Topic No private chat
Posted 10 Sep 2012 07:27
It depends on the situation why certain Dom/mes have this rule. To be in a D/s relationship you have to have trust, it's not that the Dom/me doesn't trust the sub, but as many of the women here know some of the men (and women) here can be rather persistent. It doesn't matter if the Dom/me places the rule or if the sub asked for it like Anakara did, for most it's another level of protection from other lush users that could be harassing them. Even if you tell someone you don't want to private chat they don't always listen, I found that more people listen if you say that you are not allowed.
In my case I wouldn't want to cheat on my Dom but the no private rule helps remove some of the temptation and makes it harder for other men to make me feel guilty about something that makes me happy.
Topic Collars.. Why are they so important?
Posted 09 Jul 2012 22:55
I don't know anything about you two or your relationship but I completely agree with everything people have said. If it is the physical collar around your neck that has you feeling degraded or humiliated, you should try getting a different kind of collar to start out with. I used to have a collar but was unable to wear one around my neck or constantly wear another type of jewelry so I wore an ankle bracelet as my collar. Something different could help you get used to the idea of wearing something for him. It's nice having just a subtle reminder of his love. Depending on your situation you could wear a collar around your neck only when you are with him, or over time work your way up to wearing a traditional collar. Some couples may choose never to have a traditional collar but it sounds like he might like you in it (ke)