Topic Are You A Different Person When Drunk?
10 Jul 2012 03:02
I don't really turn into a different person, it depends what I'm doing and who I'm with. Generally, I get happy, instead of worrying how I look to others I just relax and enjoy myself. I love to close my eyes in the middle of a club and just move to the music, it feels as though there's no one else there and I just feel free. I can also get quite horny and I'm a bit more confident.
There used to be a bigger difference between drunk Cactus and sober Cactus than there is now, within the last year I've become more relaxed and have been enjoying myself more when I'm sober, I just giggle more when I'm drunk.
Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
09 Jul 2012 11:36
How about an option to sign is as invisible? Being bombarded by pokes, chat requests, and online messages can be a bit overwhelming, especially if aren't feeling all that social at the moment but don't wanna be rude.
Account > settings > online status > Who can see you? Change to block all (invisible)
06 Jul 2012 02:29
I don't know if it would turn me on but I would try it with the right guy if it was something he was really into. As for my reaction, I wouldn't be freaked out, I'd be calm, ask a few questions and think it over.
Topic If you were Aladdin...
04 Jul 2012 04:03
Good health for my nieces, they've been through so much already, they deserve a long healthy life.
Topic fingering your ass
04 Jul 2012 03:59
Yes I have, I love the feeling of something in my arse. Now if I indulge in some anal play on my own, I tend to use a butt plug. It's nothing like you expect it to be and if you're just starting out use lots of lube and take it slow.
Topic Guys and Breasts
02 Jul 2012 15:52
I would take an A cup cutie over some double D breasted cow anytime.
When I was at my smallest, I was 9st 3lbs, very fit and healthy, eating all the right foods, exercising regularly and keeping myself active in general, and I was a natural 32DD. Nothing remotely cow-like about me.
I'm a little bigger than that now and even now I certainly don't resemble a cow, and I'm still a natural DD.
Topic google your lush username
02 Jul 2012 07:33
I'm a band apparently, you can find my music on myspace.
I did like the picture
My Lush life doesn't appear until page 2 of the results.
Topic Would you like to be able to kno who has viewed your profile?
01 Jul 2012 12:32
I voted No. I can't see what I'd get out of it other than slightly disturbed by people visiting 20 times a day.
I can't see how it would improve my lush experience, unless I was aggressively marketing my page and wanted to see what strategies brought the most eyeballs to my page. If I ever get like that, feel free to call me a cunt.
Also I wouldn't want people to feel like they're being watched while on my profile.
Can I call you a cunt anyway?
Topic Would you like to be able to kno who has viewed your profile?
01 Jul 2012 12:05
I voted no because I can imagine it causing a lot of arguments among some. I'd check too much to see who'd been looking at mine and then overthinking it, not to mention, I don't want some people to see I've been viewing their profile. They might realise I'm secretly stalking them
Topic dom - sub
01 Jul 2012 07:01
None of which you talked about is extreme. Some of his posts are just....well odd so take it with grain of salt.
Haha, I do :) If anything, I imagine, the majority of my experience so far has been fairly sedate, because he was training me and easing me into things, it's a shame we were unable to continue.
Topic Nipple Clamps or Other Bondage
30 Jun 2012 15:25
You might want to check out this part of the forum - I think you'll like it there :)
Topic Submissive Guys
30 Jun 2012 14:58
I don't find submissive men strange. I understand the urge to be dominated and used as I'm a sub, that means I prefer being with a dominant man, or ideally, a Dom.
Topic dom - sub
30 Jun 2012 14:51
Um...Okay. Thats a little extreme dontcha think? I mean I wear a collar for my mistress and may even get a small tat but I don't clamp nothing on my cock or nopples. Not judging you or your master tho so no disrespect or offense meant. As far as bieng told when to cum well...
Unfortunately, life got in the way so I am without a Master.
Nipple clamps were something new to me, he was easing me into using them and the set he gave me have provided me with a great deal of pleasure. That might be in part because I enjoy the pain, it's the same with being spanked, whether it's my arse, thighs or breasts receiving the spanking, it hurts and I don't know how much more I can take but I love it, and I really miss being trained to be able to take harsher punishments.
When I submitted to him part of our agreement was that my orgasms were for his pleasure, I could only cum with his permission. If I wanted to masturbate and cum I would ask for permission, sometimes he gave me it. There were also times I would be given tasks to complete, my reward for completing my task was usually an orgasm, the task might involve cumming. And if we were together or talking on the phone, he would tell me to cum. Until I had his permission I had to control myself.
