Forum posts made by freakycactus

Topic The Use of the Word "Baby"
Posted 04 Feb 2012 08:22

I have always hated being called babe. It's a lazy way to ensure you don't forget someone's name. Other pet names aren't so bad, but babe makes me want to snarl at the person calling me it.

I'm coming round to baby, but it's a struggle, if said in the right way by the right person then it's not much of an issue, but still feels a little wrong.

Topic The Dom or Sub Test
Posted 30 Jan 2012 06:45

Highly submissive - hmmm.... interesting

Topic Lush V2 Bug List
Posted 15 Jan 2012 05:39

Although I've had a few PMs, comments and the like these last few days, I haven't received any notifications via email, which I usually do...
(I haven't changed my settings or anything)


I'm having the same problem.

Topic Intimidation
Posted 05 Jan 2012 02:52

I'm intimidated when I send bits to friends for them to read, when I submit it, when comments start coming through - it sometimes takes a while to read them. I calm down after the first few comments come through. I know I'm not up to the standard that lots of others here are, but people seem to enjoy what I write, and give it a month, I can even reread my work.

Topic What was your first vehicle you owned?
Posted 02 Dec 2011 08:18

I think it was something like this.... happy8

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_mroNrM_T2xw/TCJFzfTGqJI/AAAAAAAAB40/yQbPCOTlkwY/s1600/cozy_coupe325.jpg

I always wanted one of those *sigh*

Instead my first was a Nissan Micra, still is :)

Topic Spankings !
Posted 29 Nov 2011 06:36

Abigail...

Not sure who you are wanting a spanking from ... your post says "from my OH".

I believe you are wanting an over the knee (OTK) type of spanking. (or maybe more...) but depending on your partner ... that is a good place to start. If you can talk about it with your partner and discuss what he/she wants that is a good idea.

Most OTK spankings are done with the hand only. Not to say a paddle or ruler or other type of device can not be used.

Dressed in blouse, bra, skirt, panties, stockings and heels is a very erotic way to start a spanking. Your partner (if sensual and experienced) would most likely begin spankings through your clothing with rubbing in between ...

He/she would most likely lift your skirt up and pull your panties down to your mid-thighs for spanking your ass directly ...

The sky is the limit here ... it all depends on your partner....

Hope this helps.

OH = other half :)

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 22 Nov 2011 08:02

http://www.starchef.com/images/dr_7a4bfc98302255ba1867f4fdb618717e.jpg

Topic What are you listening to right now?
Posted 22 Nov 2011 01:11

Pink Floyd - Money

Topic Where, What and with whom?
Posted 18 Nov 2011 06:49

On a boat in the middle of the ocean, nothing but water and sky in sight, curled up with him under a blanket looking at the stars.

Topic which has a better effect for you ladies?
Posted 15 Nov 2011 08:49

I prefer being on my back, it makes it easier for them to use fingers at the same time.

Topic What has surprised you about Lushstories.com? A question for readers and writers alike.
Posted 14 Nov 2011 16:59

How much it has helped me discover about myself.

Topic small cocks
Posted 14 Nov 2011 16:41

Well there's small and then there's ludicrously tiny. I had a flatmate once and I swear his was no bigger than my little finger. Now granted that was not erect, but I don't see that anything that microscopic was going to enlarge significantly enough for me to know when it was actually in play.

And no...I never went there. So I really can't say. Actually most of my partners have been pretty average sized. I see nothing wrong with an average penis. It's the bloke on the other end of it that needs to be extraordinary.

Ever heard the phrase, 'I'm a grower not a shower'? For some it's true. Flaccid they may seem tiny, but they can sure as hell grow into something very satisfying love7

Topic What are you listening to right now?
Posted 14 Nov 2011 15:31

Less Than Jake - All My Best Friends Are Metalheads

Topic Can't access my profile?
Posted 14 Nov 2011 06:26

A couple of other people have mentioned the same issue on the V2 bug list

Topic What is the most important "life lesson" you have learned?
Posted 14 Nov 2011 06:11

Be true to yourself.

Live your life and enjoy yourself - smile and laugh as often as you can.

As my Dad always used to say, shit happens - deal with it. Surround yourself with people you love, and who love you, and you can survive pretty much anything.

And yes, try to do as much for yourself as you can, but you should ask for help when you need it. I'm still learning this one, and will struggle on and on without asking for help.

Topic Favorite little things in relationships
Posted 14 Nov 2011 05:46

The shared smiles when you look at each other, whether it's catching each other's eye across a crowded room, over the table as you're eating a meal, or lying in bed together all snuggled up.

The moment his arms close around you, and everything else fades away.

Topic Where do you like the cum?
Posted 09 Nov 2011 01:38

If a guy cums on me then I prefer it around my stomach, because it's in the best place to be rubbed over my body and on my pussy. My absolute favourite place for someone to cum is inside my pussy, yes it gets messy, but that's part of the fun.

Honestly, I'm really not that fussy when it comes to cum, I just want it

Topic About time we had a hot guys post
Posted 08 Nov 2011 06:53

http://www.fantasybooksandmovies.com/image-files/edward-cullen-twilight.gif

Topic Have you shown your work to your other half?
Posted 08 Nov 2011 02:22

When I was with my ex, he read my stories, and was the first person I went to for feedback. It had been his idea for me to join Lush in the first place, so there was never any reason to hide anything from him.

