Do any of you ever find it instinctive to submit or have rougher sex with a dominant male? I sometimes think about what kinds of raw animal instincts lay below the surface of us all.
Like in nature a male lion will pounce on a female and have his way with her. The lioness can struggle all she wants but she isn't going anywhere. Do any of you ever like a guy to just take you and have his way with you? Do you think this is instinct that you get off on submitting or even fighting back (mutual here, not talking against someones will) for awhile before giving in to him?
Do you ever role play or simulate getting ? I dunno, to me it seems like animal instincts play a role in our sex lives no matter how enlightened and civilized we think we are.
In order to know virtue, you must first become acquainted with vice.
- Donatien Alphonse Francois de Sade
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En vis mann slår aldri en hund i klubben med en stokk, fordi hunden vil vende rundt og biter mannens ballene av. hehehe had to laugh at this one me submit well that has never happened. I've been even up in the dominate department with some but usually I'm the dominate one. You forget the lioness does ALL THE HUNTING!!!
Bunny12
Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off! LOL very true! I didn't mean all women, but just a thought. I like aggressive women because I for what ever reason, rarely make the first move lol. However, during sex I tend to hold a womans arms above her head or hold her down sort of and I do it without thinking about it. I never noticed it for several years after I became sexually active until a long term gf told me how much it "turned her on when I hold her down and hold her arms/back of neck for leverage" as she put it.
And I don't mean really rough or against anyones will. I don't know if I make any sense here or if I'm totally out in left field on this. I tend to be somewhat passive at first until I feel comfortable that sex is where she wants to go (hence why I like women who make the choice for me lol).
But like I said its been my experience with women that they tend to enjoy "restraint" in a sense (I'm not talking about bondage, that's obvious!). For me it seems to be a deep feeling or urge because its not there on the surface but kinda bubbles up during sex on its own.
Anyways, I seem to be talking to myself here ;)
In order to know virtue, you must first become acquainted with vice.
- Donatien Alphonse Francois de Sade
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En vis mann slår aldri en hund i klubben med en stokk, fordi hunden vil vende rundt og biter mannens ballene av. A little restraint is great but it's because I'm letting you or I've told you to. Love to be grabbed by the hips.
Bunny12
Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off! The majority of women are a bit more submissive, and I'm sure it goes back to primal ties. Supposedly that's why I don't play well with other women, alpha-female type personality and all. More dominant to women, ridiculously submissive to men, all goes back to those lovely primal instincts.
I know it is instinctive to let a dominant male have his way with me during sex...but any other time...I am the chick that grabs the bull by the horns, looks him in the eye, and tell him to fuck off
I like to have control in the bedroom with women. With men... well. I only ever take them to the bedroom if I trust them 100 per cent because I know they'll try to run that ship. So I have to be happy with them taking control, otherwise they will have a fight on their hands haha
I think it is a natural instinct to 'submit' to men in the bedroom. But it's still about trust.
I am submissive but I only submit to true doms. I don't know if it is instinct, in my case it's a gut feeling... I can tell who's real or not, I can feel their vibes. Most of the so called Doms on lush are actually just regular guys who try to be kinky. My Master can make me drop to my knees, anytime, anywhere, for no reason, without even touching me. It's like he casts a spell on me, and I become his toy. So submitting is more than wild sex, it's letting someone you trust "own" you, all of you, body and soul, and control you... Much more than just rough play that vanilla people enjoy once in awhile.
Oh, I find that there is indeed a part of me that is instinctively submissive. Once Mr. Willie makes contact and finds his way in my feet have a habit of taking root. I cannot imagine that I am alone in this.
I can be both and have played both roles. it just depends on my mood and the man I'm with, however, more often than not, I do prefer and instinctively lean towards being more submissive. I like the feeling of giving up a bit of control especially because I tend to be a bit of a control freak in my everyday life. But like I've always said, variety is key.
i am not a fan of the the word "submit"...
but alas i dont do the whole dom/sub sex role play (though there is nothing wrong with that)
i like to be an equal....
each giving...each receiving.....
however if he likes it a bit rough...for..just a bit
i am a happy camper
Sometimes I like the guy to just take me and have his way with me. It can be a big turn on. But I am not sure if it is "Instinctive" since I dont want that all the time. Sometimes gentle is better, sometimes I like to be in control. But in general I like the guy to be in control or at least think he is. If I am letting him have his way with me, maybe I am the one who is actually in control!
There are likely as many submissive men as submissive women. I would think the same holds true for dominant men and women. Some men and women can switch roles and some prefer neither. Perhaps there is an event or environmental factor(s) that can explain dominant or submissive behavior. For others it's simply being open minded. So is it instinctive? probably to some degree from the history of humanity. Today, the D/s trait is so much more. IMHO
I think it is I know if a woman is dominant or agressive and push's I'm going home with her and to bed
no
i like to be in charge and i like him to be in charge
no submitting involved at all
just a bit of a change up
interesting question though!
I think it's hot to give in to those carnal desires.
My partner and I are really kinky with each other like that.
Always such a turn on to see a guy in such a primal state!
I've always been the one who likes my man to take matter into his own hands...
it all depends on the situation for me or the guy.
NIKKI YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN YOUR OPINION OF ANY ONE BEING TAKEN AGAINST THEIR WILL..MY WIFE & I had a very active sex life-- If one of us could think it up the other would play along..yet not once did a inter int any of our role playing....we all march to different drummers.
I have played at a number of ravish scenes with submissive female partners. The scene is a matter of feeling swept away. A woman being completely used, enjoyed and on an underlying level appreciated and cherished.
Rape is a crime of violence and abuse with the object to cause harm. I do not confuse them and in those terms have never done a scenario.