As for being extreme - nothing I've written seems extreme to me, it seems perfectly normal and highly desirable. I miss being owned.
Topic dom - sub
30 Jun 2012 08:20
1. Do you enjoy the sub role? Yes
2. Why do you think it turns you on? It seems to come naturally, I've always preferred a man to take control in the bedroom, over time this developed from wanting a dominant man to wanting a Dom.
3. Do you remember how young you were the first time you had these thoughts? Most of my life.
4. How far do you like the scenario to go? How much of your daily life would you like controlled, for instance being given tasks to perform at work, or going shopping and having him pick out things to buy? Certain tasks would be fun but I'm not sure I could go for a 24/7 Dom/sub relationship. Being ordered to wear a butt plug to work, having to cum so many times at work, having to wear nipple clamps, being told what to wear when we meet, etc, I would be more than happy to do and have done most in the past.
Topic BDSM 101
28 Jun 2012 15:40
to me it seems like there is so much trust involved... if you have trust issues is this lifestyle a less than positive thing?
With the right person it's still scary to trust them so completely. It's also incredibly freeing to do it and to realise that it's ok to trust them and to give yourself to them, because they'll look after you and the last thing they want to do is betray that trust you've placed in them.
28 Jun 2012 09:04
It's not a shyness thing. I'm a friendly, chatty person. If someone invades my personal space and makes me feel uncomfortable I become all but monosyllabic.
When you meet someone who's worth getting to know, like the guy from the week before, you'll feel more comfortable with them and you'll talk more. Which you did.
When you do find someone and start a relationship, when it comes to the sex they should make you feel comfortable to be around them, naked in front of them and to be able to talk about what you enjoy and don't enjoy, as well as fantasies. That doesn't happen straight away but it will come in time.
As for not feeling comfortable to be yourself in front of your friends, you should be able to be yourself around them. Is it because you feel they won't accept you or because you have confidence issues? If they can't accept you for who you are then are they really friends?
28 Jun 2012 08:37
Trust me, when you've had an orgasm you'll know.
Topic Do women like to talk dirty to their man
22 Jun 2012 06:45
I like to talk dirty to those Indian Microsoft scammers. Makes them hang on longer, waste their money and they don't get what they want. haha.
They've rang me four times now, I'll try this next time!
Topic Second Chance
21 Jun 2012 15:41
There are times I would love to go back and kick my ex out the morning I buried my dad's ashes. It was an emotional day for me and I needed him to be there for me and instead, I ended up comforting him! He was upset because in the September, it was July, I'd be going back to uni to start second year, which would mean that I'd be 145 miles away from him. I stayed with him for another four years.
I understand that we learn as we live and if I changed my past I wouldn't be the person I am today, and I like me. At the same time, I wonder if I could have ended the relationship much sooner than I did and still learned the same lessons from it. Perhaps I needed to hit rock bottom to truly see how bad things were and to recognise how unhealthy and toxic the relationship had become. Besides, if I had ended it sooner, I wouldn't have grown so close to an old friend and we wouldn't be planning to travel around Australia next year.
No, I wouldn't change anything. There have been a lot of ups and downs, there have been some truly awful times I never want to relive but they've all led me here, and I'm excited to see what happens next.
Topic Interest in You v. Your Writing
19 Jun 2012 03:52
Apart from the first story I had published on Lush, there is a piece of me in every story and I know that some think I reveal too much of myself through my writing. As others have said, I don't reveal my whole self in my stories, I show certain pieces of me, like the nervous girl talking to herself and she's walking to meet the man who may become her Master, the girl who swears at herself out of frustration, or the horny girl who loves sex and likes a man to take control. I don't think that my stories reveal more of me than I'm willing to share with most people I talk to.
I'm getting pickier about who I'm willing to open myself up to. 90% of people who get in touch will find out very little about me, that special 10% find out more and maybe half of them will get to know more than one side of me.
When I write I have my starting position in mind, from there the story develops, usually not quite in the way I first imagined it. My stories have some basis in reality, there's some personal experience, embellishment, imagination and a bit of fantasy thrown in too. I write what I know, it's too much of a struggle to write something unknown, although, I may try it one day.
And yes, I too get the, 'I loved your story, I'd love to get to know you better' messages, it's the same as above, my response depends how it's been worded, what mood I'm in and what their profile is like.
Sorry this is so rushed I'm running late for work!