Forum posts made by freakycactus

Topic turning down your husband/partner for sex, what is the meaning of it?
Posted 30 Jan 2013 02:54

I'm utterly exhausted, or ill, or really upset about something, or so stressed out I can't relax enough to enjoy it or even to fully participate. Those are the only reasons I've ever turned him down.

Topic What do girls notice first?
Posted 29 Jan 2013 14:17

Height and hair, after that I'll notice his eyes, smile and hands (hands are important!) but at first glance, it's all about the height and hair. If he's tall, I'll take a second look, haha.

In all seriousness, it's not a conscious decision, it's just what I notice.

Topic caught masturbating
Posted 29 Jan 2013 13:42

Talk to her, ask her what's going on.

Is there anything going on that might be putting her off? Does she have a lot on her plate at the moment? I know if I'm stressed out about something I can struggle to relax enough to have sex. Are you helping her out enough around the house? Is there anything you can do to help her out?

Any one of a number of things could be going on here, talk to her, communication is key.

Topic Kelvin Okafor pencil drawings amaze art critics
Posted 29 Jan 2013 13:32

It's incredible, jaw dropping and, just, wow.

Topic Spitting on genitals during sex .......
Posted 29 Jan 2013 12:27

Thanks for the replies. I will say though that if you force spit to leave your mouth and direct it, you are not simply "drooling", you are spitting. I fully understand a "power spit" that a lot here instantly associate with the term "spitting", but to me, there is a clear difference between drooling, and gathering up your saliva in your mouth and parsing your lips and pushing it out in a slow but controlled aim... also called... spitting. ;) Drool simply flows, spitting involves a direct involvement of pushing it out of your mouth.

I don't direct it, I don't even push it out, I just part my lips and little and it flows out 'cos of gravity and whatnot. So, you see, we agree.

Topic What is your real age? (test)
Posted 29 Jan 2013 11:45

43!!!! That's 18 years older than my real age, fuck!

Topic Giving Head
Posted 29 Jan 2013 11:00

Most of the time he's laid on the bed and I'm in between his legs, I do love that position but I prefer to be on my knees. I love to look up at him when I'm on my knees and its more comfortable

Topic Spitting on genitals during sex .......
Posted 29 Jan 2013 09:02

LOL Indeed "hocking a loogie" is NOT cool. But I don't think that is what we were talking about here. ;) If a woman lets her saliva gently flow from her parsed lips, and it falls on the cock to make a blowjob or handjob better.... she just spit. ;)

I disagree, the first image that springs to mind when I read the question was someone spitting onto my pussy. Not dribbling, not drooling but spitting, aiming and firing a load of spit onto me. As others have said, I've seen it in porn, I've had someone do it to me before - it felt disgusting. I've never spat on a man's cock but I have drooled, because if he's close to cumming then I'm not pausing my rhythm to swallow the saliva in my mouth, and I can't hold it in there forever.

There's a huge difference between the two acts.

Topic Kidnapping victim says, "best thing that happened to me"
Posted 29 Jan 2013 07:44

That's an incredible story, to go through so much and not only come out the other side, but to be able to look back to it more objectively, is amazing.

What a brave woman and what a fantastic foster family.

Topic Spitting on genitals during sex .......
Posted 29 Jan 2013 06:30


Now, that said, I completely differentiate drooling. Drool - good. Spit - saliva forcefully leaving the mouth propelled by air and enhanced by sound - BAD.

I couldn't agree with you more, I'm more than happy for drool to be involved

Topic What are the Most Attractive Interests?
Posted 29 Jan 2013 03:39

From the list you gave, the most attractive to me is domestic. There's something about knowing he's a good dad to his kids, coming home and finding that he's put a wash load on so I don't have to, knowing that he's happy to help and doesn't expect me to do everything around the house. I love it and it makes me want him even more than I already do.

After that, I love that we have so much in common but also like different things. We can introduce each other to new things and sometimes we can relax and do something we know we'll both enjoy.

