways... We all feel differently about it...

She never said anything about what her partner thought of it, so I don't know that it's fair to call him an arsehole? I think she was just wanting to know what guys in general felt about the scars after c-section?
(correct me if I'm wrong)

(and BTW - don't look to porn for a guideline on how your body "should" look!)
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Hold up - the "bitches" thing was said in jest!! However some women DO pop back into shape - I'm sure that in addition to a healthy lifestyle, it's a genetic thing... Other women don't heal quite as quickly and are sometimes not the same again after child. Also, after a c-section, it's not always easy or possible to breastfeed (and the whole BF thing is an entirely different thread)

I breastfed both of my kids too and it certainly did make a difference... However - I am not the same shape as I used to be, not by a long chalk... It affects us all in different ways... We all feel differently about it...

She never said anything about what her partner thought of it, so I don't know that it's fair to call him an arsehole? I think she was just wanting to know what guys in general felt about the scars after c-section?
(correct me if I'm wrong)

(and BTW - don't look to porn for a guideline on how your body "should" look!)


Yes Mazza, your right i never did mention my hubby is all of this, ppl are quick to presume hes at fault, when really its all in my head and that's the issue.. Will try the coconut oil method or tho im not fond of touching or anything in that area and its a no go zone for hubby so we will see thank you for your advice much appreciated... thank you to the guys who commented also, was interested to see what the response was, and how they actually feel about it all i get is you look ok babe well that is not an answer to me... smile
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And yes it was just a general question how guys felt about it , like if and that is a big IF I was ever to show another man my body, would he hate me for what is now there (as you dont ever see models or porn stars with these scars) ... it was just a general question, now I know that most guys are not bothered by that, I can try and remove those bad thoughts in my head smile
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When someone desires you and there is a loving connection, the scars and marks are not a factor. Sometimes our emotional scars won't let us enjoy the moment. Loving and accepting yourself is first. Finding someone who sees you and past the flaws is a treasure.
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DeeNZ, Don't worry one bit about having scars from a C-section. Any man that is so shallow as to judge you by that is not anyone you want to have anything to do with either!

A real man wouldn't pay any attention to scars like that (or any other scars I might add). Everyone of us had one flaw here or there that we don't like about ourselves - it's only natural. But that doesn't make you any less beautiful anymore than missing a question on some test makes you stupid.

Scars mean that you have lived life for all of its bumps and bruises and survived. The "beauty" comes from how you survived it and what it has made you on the other end.


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My first encounter with this was when my wife and I got together. My thoughts were how incredible it is. She however was embarrassed about it and after having had 2 more with my children it doesn't bother me at all. I think its a miracle of life that a woman can have a child either way, heck now some schedule to have a child that way.
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Your man should love you even more since your beautiful children came out of where those scars are.





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I have had two c-sections and I wear my scars with pride that I brought two beautiful babies into the word. So worth any scars.