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 07 Nov 2011 02:11

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-ELYJ8NmDEUE/TdRZL2IUiDI/AAAAAAAACfM/oMlzfb1cTp8/s1600/travelling%2Baround%2Bthe%2Bworld.jpg

Topic Are there different levels of unfaithfulness ?
Posted 07 Nov 2011 01:11

No, nope, not even a little bit. Cheating is cheating, if he's willing to betray me in that way once then I would really struggle to trust him again - and what is a relationship without trust? And as much as the act itself would bother me, what I'd have a bigger problem with, is the fact that it got to the stage in our relationship where things were bad enough he'd seriously considered cheating (clearly enough to do it), and he didn't come and talk about the issues with me.

If it turned out he'd only done it because the opportunity came up and he'd gone for it thinking he wouldn't get caught, he'd have to get out door quick, because there would be a hell of a lot of stuff flying at his head.

Topic What are you listening to right now?
Posted 06 Nov 2011 16:40

Wicked Soundtrack - As Long As You're Mine

Topic Reader's Pet Peeves
Posted 06 Nov 2011 07:17

Phrases like, 'love tunnel', 'love cave', or the latest little gem I've just read, 'juicy jugs'. They stop me from being able to take the story seriously.

Text speak - you have the use of a keyboard, and you're nowhere near to hitting the word limit, spell your words properly.

Lack of punctuation and over punctuation. And the overuse of full stops. Stop it, it makes my head hurt!

Impossible movements, 'Standing behind her he bent her over and pushed her face into the carpet, before kissing her hard on the mouth' - really? Is one of them a contortionist? Or does he have magical powers so he can move his lips onto inanimate objects like carpet?

Generally it's any story that leaves me reaching for a red pen, or wanting to roll up a newspaper and hit the writer on the nose with it.

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 06 Nov 2011 06:53

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_6KkDLpFU1GY/TDxtqISG-yI/AAAAAAAAAFM/CuUu0PyYgUg/s1600/CluelessStill11.jpg

Topic What are you listening to right now?
Posted 06 Nov 2011 04:53

Fallout Boy - Dance, Dance

Topic Turn ons, turn offs?
Posted 06 Nov 2011 02:28

Tall (6'+), confident, intelligent, funny, doesn't take themselves too seriously, a great smile, lovely eyes and the ability to give amazing hugs - put a man like that in a suit and my knees'll turn to jelly.

Ultimately, the rest (job, hair length, body type) doesn't really matter. Although, I have found since joining Lush that I have a thing for southern men - didn't see that one coming.

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 05 Nov 2011 03:28

http://nerdnirvana.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/06/hungover-staff.jpg

Topic virgins
Posted 04 Nov 2011 05:46

Well ok, i see your point and im with you, but the thread tends to indicate that the question is "do you find virgins more attractive than everybody else", or at least thats the they way it looked to me, and the simple answer to that is no, i dont. But that attitude of waiting for somebody you actually want to be with is a good thing, so im down with that. Hell i didnt loose my V plates until i was like 16/17, so i was hardly a teenage stud, but i have a hard time with people being tormented my their parents about sex, or religious hysteria telling people when to have sex. Having sex is entirely on that person, and if a virgin wanted to have sex with me, and i liked her, i happily treat her the same as every other girl, and if she was worth it and i wanted to be with her, i would of course be happy help her get better at it and to stick with her. But i still stand by what i said about inexperience being unattractive, which i thought was what the topic was asking for.

Preferring experience to inexperience is fine, I have no issue with that. What got to me was the rant that followed, and as much as I understand where you're coming from, there are less inflammatory ways of putting it.

i would of course be happy help her get better at it

Who knows, maybe they'd teach you a little something too ;)

Topic virgins
Posted 04 Nov 2011 04:55

i must admit, virgins dont float my boat at all, I like a girl with experience and high sex drive, they need to want it, and that comes from past encounters and enjoying it more and more. I think this is kind of a misplaced fantasy, imo theres is something not right with an adult who is virgin, dont give me all that "saving herself" bullshit, i actually think its not really natural (you can tell i have a vendetta against this relgion BS). Inexperienced people dont have a fucking clue what they are doing, and im sorry there is nothing attractive about that.

I didn't realise that all adult virgins had been waiting because of religion dontknow my mistake.

In all seriousness, that's a harsh attitude to take. Lots of people wait to find someone who is worthy of giving their virginity to, and honestly, more people should.

You say people should experiment as soon as they feel ready, who are you to judge when they feel ready?

And really - you meet a girl, you get on really well together and you really like her then you find out that she's a virgin. Are you going to tell her that there's something 'not right' with her?

Topic How to know when you're too picky?
Posted 03 Nov 2011 11:12

The most important thing is to trust your instincts. Ignore what your friends say and trust your own judgement. If you've chatted to someone enough to find out about their interests, then you should have an idea of whether or not something is there. Even if it's just a flicker of something, or they intrigue you in some way.

I've just let my friends convince me to give someone I don't feel a connection with 'another chance', I did, and now I know to ignore them in the future.

A strong connection is rare, but it's worth waiting for.