Topic The man is a lot overweight and not the best looking but you hear....
Posted 29 Jan 2013 03:22

And in answer to the op, no I'm not going to fuck someone I'm not attracted to because I've heard he has a big cock. If I'm not attracted to someone then it wouldn't be fun for me and what's the point if it won't be fun?

Topic The man is a lot overweight and not the best looking but you hear....
Posted 29 Jan 2013 03:13



Is it true that as guys gain weight their cocks shrink? Or does it only appear that way since they can't see it anymore?

It's called buried penis syndrome and it can happen when a man gains so much weight that the fat buries the penis. Weight isn't the only cause but it seems to be happening more and more as the number of obese people goes up.

I've seen it happen, a guy I was with gained about 6st while we were together and he lost at least an inch. Well, it was still there but it had been buried by the fat.

Topic age difference...
Posted 29 Jan 2013 02:43

The biggest age gap was 28 years older than me. I wouldn't say I have a thing for older guys but I've never gone for younger guys.

Topic neighbor female flirting with your husband and caught by you whats your reaction?
Posted 27 Jan 2013 15:50

It depends on how I'm feeling, if its a good day then I might join in the conversation or leave them to it. She can flirt as much as she likes, I trust him completely.

If it catches me unaware then I'd subtly make it clear that he is mine and I'm not happy about what's happening. You know the sort of thing I mean, put my arm around him, be sure to say things like, 'we think', 'we feel', 'we did the same thing', and I'd find a way to end the conversation quickly so we could both leave.

If its a bad day then I'd be giving him lots of meaningful looks to tell him I'm not happy, and I'd end it all very, very quickly. I'd never do anything too extreme because even when I feel jealous I know that I trust him completely, the jealousy is my issue and not his.

Topic have you ever done or tried shower sex
Posted 25 Jan 2013 07:18

Only once or twice, I'd love to try it again though.

Topic What is the ideal penis size?
Posted 25 Jan 2013 07:15

I always smile at these questions and the responses. The truth is, don't worry about it. Women always point out how big dicks can be attached to bad lovers and they use that to show how small to average guys can be fantastic lovers... well.... how about this for a change? Guys with big cocks CAN and often ARE great lovers too! lol And guys with small to average cocks are often times TERRIBLE lovers and can't satisfy anyone. Same with girth.

I just get tired of "pumping up small guys" while slamming "bigger guys". And yes, that is how it comes across time and again. ;) So please folks, think about what you post and how it might look to others.

People seem to think it is an all or nothing thing. There are plenty of guys out there that are well endowed who are great lovers, and they ALSO use their fingers, tongues, toys, etc.

Guys... stop obsessing over penis size!

(It often comes across much like if guys kept saying women with big tits are stupid, or that if you work out you are an idiot, etc.)

The two biggest guys I've been with were both 10"+, one was fantastic and one was good enough that we were fuck buddies for a few months.

The best lover I have ever had is my current boyfriend, he's a great size and shape - he fits perfectly inside me. But what makes the sex so mind blowing? Him!

Topic Do you enjoy being bitten?
Posted 25 Jan 2013 07:09

Nipples, clit, neck, earlobes, bum, inner thigh. I love being bitten, sometimes lightly, sometimes hard.

Topic Spitting on genitals during sex .......
Posted 25 Jan 2013 06:45

Personally, it's a huge turn off. I find spitting anywhere other than in the sink while you brush your teeth, disgusting.

Having said that, the thought of someone spitting in my mouth to show their dominance over me is quite hot.

Topic Misleading Avatars
Posted 25 Jan 2013 02:35

There is a definite advantage if you're an author and have av of a sexy woman.

Go to buy a magazine; the ones aimed at men have beautiful women on the covers, the ones aimed at women have beautiful women on the covers. There's a reason for this.

NUMBERS GEEK-ERY ALERT

Ok, I did a tiny bit of analysis to see if I could back this up. I took a random sample of three pages of story links from about a week ago, I didn't count the Incest stories because they attract an abnormally high amount of votes compared to other catergories.

Total sample: 40 stories

Avatar No of stories No of votes Average votes per story
Default red male 5 33 6.6
Default red female 3 23 7.7
Miscellaneous 17 185 10.8
Male 10 114 11.4
Female 15 241 16.1


A very small sample but certainly enough to lend weight to what most people would assume to be true

So, before I publish another story I should change my AV back to the picture of my boobs? thumbright

Topic Frankly, it has been so long...I've forgotten
Posted 25 Jan 2013 01:21

I'm on the pill but I still get hornier the week after my period. I say hornier because I am pretty horny most of the time.

Topic What do you find sexy on a man?
Posted 25 Jan 2013 01:15

I agree with the others who said suit. There is nothing sexier on a man than a suit. My boyfriend seems to find it quite funny, I find him sexy anyway but as soon as he puts a suit on I don't leave him alone.

Topic Replying to the Moderator who approves your story?
Posted 24 Jan 2013 02:28

I didn't at first but then I realised just how much time and effort they were putting in, and since then I always send a quick thank you message.

Topic what is the sexiest thing a Dom/sub has ever done/said to you?
Posted 24 Jan 2013 02:23

Getting me to the edge of an orgasm and telling me that I'm not allowed to cum yet, then continuing to hold me on edge.

His hand around my throat, it lets me know exactly who is in charge.

Bending me over, exposing my arse to him and giving me a good, hard spanking.

Although, nothing beats feeling his lips against my ear as he says my favourite word, 'Mine.'

Topic are you embarrassed about any features of your pussy?
Posted 23 Jan 2013 08:12

I get self conscious about it sometimes, I like how it feels and tastes, it's just if I ever look at it really closely with a mirror. I've never had any complaints, in fact, I usually receive plenty of comments, then again, these are from guys who want to fuck me or have fucked me, so they're opinions are biased!

Topic how many times have you fallen in love on lush
Posted 22 Jan 2013 10:00

More than I should have

Topic Missionary Sex
Posted 22 Jan 2013 08:03

It's my favourite. With my legs wrapped around him holding him deep inside me, his hands pinning mine to the bed above my head, his lips pressed against mine in a breathless kiss - what's not to love?

Topic A Sad Day A Hard Goodbye
Posted 22 Jan 2013 02:38

Ok, so educate me here. I'm not into this lifestyle, nor do I really understand it (or its appeal), so I really have to ask this question. Personally, I would not be a slave to anyone, nor would I feel the need to have that much control over another person. Sure, to belong to someone, submit to someone sexually, or be dominant towards them, I get all that, but I know this is on a whole other level.

So my question, why cant a "slave" be in this type of relationship yet still carry on an everyday relationship with the rest of their family (mum, dad, siblings, friends, even a job etc)?? Why would you make someone chose between you or their family or them feel the need to make that choice?? To me, this is how this reads. Maybe I got is ass backwards, but it sounds like an extremely selfish thing to do and over the top controlling (which I know is the point), but on the other hand, letting them go is extremely unselfish. No wonder I'm confused. Look, I'm not judging people on the lifestyles they chose to lead, I'm just trying to understand what the real deal is here. To me, if I love someone, yes, I expect them to be loyal to me as I am to them, but I would not make them feel like they need to ask for permission to do every little thing, and I have seen it in the chat rooms. "Can I masturbate Mistress?" I mean....

This post is probably going to piss a lot of people off because of my personal views, and if it does, I apologize, its not my intention. I simply would like to understand why this person had to make that choice. Thanks..

I don't know about the situation to be able to give you the answer, but from what I have seen of PM online and from his OP here, I suspect that he wasn't the one making her choose.

We don't know the details here and it's none of our business but generally, there's no reason why a slave would have to choose between their master and their family, if anything, the relationship with their master would improve other parts of their life, including family relationships.

As for why it happened here? I don't know, it's got nothing to do with me so I have no need to know, I'm just sorry for them that it happened and I wish them both luck for their futures.

Topic Crazy little things about you! <3
Posted 21 Jan 2013 04:24

I hate the sound of other people eating. Most of the time it's not so bad but if I think about it too much I find an excuse to leave